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Wedding reception- takeaway at home?

261 replies

DorisandDeidre · 28/04/2019 13:00

Would we BU to do this? Considering having the church ceremony and then going back to ours for a takeaway. Would you be okay with this as a guest? We have a small guest list (less than 15) and most have complex dietary requirements so we were thinking takeaway gives them the option of where we get the food from.

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TTCVickster · 28/04/2019 13:28

Have a look at @theannaedits wedding on YouTube/her blog, she did this and it looked fantastic.

Everydaypeople · 28/04/2019 13:29

To be honest this sounds like my idea of BLISS and I would definitely come to your wedding.

GreenTulips · 28/04/2019 13:31

Why not hire someone to be home when you get back and they can sort out the order (or do this prior) and they can have it all laid out?

Order a load of starters and plates cutlery etc on the table for everyone to dip in while someone sorts the food into platters

HogMother · 28/04/2019 13:32

Sounds lovely, intimate and relaxed.
I’d want to either put someone in charge of drinks, or make sure everyone was comfortable enough to make themselves at home. Don’t want to spend the day being host.
Enjoy your day

Bluesmartiesarebest · 28/04/2019 13:32

Op, that sounds like a lovely plan! I’ve always eaten whatever food is put in front of me at weddings but it’s rare that I’ve actually enjoyed what’s on offer.

whyohwhyowhydididoit · 28/04/2019 13:35

Sounds like an excellent plan. It will be a pretty big order for one takeaway so they might need some warning. They might even give you a discount or free delivery.

feelingverylazytoday · 28/04/2019 13:35

I'd only like it if it was an Indian takeaway, because I hate everything else. But you know your guests best. I know most people seem to love takeaways.

Teddybear45 · 28/04/2019 13:36

Why not do a bbq instead? Get someone in the family to cook

ReanimatedSGB · 28/04/2019 13:37

FFS @sweetmarmalade, going to a restaurant would cost two or three times as much as getting a takeaway delivered. People with low incomes can't 'just' double the planned expenditure.
OP this sounds like a lovely idea - though as PP said, if you're not sure you have enough room for everyone to sit comfortably, a local hall might be better.. My dance team did similar for a party a couple of years ago - we had a hall hired and got some drinks in bulk, checked for any special dietary requirements and ordered in from a nearby curry house.

furryjammies · 28/04/2019 13:40

Dishing out a takeaway for that many people would be a nightmare. I think the food platter from M & S idea might be easier - that way you can just put it out and it would cover most people's dietary needs.

fluorescentorange · 28/04/2019 13:40

Best wedding we ever attended was a church wedding then into the vicarage garden for a pic nic, all blankets were provided but instead of gifts couple asked us to bring our own pic nic and drinks were supplied by couple. Pimms/tea/coffee/beer /wine and pop
Weather helped but it was great, we all played games on the lawn like skittles and boules etc.

PtolemyTalks · 28/04/2019 13:42

Be great if there’s room for everyone at home. If the church hall is cosy and nice do it there. Id love that. Have some nibbles at home ready if any takeaway gets delayed.

The night before we got married we got a local restaurant to deliver 3 main meals, enough for about 20. With veg, vegan and meat. And suitable sides, gf etc

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GnomeDePlume · 28/04/2019 13:43

Sounds lovely. We went to a wedding where the catering was takeaway. It was aboslutely delicious. It was chosen by B&G and made us feel closer to them. Much more personal than the standard wedding fare.

outofnothing · 28/04/2019 13:45

We had an Indian takeaway the night before our wedding for 18 close family and friends. Managed to seat everyone around a long table made from the dining room table and two picnic tables. We spent ages decorating the table with cloths, pretty glasses, decorations etc. Had lots of different starters and sides, but stuck to four main dishes which I think made it easier.
I think it was one of the highlights of our wedding and I'd definitely recommend it.

SweetMarmalade · 28/04/2019 13:48

Calm down Reanimated Hmm

I have to disagree. Our local Indian restaurant for example costs the same to sit down and eat as a takeaway! Certainly isn’t 2-3 times more expensive!

SweetMarmalade · 28/04/2019 13:50

And where has the OP mentioned costs? Dietary requirements yes, costs no.

IncrediblySadToo · 28/04/2019 13:52

It would be a wedding I’d actually look forward to going to 🍾🥂

It’s a clear indication that the MARRIAGE is more important that The Day.

I love weddings that are picnics, church halls, something low key or novel that means something to the B&G.

Obviously some people can have a huge formal wedding and still be more focussed on the marriage than The Big Day, I’m not saying it’s either/or, but weddings just keep getting further and further away from being about having family and friends there to witness your commitment and more about ‘stuff’.

You DON’T need to hire a village hall or anything else if you can all fit into your home, why on earth would you pay to be somewhere LESS convenient and LESS comfortable?

Takeaways will deliver at a specific time, so just order with the one who will take the longest first then get the others to deliver at the same time.

It’ll be fabulous!

yearofthehorse · 28/04/2019 13:53

Sounds lovely - just be careful about curry sauce if you're wearing white!

startagaintomorrow · 28/04/2019 13:53

We did exactly this! Agree with the PP, it's all about presentation. Max capacity for the room in the registry office was 15 so we had our nearest and dearest only and then went home where we had had our favourite restaurant deliver food. We had hired a waitress to serve and clear up, everything was laid out beautifully, table set and there was plenty of champagne on ice waiting on our arrival.
But I would say definitely hire someone to waitress and clean up - that bit is key!

I absolutely loved it- I hope you enjoy your big day too!

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 28/04/2019 13:56

It’ll be fine.i went to a friends small wedding at reg office and back to their place for a curry
Take away curry,good company and everyone relaxed,no stuffy wedding buffet carry on

Girlwhowearsglasses · 28/04/2019 13:57

I’d call the takeaway well in advance to let them know and ‘book’ it. You don’t want a long delay or dribs and drabs arriving.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 28/04/2019 13:58

And fgs no don’t hire a waitress or attempt to mimic silver service or deferential staff

It’s a lovely do at home,no waiters reqd, just adequate space to mingle and music

MiniMum97 · 28/04/2019 14:00

Takeaways are tricky for people with dietary requirements, especially complex ones.

Guylian2019 · 28/04/2019 14:00

That sounds great!