To think I am naive.

[Bashfulbun]

After a conversation with my sister, I wonder if a am naive. I asked her to help me unravel a work situation with a man I work with. I believe he is being friendly . She says I am naive. We chat and laugh and have fun during the day . There is touching of arms and backs and hugging at times . Glancing, watching when I speak and I see him watching when he doesn’t know I can, if that makes sense .he seeks me out, asks my professional and personal opinion on problems he has and takes advice . He says nice things about my appearance and noticed new hair, weight loss , clothes etc . He is physically always beside me in the canteen and boardroom situations . He texts me out of work hours just light conversation ... films, music etc. Lately though the contact has increased in and out of work and he has been texting saying he missing our friendship at weekends .am I being naive to think that this is solid friendship or has he developed feelings. Thanks for reading this .ps we have worked together for a number of years and the friendship gradually got closer. He has never given me reason to think he is romantically interested

Oh come on ...really

I can see why people think I am being naive but to know him is to know that he can be inappropriate at times in many ways . He is emotional and in touch with his feelings and lacks any kind of filter. I could imagine him saying these things to any woman in his life eg sister friend etc . That is why I cannot figure him out.perhaps he sees me as a sister ? I will stop sending the photos. That creeped me out a little

I would find his attentions very creepy indeed.

He really is a very pleasant person and a lovely friend. I think that I slept walked my way into this somewhat . I don’t see myself as very attractive or interesting but he for some reason does but only comments in a passing way . That is why he could easily see me as a sister figure and it could all be very innocent which is why i asked of i was naive in your opinion s.

You know he doesn't see you as a sister figure, nobody gives gooey eyes and compliments their sister while making every excuse to touch her... Nor do men do that to their male friends unless they're gay. He's also not a friend, friends talk about their private lives with each other.

He is enjoying the flirtation. If he was really into you, he'd make himself single and ask you out. He sounds like he's looking for a work fling though.

I wouldn't trust an attached man who behaves as he does. If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you.

I am conscious of
Coming across as like a twat . I am uncomfortable writing some of the stuff
That he does and says as it might appear boastful which I am not. I am the other way entirely . In my honest opinion I think he kind of looks up to me .i feel uncomfortable saying that because he has no logical reason to do that whatsoever . I guess I have had tragedy in my family and many setbacks but so have millions of others. He is fascinated that I am strong and independent and am not bothered about people’s thoughts about me. I just get on with my own life . I don’t tolerate any shittyness from anyone and try to keep positive and always have something to look forward to. This is not being a sting believe me. I have been terribly hard on myself on the past .im older bow and have real life stuff to contend with so I don’t sweat the small stuff, as a rule. His compliments to me would be based largely on my personality and character. How he wishes he could meet someone like me, about how he admires my traits etc. He has thanked me many times for helping him to become stronger, more confident in his personal and professional life , and they are all kind things to say of course. I took them at face value but it’s when I spoke to my sister , she thought my head was stick in the sand and this is verging on obsession in her eyes , which is when I panicked a little and began to analyse the whole thing . Am I making sense ? I really hope that posters don’t think I am being self indulgent .i really am not that type of person. . I just want to know or try to understand. Thanks