PIL come to see us quite frequently as both retired and as they live quite a long way end up staying 4 or 5 nights on average. No problem there. Have a good relationship with them and they are helpful with the children. Due to work commitments and length of drive we don’t travel to them that often. However, when they come they don’t contribute whatsoever. I don’t expect guests to contribute but to give examples: they tell me when the milk or bread runs low and wouldn’t dream of going to supermarket, they request the newspaper only they read when I go to the shop, they sit back and wait for us to pay if we go to cafe or restaurant. The most annoying, is they tuck into all our lovely, expensive wine whilst claiming they don’t drink at home and they don’t really know the difference between a cheap bottle and the nice ones I tend to buy which are more expensive! And this is every night!!!!! When the tables turn and we go to their house, I am normally told to bring wine and coffee as “they don’t know what to buy” and never have any in! We also end up going to the shops and paying for meals and coffees. No real problems with money- they can afford several holidays a year. There are also countless examples of promised presents for birthday and Christmas which never materialised..... so Aibu and should I think this is their just reward for looking after my husband when he was a child? I’m not a mean person but I’m starting to feel a little bit taken advantage of!