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To ask for a virtual hug?

34 replies

Dancer12345 · 29/04/2019 13:19

I suffer from anxiety and low mood. Have felt rubbish the past few days. Am overanalysing every text (or lack of) from friends, reading into things that rationally I know probably aren’t true.
I’m having one of those days where I’m constantly on the verge of tears, if I’m not crying that is. I know tomorrow is another day and hopefully will be brighter, and I also know logically that I have so much to be grateful for and happy about, but I still need a hug. Sad

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HolyMilkBoobiesBatman · 29/04/2019 13:22

Hugs OP Flowers

Monday’s suck at the best of times and anxiety is a real bitch sometimes.

Try not to overanalyse, I’m sure if your friends knew you needed some reassurance they’d be right there with you, but sometimes we’re so wrapped up in ourselves we take for granted those around us, that’s all. X

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Dancer12345 · 29/04/2019 14:51

Thanks HolyMilkBoobiesBatman Rationally I know you’re right, but my anxious, low brain is telling me otherwise!

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Gramgram · 29/04/2019 15:44

Hug and Flowers. Hope you soon feel better, maybe try a walk. Be kind to yourself.

sockatoe · 29/04/2019 15:55

Huge virtual hug. Anyone you can ring for a chat?

TheMaddHugger · 29/04/2019 15:57

Dancer12345((((((Big soft Hugs))))) 🌺💐🌺

Armadillostoes · 29/04/2019 16:00

Hugs OP-It will get better.

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Dancer12345 · 29/04/2019 16:02

GramGram Thanks. Had a short walk but looks like it’s about to pour down. Am very tired as didn’t sleep well and struggled to eat properly the last couple of days, which isn’t helping.

sockatoe I rang a friend earlier and had a little cry. I feel like sucking a pain though when I ask others for support.

I text a friend last night saying thanks for being so fab and lovely. She read it last night but hasn’t replied. Rationally I know she’s probably just busy, but my anxious brain is thinking that she thinks I’m weird / stupid / odd / whatever. Sigh. I wish my brain would slow down sometimes.

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Dancer12345 · 29/04/2019 16:02

*such a pain

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Dancer12345 · 29/04/2019 16:04

TheMaddHugger Perfect name! Thanks for the hugs.

Armadillostoes I know, you’re totally right. I’m clinging onto that to get me through the day.

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MissusDave · 29/04/2019 16:05

Ohh big hug, I know exactly how you feel. I'm sure it's nothing personal. Having been in the same boat, 9 times out of 10 your friends have forgotten to reply, or had a difficult time with a child/work issue/partner/etc. Logic doesn't always come into it, I hope you feel much better soon :)

MissusDave · 29/04/2019 16:06

Also, I don't think anyone would think you're weird for saying thank you. That's just a nice thing to say and you're being a nice friend!

Mumble29 · 29/04/2019 16:07

hugs and Flowers from a fellow anxiety sufferer, it is horrible isn't it? Give yourself some self care, a nice bubble bath, watch your fave film ect, might just take the edge off for a bit x

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Dancer12345 · 29/04/2019 18:03

MissusDave Glad I’m not the only one! I hate all the overanalysing - like you say, no one would think it’s weird for saying thank you, but my brain can find a way!

Mumble29 Sorry you have anxiety too. A nice bubble bath sounds lovely.

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Gramgram · 30/04/2019 08:29

Dancer how are you today?

b0bb1n · 30/04/2019 08:30

Flowers hug

I hope you're feeling better today

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Dancer12345 · 30/04/2019 09:13

Thanks GramGram and b0bb1n. Tired as didn’t sleep well but no longer crying and it’s sunny, which always helps.

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NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 30/04/2019 09:52

Hugs. Try not to dwell on the things that make you anxious. What are the things that make you smile/laugh/feel cheerful? Find a way to do those today instead, or if life is in the way, plan them in for another day so you have them to look forward to. Love the sunshine Smile

DorisDances · 30/04/2019 10:28

Hope things feel more positive today Flowers

NorthernBirdAtHeart · 30/04/2019 10:37

((hugs)) OP. I’ve been in the same position as you, it will get easier. Be gentle with yourself. Hope you’re feeling a little brighter today Flowers

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Dancer12345 · 01/05/2019 13:13

Was feeling brighter yesterday but not great again today. Not as bad as Monday but still not right. Am on Sertraline 150mg and reluctant to go up as this will mean I’m at the maximum, and there’s nowhere to go from there.

Can it be that Sertraline was helping but has now stopped (or is helping less)? I’ve not been on it a year yet.

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Gramgram · 03/05/2019 18:28

DS works in a pharmacy, have you changed brands recently?

Airec · 03/05/2019 18:41

Big hugs!

It is hard and there are ups and downs but it will always get better.

Much love xxx

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Dancer12345 · 03/05/2019 22:44

Gramgram Now I think about it, the 100mg pack I have is different. Started that pack around 10 days ago I think. Been feeling worse for 5 days now. Could it be that? Shouldn’t the ingredients be the same?

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Dancer12345 · 03/05/2019 22:45

Thanks Airec. Doesn’t always feel like it - I’ve had mental health difficulties since being a child and can’t seem to beat it. Have tried so many medications and therapies.

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cakeandchampagne · 03/05/2019 22:46

Hugs & Flowers