to think that all women should read this article

[brizzlemint]

humanparts.medium.com/the-problem-with-how-we-talk-about-our-bodies-443fbc36875e

I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in having my (average) weight defined only in contrast to those that are overweight. Obviously context is all. But I'm afraid the article makes me feel much like my internal response to MIL: "You're thin!" Nope, I'm average; you're overweight.

YABU. What drivel.

Too much 'bristling' and 'hissing' for my liking.

I couldn't read past 'thin privilege' FFS.

Have to agree with pp as well. I’m not thin. I am a normal, health weight. There is a normality between thin and fat.

Why?

Same here. I am a healthy, "normal" weight, not thin. There is a happy medium and everyone who isn't fat isn't necessarily thin either

I know I come across as a mardy cow, but this sort of promotional bollox isn't what AIBU was designed for.

Got a moral dilemma OP - let us sort it out for you

I just think it's important to consider the issue from all sides, I don't think this article is completely right but it is food for thought.

I found the article to be quite irritating. But describing yourself as 'normal and healthy' is completely subjective and are not states reserved for those weighing between 7 and 10 stones.

i couldn’t finish reading that article. It was such rubbish. Sorry.

I think the article is extremely dull.

”If their bodies are healthy, ours are unhealthy”
Yes I agree, if the author of the article weighs 350 pounds then she is without a doubt unhealthy. I’m amazed she thinks this is an unfair statement.

I'm a size 8. There is no privilege. What drivel.

I am a healthy normal weight, and actually I don't think about my body or weight very much. The problem with this language in this article is it's suggesting your weight and size are the be all and end all of everything. The vast majority of people are not too thin or too fat, and our lives don't revolve around our weight.

Also it sounds like this woman is extremely fat. If you can't hold a job, doctors won't treat you and you can't get clothes, maybe there is a problem? Completely denying that won't make anything any better.

“Straight size” is not a judgment, not a loaded gun or an unsheathed knife.

WTAF. It's also a nonsensical description that doesn't explain anything. What's the point of language if it's meaningless.

I don't think that I relate to people who define themselves from their body size. This intrigued me, though:

I pose a question on Twitter. I ask people who don’t wear plus sizes what words they use to describe themselves.

My answer would have been 'trim'.

I’m 5’4” and a size 8 (when I’m not pregnant and eating everything in sight).
These types of articles infuriate me. “Thin privilege” Fuck off with that.
She weighs 350lbs. That is unhealthy. Anyone with a shred of knowledge on how the human body works knows that is unhealthy regardless of whether you consider yourself “thin”, “fat” or whatever.

The size of my body isn’t the be all and end all of my life - and this type of article just makes it sound like everyone is stood in front of mirrors 24/7, scrutinising every inch of their body.
Utter utter shite.

I got bored half way through.

This just reads to me as the author trying to make everyone around them ‘the problem’, instead of addressing the fact they are extremely overweight. However, this is the internet and there’s generally only two opinions on weight - either ‘there’s no such thing as fat!’ or ‘anything over a size 8 is too much, people have lost sight of what is healthy’. Both sides are equally boring.

Sorry OP I have to disagree. I am so fed up with women defining themselves according to their weight/size. Men aren't encouraged to do this and it's wrong. Obviously the extreme ends of the spectrum aren't good but we should be focusing on what our bodies can do rather than defining ourselves by size. If we want our daughters to have a healthy relationship with their shape we need to lead by example. For example, telling someone they look strong or healthy is better than labelling someone as fat or thin or overweight is far preferable.

Personally I found this one (from the same website) more of a "must read"

humanparts.medium.com/a-gentlemens-guide-to-rape-culture-7fc86c50dc4c

Articles like this annoy me because they run on about the words used to describe weight and the author described herself as "a fat person" twice!!!!

BTW I'm undertall

"Privilege" has become a word of control: we can't defend our supposed 'privilege', because then we're told we're simply betraying its presence.

It's really hard to look at reality sometimes. It's really hard to take responsibility for our choices, and sometimes for circumstances that may have been beyond our control but which we have to deal with.

The 'new speak' of "privilege" just helps us to avoid responsibility even more - because now we have someone else to blame.

Well I’m a size 18/20 - I’ve been bigger and I’m aiming to be smaller.

This is self-sympathetic nonsense. If you want to lose weight then eat less and move more - doctors should take you seriously regardless and you shouldn’t be fat-shamed - ever, because that’s grim and counter-productive. But don’t embrace victimhood for a choice.

It might not always seem like a simple choice - and I know weight is emotionally complex and upsetting, that it affects self-worth and so many other things. But ultimately it’s up to you to be at a weight you are happy with, and accept all the consequences of that - whether they are good or bad.

I can't cut through the waffle to find a point

Hey, Catalonia, I found that one very interesting, thanks. It's good. I loved the bullet-pointed list of examples of rape-culture.

The original op I gather is something about why women should stare in the mirror all day. I'm not even going to click on it.

The original op I gather is something about why women should stare in the mirror all day. I'm not even going to click on it

How depressing. You’ve developed a completely ignorant opinion and for some reason seem to be proud of it.