To be a bit upset by this online post picturing me?

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I know I am really but...
I've been really unwell for while, eight operations, lots of medical problems but have been worsening for the last few months to the point I've been really struggling. I've been feeling pretty damn low as a result.

I went to a concert recently and tried to stand and dance but just couldn't manage it for the whole show. I had actually been seen by the hospital a few days before but enjoyed the show and was glad I'd gone.

I was searching social media to look for any pictures of the night and found a social media post In which photographs of my small part of the audience have been taken which showed me and a couple of others sat down with a post saying it shouldn't be allowed for people to sit down during X and Y and the artist should do separate concerts for 'real fans' next time with the artists tagged in on their social media.

I know it's pathetic but when you are already feeling low and fed up that you can't stand and dance it was a bit of a kick in the teeth.

Another lady who is pictured has already posted that she has disabilities and someone else has said she isn't pictured but was sat down too due to medical needs.
A lady who I was talking to outside the disabled toilets had cancer and was saying how she couldn't dance along anymore and it upset her so would have been very upset to be pictured.

I know the person was probably only joking and it is the back of everyone so only someone who knew me could identify me but it made me feel shit.

Op don’t let a mindless comment from an idiot ruin your memory of a good night out.
I think it says a lot more about them being judgemental cunts than anything else.
I hope you feel better op. Try to move on

I hope they apologised for their ignorance and edited/taken it down

It’s a bit of a stupid thing to post really, I don’t think the person posting really thought it through. I’d be commenting too, with the band tagged!!

Since when did dancing at a concert become compulsory? Regardless of whether you can or not, surely it's your choice how you want to appreciate a concert?

Totally narrow minded and a case of 'be like me or you're rubbish'! Especially galling when you would have liked to join in but couldn't.

My gob is truly smacked.

I'd post a response just to make them feel like the dickhead they are. They've embarrassed themselves.

Fuck them! Well done for going and enjoying it OP. Some people are small minded and love to think they are better than everyone else.

My friend sent me this MONTHS ago with an inside joke and I kept it because it makes me laugh. Finally I have a chance to use it!

If you have the mental strength to do the tagging with something like @m00rfarm 's line - that would be brilliant!

I got massive grumps directed at me at a festival a couple of years ago because I'd dared to bring a fold up chair and sit in it. In fact I was using two walking sticks to get anywhere at all on foot - a condition that had developed only just before the event so I wasn't able to get myself onto the disabled access list.

(((Hug)))

You did really well to go, try not to let this spoil it or put you off going next time.

Lots of people just don’t have any life experience beyond being young enough, fit enough, healthy enough etc to do whatever they want & participate fully in life as they wish. It’s not that they don’t have any regard for others or any compassion, they just don’t realise that not everyone’s life is so easy. They don’t stop to think you might be too unwell to stand, simply because that thought wouldn’t occur to them.

I’m not explaining it very well, sorry (mind fog)...I just think sometimes people think others are being deliberately horrible, when they’re not. I know YOU said they were probably just joking, but some of the other comments have been pretty ‘off’.

I used to get upset by things like this, then one day something reminded me of a few things I’d thought when I was young and before I got ill and realised so much of it is from naivety not malice. I find it helps ME to remember the young me and actually be happy for them that their lives are still so ‘easy’.

Obviously there are some utter wankers out there too and picturing them being dropped into a tree branch mulcher helps me too 🤣. I’m human, not a saint ‍🤷🏻‍♀️

I really hope that you’re able to make a good recovery from your situation 🌷

fuck them

honestly, you owe them nothing. I have no disability, I am actually pretty fit but I feel like sitting down, I will. I don't need to make a show of myself to prove I am a "real fan".

The only nuisance at a concert are the idiots holding an ipad to video something and hiding everything to people behind them, even when these are standing. That's appealing behaviour.

Sit away and enjoy yourself. Sits are there for a reason.

OP, tweet the band to let them know.

Oooh, that is so tempting to show them up for being so judgemental I'm not sure I could resist! You should definitely post OP, but screenshot it first and send your response to the band because I bet they (judgyperson) delete it in shame!

That's horrible not the same but my MIL posted photos of her dads 70th when I was heavily pregnant with ds2 with the caption nearly everyone had fun, the only photo with me in it I looked fucking awful massive red because of the heat and miserable with pain. There were loads of photos of me chatting and laughing but she chose to post one I wasn't aware of it made me feel like shit everyone thinking I was a buzz kill.

Still bothers me now. I dont get why people do it at all.

What an idiotic thing for them to post. It’s like some kind of pathetic ‘who’s the biggest fan’ top trumps.

Reminds me of that case that went viral when some really nasty arsehole posted a pic of an overweight chap dancing and tried to ridicule him. Poor guy was minding his own business having fun and someone thought they would ruin it for him. Joke was on him as everyone thought, correctly, that the poster was a total Bellend. I think the artist he was dancing to invited the dancing guy backstage at his next concert

There are some really nasty idiots who think that you're either a permanent wheelchair-user or otherwise 100% fully able-bodied (and young) and there can be no possible in-between.

I could sort of understand somebody saying it as banter about their own friends whom they definitely know not to have any disabilities or infirmities and believe them to be boring - although it's a remarkably self-centred way of conducting your life, assuming that only your way is the 'correct' way to enjoy something; like people at discos who just cannot comprehend that some people enjoy sitting and listening and genuinely don't want to get up and dance - and feel smugly glad to have 'encouraged' you to enjoy it 'properly' when all they've actually succeeded in doing is to bully you and seriously reduce your personal enjoyment of it.

They must be very stupid indeed not to even consider the possibility that somebody might have a disability or other issue - or even be completely healthy but prefer to enjoy the music that they've paid good money to hear whilst sitting down.

I'd definitely reply with something along the lines of "You do realise that hate speech against disabled people is illegal, now, don't you? Not to mention something that no decent person would even consider doing?"

That might make the idiot stop and think for a moment - even if they don't care about hurling pointless nasty insults at people, they might just be frightened about a knock on the door from the police if they're reported, especially if it goes viral. This is one of the few times that you genuinely DO want the Daily Mail to pick up on a story.

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Some people are just hateful bullies. They'll go out of their way to find the most unflattering photo of you that they possibly can and, if you venture to say that you'd have preferred them to choose a nicer picture, all of a sudden you're 'no fun' and a real party-pooper who 'can't even take a joke'.

At least on social media you can reply and thoroughly shame the thoughtless, ignorant poster. "Well done, picking on disabled people, you fucking thick wankpuffin" should do it.

Nah HelloMonday the post is still up.
She's liked her mates message saying the comments are over and top as it's just a passing comment and from what I've been told has blocked the lady who said she knew it was a joke but it had made her feel a bit crap as she had disabilities and real fans had disabilities and illnesses so has probably blocked the person who has nicely replied to the friend saying basically she understood it wasn't meant nastily but when people are feeling awful it will make them feel worse too.