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To be a bit upset by this online post picturing me?

42 replies

Tweetgate · 28/04/2019 17:41

I know I am really but...
I've been really unwell for while, eight operations, lots of medical problems but have been worsening for the last few months to the point I've been really struggling. I've been feeling pretty damn low as a result.

I went to a concert recently and tried to stand and dance but just couldn't manage it for the whole show. I had actually been seen by the hospital a few days before but enjoyed the show and was glad I'd gone.

I was searching social media to look for any pictures of the night and found a social media post In which photographs of my small part of the audience have been taken which showed me and a couple of others sat down with a post saying it shouldn't be allowed for people to sit down during X and Y and the artist should do separate concerts for 'real fans' next time with the artists tagged in on their social media.

I know it's pathetic but when you are already feeling low and fed up that you can't stand and dance it was a bit of a kick in the teeth.

Another lady who is pictured has already posted that she has disabilities and someone else has said she isn't pictured but was sat down too due to medical needs.
A lady who I was talking to outside the disabled toilets had cancer and was saying how she couldn't dance along anymore and it upset her so would have been very upset to be pictured.

I know the person was probably only joking and it is the back of everyone so only someone who knew me could identify me but it made me feel shit.

OP posts:
seven201 · 28/04/2019 17:42

Oh that is shitty. Sorry Thanks

Pretry · 28/04/2019 17:45

I really feel for you and Tbh things like this put me off going out. We have a local club that posts pictures every morning of the night before antics with witty rude captions, I used to love the place but won't go anymore.
I know it's legal to take pictures in public but I think it's low to take pics with the intention to humiliate or disrespect a person. The person that posted it is a complete dick.

m00rfarm · 28/04/2019 17:45

I would send the post to the band in question and tell them about their loyal fans who come IN SPITE of not being able to dance

RosaWaiting · 28/04/2019 17:47

whoever posted that was a totally thoughtless wanker.

Pretry · 28/04/2019 17:47

Also hope you are feeling better soon.

WeirdCatLady · 28/04/2019 17:48

What a cuntish thing for them to do. OP, there are some complete wankpuffins in this world and I’m sorry you have come across some. Sad

MissMilly88 · 28/04/2019 17:48

YANBU, people can be dicks. Hope you're OK, I'd be upset by this too. You don't have to answer to anyone. I hope you enjoyed your night.

bigchris · 28/04/2019 17:49

I would honestly post underneath and then dont give it a second thought

LinoleumBlownapart · 28/04/2019 17:49

I agree with m00rfarm. Educate the person who made this post, it might teach them that they cannot judge the world through their own limited experiences.

bigchris · 28/04/2019 17:49

Also hugs and Flowers for you xx

DaisyDreaming · 28/04/2019 17:51

I would comment just to make them feel bad! Ok and also to make them open their mind to hidden disabilities

Peachesandcream14 · 28/04/2019 17:53

I also like m00rfarm's idea, whoever posted that is a total, utter shitstain. What an unbelievably wanky thing to do. I hope you keep going to do things you enjoy OP, and ignore the sort of idiots who think it's ok to post things like that!

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 28/04/2019 17:57

I would also comment on it and explain why. You don't owe them an explanation however it may make them think twice next time. It's a horrible thoughtless thing to say.

Purpleartichoke · 28/04/2019 17:58

I’ve been the fan where just the trek from parking to seats was exhausting. Then had to deal with not being able to see well because people insist on standing the whole time and I just can’t do that the whole show.

The fans who can easily waltz in, aren’t in pain from standing, and won’t be in pain the next day from their efforts, can’t possibly understand the sheer force of will required for some to attend a concert.

BlueJava · 28/04/2019 17:59

YANBU to be annoyed, but YABU to be bothered about someone posting crap on social media. Just go, enjoy in your way, to hell with the rest of them! Hope you are feeling better now.

Dieu · 28/04/2019 18:00

Bastards
Thanks

RevealTheLegend · 28/04/2019 18:02

Id be temped to post someone about REAL fans battling disabilities and life changing illness to drag themselves to a concert. Not the vapid wannabes wafting in to dance.

Then Tag the band.

Bunch of wankers (the twats who posted that)

raviolidreaming · 28/04/2019 18:06

I would send the post to the band in question and tell them about their loyal fans who come IN SPITE of not being able to dance

Absolutely this.

Original poster
Tweetgate · 28/04/2019 18:08

I know BlueJava I know.
I think it was just a shock to see it. I hasn't gave a damn how other attendees were participating so wasn't expecting to see something like that.

As I said usually I'd tell people to piss off or ignore but I'm pretty low at the moment.

Thanks everyone. You've made me feel loads better that I wasn't just being pathetic!

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 28/04/2019 18:09

What a fucking bastard thing to do. Sorry you've experienced this OP...some people are just thoughtless wankbadgers.

Floralnomad · 28/04/2019 18:09

Absolutely respond to the post , my dd goes to lots of gigs and mainly has to stay seated as she has CFS and I’d be really pissed off if somebody did something like this to her .

Original poster
Tweetgate · 28/04/2019 18:09

*hadn't

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scarecrowhead · 28/04/2019 18:11

I would share the post with an explanation of what the issue is, I would also point out what an arsehole the original poster is and if possible tag the original poster and the band in it. Make it public, it will soon get shared.

kaytee87 · 28/04/2019 18:15

That person is an arsehole op. Try not to give it too much thought.
As a pp said, I'd want to comment saying "I'm assuming you're talking about me? I was sitting as I've had 8 operations recently and am unwell. I hope it makes you feel better being a cunt on social media though"

CatchingBabies · 28/04/2019 18:16

Sorry you’ve had this, it’s unfair yes.

I have before now been annoyed at someone sitting down at a concert but that was because they were in the standing only area and then sat down on the floor the whole time meaning people around them couldn’t move or dance for fear of accidentally kicking them. If they can’t or don’t want to stand then don’t buy standing tickets. If you have seated tickets then sit, that’s the whole point of them.