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His snoring is making me have some awful thoughts

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 00:38

Like pushing him out the bed.... or smothering him 😩
I love him to pieces but for fuck sake I wish he would put a sock in it (literally)
He’s laying next to me snoring away, with the occasional pig snort and I’m so damn tired.
We don’t have a spare bedroom, and I can’t sleep downstairs as my 16 month old co sleeps with me and still wakes for a breastfeed, i would have been downstairs ages ago if it wasn’t for little one needing me.
He gets so arsy with me for telling him to shut up as he says he can’t help it, and has work tomorrow
I understand that, but I can’t help but hate the sound of him snoring and snorting next to my ear Angry

I’m sure I’m not alone in this .

Anyone have any suggestions?
I may try ear plugs

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 00:39

It’s got worse over last few months, he never used to snore

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Hangingtrousers · 29/04/2019 00:41

I'm laying awake with you
I'm totally fed up of it now... He thinks IBU for telling him to shut the fuck up because he can't help it...so instead I'm laying awake thinking murderous thoughts.

Decormad38 · 29/04/2019 00:42

Can you turn him? Then just pretend you haven’t.

Greeborising · 29/04/2019 00:44

Give him an extra pillow 😉

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 00:45

He started on his right side (facing me) and I told him to move as he started, then Barack, then other side and not a difference.
I’m now laid the other end of the bed (with my feet by his head, maybe accidentally get a twitch 😁)

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 00:46

He falls asleep literally instantly, within 20 seconds of closing his eyes he starts

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Decormad38 · 29/04/2019 00:50

Gawd nightmare. Pinch his nose.

Whizzler · 29/04/2019 00:51

Sympathies.

Record his snoring on your phone and play it to him tomorrow.

  1. It's the worst kind of torture trying to sleep next to a snorer and if he wants your marriage to continue he needs to go to address it

  2. The pig snorts sound like it might be sleep apnea. Sleep apnea can cause serious health repercussions. If he wants his life to continue he needs to go to the doctor.

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 00:54

Whizzler he thinks it’s to do with his weight gain as he never used to snore and has got worse over the last few months, he’s not huge just bit of a belly. I definitely will be sending him to the GP

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Zofloramummy · 29/04/2019 01:00

Sounds like he needs an assessment to check for sleep apnoea. Is he overly tired and sleeping a lot? If he has got sleep apnoea they don’t get any deep sleep so are often chronically tired despite seeming to fall asleep at the drop of a hat!

Definitely won’t hurt to lose some weight. Stop smoking (if he smokes), limit alcohol intake and exercise.

WhyTho · 29/04/2019 01:00

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Whizzler · 29/04/2019 01:00

As long as he realises his snoring can't continue that's the main thing. 9 times out of 10 weight loss fixes the issue and his case it sounds like it won't be a huge amount to lose.

But I remember an ex of mine was a snorer, and you do think the most murderous thoughts! And you've got a baby added to the mix too.

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 01:03

Zofloramummy yes he could sleep loads in the day and early evening but I thought that could be cos he works full time.
He don’t smoke, and very rarely has a drink.

Whytho - oh wow 4am I would have lost my shit way before then Shock

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 01:04

How I would so love to go lay and sleep on the sofa right now

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Zofloramummy · 29/04/2019 01:06

Off to the GP and get him to explain how tired he is and the snoring. They’ll hopefully refer him to a sleep clinic and they can investigate. In the meantime eat healthily and try to shift the extra pounds.

Working full time shouldn’t mean needing to sleep evenings and all night. That’s not normal.

Alicewond · 29/04/2019 01:08

Has he tried nasal dilators worked wonders for my DH

RubberTreePlant · 29/04/2019 01:09

He needs to go downstairs. Then get referred to a sleep clinic.

WildIrishRose1 · 29/04/2019 01:10

DH is snoring now, while wearing the dilators Shock. We've tried sprays, rings, pillows, to no avail.

Alicewond · 29/04/2019 01:14

Does depend on the type of dilators, took trial and error to find ones which worked

Helenluvsrob · 29/04/2019 01:18

Same here. Not helped by the fact that when I roll him off his back he responds apparently coherently with variations of “ I wasn’t even asleep how could I have been snoring”/ I definitely am not on my back etc then denies it in the morning 😡

MollyYouInDangerGirl · 29/04/2019 01:19

My partner is the same, snores so loudly and is asleep and snoring within 2 minutes of his head hitting the pillow.

It drives me absolutely insane, I always roughly nudge him over as it is better if he lies on his side. Hes always worse if hes a had a drink.

Apparently silent night do a shaped pillow that's proven to help with snoring so I think I'm going to get him one of those!

thebabessavedme · 29/04/2019 01:19

we are in seperate rooms because of his snoring, right now its rattling thw windows in my room Shock - there are times when i could go in with an axe and chop his bloody head off! he is not fat, not old, just sounds like a fucking train coming through the house - holidays are a total nightmare for me, 2 weeks of no sleep actually put me off going, I love the man very dearly but fucking hell! the noise!

Islands81 · 29/04/2019 01:21

My ex snored terribly, and used to get really angry with me with I nudged him to try and get some peace. I downloaded an app, can’t remember the name, that recorded the snoring as it happened, then in the morning you can look at a graph of when the snoring happened and how loud it was. You can play back bits too. Maybe worth a go and you can show him the problem? He needs to see if the doctor can do anything to help. At the very least could you get a put me up bed for the living room and he could sleep down there in the meantime? You need rest if you’re being woken up in the night for feeds.

thebabessavedme · 29/04/2019 01:22

he is also another one who is asleep the instant his head hits the pillow, that seems to be a common denominator here, I wonder if there is something in the 'way' they sleep iyswim?

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B3ck89 · 29/04/2019 07:51

He finally stopped around 2am so around 2.5 hours after falling asleep, he does stop for a while but if little one wakes up or if I move, he starts again Hmm
Im also weaning last 16 month old cold turkey from breastfeeding Friday onwards, bed, so may banish him to the sofa for the weekend Grin

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