To think that a potty in any room besides the bathroom is gross?

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With the exception of the very early days of potty training (i.e the first couple of weeks when you get zero warning that they need it now ), AIBU to think that it's gross and unnecessary to have potties in living rooms / kitchens / bedrooms ?
Surely once your child is trained, they can hold it long enough to walk to the bathroom to use the potty ? It never occurred to me to have one anywhere else in the house besides alongside the loo when my DC trained, but having recently visited several friends and family with toddlers (who have been trained for months), it seems it's now the norm to have your small child do their toilet in the family rooms. Even worse, the parents don't rush to empty it either . (I can see that if you're busy feeding a newborn it might be easier for the toddler to use the potty nearby, but none of these families had small babies).

my ds craps himself all the live long time.

he hates going on the potty.

i put it in a different place to try to entice him. it has been in the utility room for a few weeks now as there is a view out the window. there is also one in the hall which I have just bought to go in the car to save public toilet screaming fits. if he wees on that i consider it a victory.

its only a phase and one day they will be all grown up and I will miss the potty and the screaming.
so who cares?

Just get a step and use the loo. The whole potty thing is totally pointless faff.

I have a mat on the bathroom floor. DS has done some excellent projectile poos in his time as well as regularly weeing up in the air or crawling away mid change. Not many bathrooms are genuinely so tiny that you can’t put a mat on the floor and kneel in the open doorway. If it was impossible to use the bathroom then I’d choose another uncarpeted room. Not in a million years would I use the bed!

Potties are foul wherever they are! If a child can't hold it the 30 seconds it takes to get to the bathroom, they aren't ready.

Depends how big your house is? If it’s a long way to a loo, seems like a practical short term solution to me....

My daughter only used the potty once. It was in the living room. She did a little poop. I was delighted. She refused point blank to ever use it again and would only use thr toilet with a training seat.

I think if the potty is in thr loo, you're missing the point. Just get them a little seat and put them on that instead. Forget the potty stage.

Good Christ
Whatever you do in the privacy of your own home, your kids will be fully able to use the toilet properly at some stage
Do you see teens and adults shitting in potties. Of course not. So get on with the toddler phase however you please

I think I can trump potty placement.
Soft play the other day, family had placed a potty on the floor by their table next to the toilets.
Soft play is new and has kid sized toilets in.

DH took it to church and pulled it out for DS during mass. I still giggle at the thought of the look on the nuns' faces.

I’ve seen a potty pulled out on a train once. Thankfully only for a wee.

Might do it myself next time rather than the train loos and the fear that the door will open on me. Embrace the fear

It’s not grim but I’d say unnecessary. We skipped potty though.
We trained slightly later than everyone else we know and did it when Dd had not long been 3. She has a really good urine hold and it’s made me wonder if it’s just her or if people genuinely are potty training too early and creating kids that have these issues?

If I’m out she lets me know and I don’t feel like it’s a rush to get to the toilet, she’s never wet herself (not even during early potty training days) and I’ve never had to let her wee in a random place- I was expecting all of that and it’s been so different for us,

If a child has access to a potty in every room isn’t that just creating bladder hold issues?

When I go to the mainland I carry one in the car as although ds is dry he can’t hold it that long. We also have one toilet in our house so for now if someone else is on the toilet the potty is an emergency option

My 4 year old niece uses hers in their living room (they have a downstairs loo). I must admit I find it strange.

I was in a food court when a mum got a potty out and put it on the floor next to her table for her child to do no.2. In full view of diners who were halfway through their meals! Some picked up their plates and moved away. Others got really vocal and annoyed. The food court had toilet facilities literally 50ft away. The mind boggles!

We have a potty downstairs because a- it’s a big house so often 2 hallways and 2 flights of stairs away from the toilet and b- there’s lots of us so chances are there will already be someone in there. Don’t need a potty in the bathroom because they can just use the toilet if they’re in there anyway

Totally agree with @Kaddm. Why does this matter?! Everyone is out there successfully potty training their children. Beyond that, I couldn't give a damn.

Don’t need a potty in the bathroom because they can just use the toilet if they’re in there anyway

This. A potty is only for when you can't get them to thr toilet. If you can, have their training seat on it and use that. Don't have them using the potty beside it. That's a bit bonkers, you will end up then having to convince them to use the actual toilet.

I agree with the PP about people who change nappies in sitting rooms. Just use my bathroom where everything is set up for nappy changes please. Potties in public areas I have more sympathy for because it's a very short phase although we kept ours in the hallway where there was no carpet.

we didn't use a potty for any but the first child. Much easier just to use the loo and seat.

KateyKube
Do you seriously not understand that some people live in small houses, flats, cramped conditions. Several posters have said their bathrooms aren't big enough

I have one in every room (including kitchen diner) and carry one around with me most places (for toddler ds but my older kids use it too sometimes). Makes life easier. None seem to have had a problem holding it in when they go to school etc and at home the toddler uses the loo most the time.

Downtothesea you win!

My DD's potty was in the lounge, i used the changing mat in the lounge to, my bathroom is tiny wouldn't get changing mat in it, i don't care where the potty is the training is more important

We have a potty in the living room right now. Last week we took it all over with us because the weather was lovely and I wanted to get out. We carried it all around the national trust property, and I suspect I was not the first to do so. Potty training is a trial. Despite the potty in the shopping bag, she still pooped her pants at the playground.

My older kids seem to have been prepared just fine for typical toilet use.

You can go right to the toilet and them holding it if you leave potty training very late and they are developmentally ready. There are advantages and disadvantages to both approaches. For most kids, it will all work out in the end.

I was 7 months pregnant with twins when we potty trained dd1. There was no way I was going to keep traipsing up and down the stairs every 30 mins to see if she needed a wee. It was enough of a struggle getting up there to empty the potty.
Then I had a c section so again, no way I was going up and down stairs for every nappy change for 2 babies.

We don't have a downstairs loo.