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Original poster

To think this is careless and be annoyed

41 replies

PedroTheCowboy · 27/04/2019 16:28

Made my inlaws a cup of tea while they visiting. Fils wife (step mil) had a phone call so she put her hot tea (freshly made 5 minutes ago) on the floor while my 16 month year old dc was playing on the same floor. I didn't notice until I came into the living room, fil and dh didn't say anything (they were in the same room). AIBU to think this is quite careless and you have to be really careful with hot drinks around young children and certainly not put them within easy reach.

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nokidshere · 27/04/2019 16:30

Really? Do you think anyone is going to come along and say "oh yes that's just fine"?

Remind your visitors not to leave things where your child might be able to reach and, if they forget, move it yourself.

Happyspud · 27/04/2019 16:30

Yeah my brain wouldn’t let me do that. But remember a lot of these things are done mindlessly it’s just our mindlessness includes constant vigilance. You MIL doesn’t live with a baby so her mindlessness won’t take that into account.

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PedroTheCowboy · 27/04/2019 16:37

I wasn't in the room, dh and fil were and they both never did anything or said anything until I can into the living room and noticed it. I feel sick thinking of what could have happened

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Hippopotas · 27/04/2019 16:40

It was a mistake. Maybe mention it not a good idea and move on.

PawPawNoodle · 27/04/2019 16:44

Why are you feeling sick about what could have happened? There were two adults in the room, either of which I imagine would have intervened if the child made a beeline for the cup.

HolesinTheSoles · 27/04/2019 16:44

It's the kind of thing you do automatically when you're not used to having toddlers around. If DH saw why didn't he just move the cup?

nokidshere · 27/04/2019 16:45

I wasn't in the room, dh and fil were and they both never did anything or said anything until I can into the living room and noticed it. I feel sick thinking of what could have happened

You will have an awful lot more of those moments in the next few years unfortunately. Be thankful nothing happened and remind visitors to be more careful is all you can do.

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PedroTheCowboy · 27/04/2019 16:53

Annoyed my DH didn't even notice it. Don't want to have to be monitoring inlaws when they over because they are careless

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JacquesHammer · 27/04/2019 16:54

Honestly nothing happened. “What ifs” are pointless.

Don’t let it stress you unnecessarily

Toastedstrudel · 27/04/2019 17:00

First born, I’m guessing?

PCohle · 27/04/2019 17:01

It was a mistake and nothing happened. Falling out with your in laws/DH over hypotheticals like this a path to misery.

caughtinanet · 27/04/2019 17:04

When your children are older it's possible that you might sometimes forget to be as vigilant as you should be, unless they were deliberately placing not drinks in your child s path a simple request to keep them out of reach is all that's needed.

Inrestlessdreamsiwalkalone · 27/04/2019 17:11

Went upstairs to run the bath... came back down... dd has a oven glove and a eating knife in hand... didn't realise she was tall enough to reach the sideboard.... nearly had a heart attack.

Other day... washing in the shower... turn around dd has climbed onto the back of the toilet and attempting to stand up to get to window sill...

Opened dishwasher... started pulling cutlery out

Everytime something like this happens you learn how to be that bit more careful but it's not always possible and accidents happen. In this case 2 other adults were watching the child... no harm done

People without children or not had them that small for a while forget how they manage to knock over/grab/climb/escape/causemerryhavocwherevertheygo

FriarTuck · 27/04/2019 17:11

They were probably watching DC and would have done something if DC had gone close.

M4J4 · 27/04/2019 17:13

Your MIL is an idiot. Get DH to have a word.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 27/04/2019 17:14

I feel sick thinking of what could have happened

Dont be so over dramatic, nothing happened.

I got in a car, what if it crashed? I walked down the road, what if high winds blew a tree on top of me? what ifs are pointless.

Lindy2 · 27/04/2019 17:17

They won't be so alert to the dangers as you are.
Pick up the cup and say to them it's better not to leave hot drinks in reach of DC. Hopefully they'll remember for next time.
Your DH should really have known better though.

ILoveAllRainbowsx · 27/04/2019 17:18

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Thesearmsofmine · 27/04/2019 17:20

Nothing happened. Most likely if your dc had gone for the cup they would have been stopped and the cup moved, there were 3 adults in the room.

JonSlow · 27/04/2019 17:22

Perhaps DH was paying attention to where DC actually was and what they were doing, rather than fixating on a cup?!

UCOinanOCG · 27/04/2019 17:32

There were two adults still in the room with your DD. I am sure they would have intervened had she gone to touch the cup. Nothing happened. If this is giving you a lot of anxiety then you have a long and stressful parenting journey in front of you.

Thisisnotreallymyname · 27/04/2019 17:35

Slow news day

Katterinaballerina · 27/04/2019 17:36

Your DH should have been the one reminding them.

outsho · 27/04/2019 17:40

It’s all well and good saying ‘nothing happened so don’t worry about it’. Next time something could very easily happen. You need to mention it to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

MachinicianMagician · 27/04/2019 17:41

If it really worries you then don't make hot drinks for guests in future?

If it had been 5 minutes the tea would have cooled down a fair bit (especially if there was milk in it) and since there were two adults watching your child even if the tea had spilt they could have quickly put them under cold running water if the worst had occurred. But also since it was on the floor the majority of liquid was most likely to end up on the floor itself (would have been worse if it was on the edge of a table and the child pulled it down by accident onto themselves).

Obviously wasn't the best experience for you, but I think you're being a bit overdramatic about what would have realistically occurred.