AIBU to let my brother visit.

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DB called to tell me that he’ll be coming into town for an event and would be spending the night at ours, we live in different towns.
I told DP that DB will be visiting for one night, DP goes there’s no space to which I replied that we have a guest room. Then DP says he’ll be using the guest room as he wanted to do some reading. Then I suggested that DB could stay in the spare bedroom. Then DP says he doesn’t want to have any conversation with DB, that DB was rude to him the last time DB visited us. When I asked how DB was rude DP goes he was calling out to me from downstairs when I was upstairs, DP thinks DB should have walked up to him and not shout his name from a distance. DP thinks that was very rude and he doesn’t want DB visiting.

AIBU to think DP is overreacting?

YANBU that is a massive overreaction

He will be using the same room for reading wtf? Why can't he use your bedroom? Yes your partner has completely overreacted. If he's that bothered tell him to stay up in his bedroom whilst you host your brother. Is he always such a baby?

Your husband sounds batshit!

Spare room*

Oh ffs. Tell your dh to suck it up for one night.

Apologies...partner!

Your partner is being ridiculous. What's he normally like? What's he like when you have guests usually?

That's a very weird reason to call someone rude and say they can't visit :/ I wouldn't be happy about my DP telling me my brother can't stay over

Your Dh sounds like the equivalent of the crazy lady who left her visitor sitting on the driveway & thinks people should stay in their own homes! Least your DB has pre warned you.

Your partner is being ridiculous.

Either he's abusive, isolating you from your family. Which is very worrying.

Or he's being a bit of a nobber, in which case tell him he's being a bit of a nobber.

What a twat!

Your DP is being pathetic!

Thanks all for your responses. I told DP I think it is a non-issue but he says it’s a big deal. I just want to be sure that I’m not overlooking the ‘issue’ because DB is involved.

Oh deary me, how delicate is your DP, how very dare someone call upstairs, you must install some butler bells. What a bellend 🙄

He's being a knob, tell him to cop the fuck on!

Tell dh to be a normal bloke and read whilst having a shit....

Actually I think they are both out of order.
Your DB told you he would be staying over ! Didn't he ask ?
And your DP is dreadful too

Actually I think they are both out of order.

How is OP out of order? The DB and DP might be but I can't see what OP is doing that's wrong.

Your Dh sounds like the equivalent of the crazy lady who left her visitor sitting on the driveway & thinks people should stay in their own homes! Least your DB has pre warned you.

^^This with bells on!

Shouting upstairs to your DP is nothing! Perhaps your DP was raised to think it rude but even then it barely registers on the bad manners scale! Your DP sounds like my IL's. They used to take huge offence if plans changed and we had to cancel or come later or if the children aka ME on their behalf didn't write personal thank you notes for every little thing they received or the ILs did for them. (Think sending a packet of Chewits home to them when one DC had been visiting). Needless to say, they got used to not receiving thank you notes instead of me changing my ways to suit them 😂

Sorry, misread.

Still doesn't matter. It's her brother and she's happy for him to stay.

Did your brother just announce he would be staying? No magic word?

Anyway, your husband sounds like a tit. Do you have to stand on ceremony with him too?

Simplyput I was going to say 'what a fucking twat'

😂😂😂 that’s bonkers. Your dB shouted up to your dp, and??. So you have no room yet you have a guest room and a spare room. That’s at least a 3 bed house then.

No don’t let him isolate you from your family.as others have said either he’s controlling or a precious flower.

Your DP sounds controlling and manipulative - does he try to drive a wedge between other family members or friends?
FWIW I'd tell him he's being an arsehole, your family means a lot to you and if he's wanting to cause problems then you won't just let him walk all over you