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to ask WYWD (biscuit related)

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PocaMiseria · 26/04/2019 21:07

I have a good friend who I see from time to time. Last week I went around to her house as she had offered to do me a favour and I took a packet of unusual biscuits that I rather like as a gift, thinking she might like to try them.
Fast forward a week and i have to call round to hers when she is out but her husband is in.
He offers me a drink and a biscuit. But as he gets out the box I recognise he starts to warn me that they are a bit strange and he's not sure about them and they were a gift from "someone" who had been on holiday.
Well, I ate one to be polite, made my excuses and left.

How would you have handled it? Would you have told him that you were the someone? I considered texting his wife to tell her what had happened and ask her not to let on where the biscuits ahd come from if he mentioned that he had offered me one of the strange biscuits.... but I thought that might draw more attention to the uncomfortable situation. I don't know if my friend enjoyed the biscuits or not, and knowing how her husband felt about them I wouldn't dare ask now..... is this a particularly British trait, do you think?

OP posts:
recrudescence · 26/04/2019 21:12

Least said soonest mended.

Expressedways · 26/04/2019 21:13

Sorry but I think that’s pretty funny!! I would have said something there and then to the husband and had a good laugh about it. Not sure why it’s uncomfortable... you did admit the biscuits were a tad unusual when you gave them to her! And I’m British by the way and still don’t get the awkwardness.

Drum2018 · 26/04/2019 21:13

I wouldn't feel the need to say anything.

LorelaiRoryEmily · 26/04/2019 21:13

What were the biscuits(I know I’m missing the point entirelyGrin)

Lobsterquadrille2 · 26/04/2019 21:14

I'd leave it. You described them as "unusual" so, if he hadn't eaten one himself, maybe he was just abdicating himself of responsibility in case you didn't like them?

DannyWallace · 26/04/2019 21:16

If the wife mentions it just have a laugh with her about it.
It's really not a big deal, is it?

RebootYourEngine · 26/04/2019 21:18

I would have either had a chuckle to myself or said something and had a chuckle with the dh about it.

The biscuits were obviously not to his taste if he thought that they were strange. It's not a big deal. You just know not to give her another packet.

pineapplepatty · 26/04/2019 21:20

We've had some shit biscuits at work that people have bought back from holidays.

user1493413286 · 26/04/2019 21:20

I say this kindly but I think you’re overthinking it; I really wouldn’t give it any more thought.

Beeziekn33ze · 26/04/2019 21:20

Like Lorelei I’m interested in the biscuits!
The wife may be feeling embarrassed if he tells her that he warned you about them!

Fatted · 26/04/2019 21:23

I reckon he knows full well you gave them the biscuits and was making a point.

I'd say something, lightheartedly, along the lines of it was me and give them back if you don't like them!

MrsKrabbapple · 26/04/2019 21:24

You said yourself they were unusual. And that they were something your friend might like to try. And she did.

Ellisandra · 26/04/2019 21:27

I’d have just laughed and said “you’ll need to extract your foot from your mouth now - they were from me! I love them and thought she might too. Obviously not!”

It would just have been a funny moment.

And possibly I’d give him various obscure biscuits every Xmas, for the fun of it.

I actually find your response quite odd!

Orchidflower1 · 26/04/2019 21:31

It was only biscuits - I wouldn’t worry. What were the btw?

tanpestryfirescreen · 26/04/2019 21:33

That is funny. You must see that?

Why would you make an issue of it?

Yesicancancan · 26/04/2019 21:36

Strange thing to be worrying about. Unless he said my wife was given them from a non friend who she hopes doesn’t visit again.

donquixotedelamancha · 26/04/2019 21:37

I considered texting his wife to tell her what had happened and ask her not to let on where the biscuits ahd come from if he mentioned that he had offered me one of the strange biscuits

Yes, do this (by phonecall). That seems an excellent idea.

Then please come back and describe the resulting conversation.

checkingforballoons · 26/04/2019 21:41

I would have lunged at him, kicking, biting and screaming something about him being a malted milk apologist.

powershowerforanhour · 26/04/2019 21:41

What were the biscuits? Were they a Letitia Cropley recipe? ("Would you like some chocolate cake? It's got anchovies in")

Taswama · 26/04/2019 21:42

What were the biscuits? Aniseed flavour or similar perhaps?

PrincessScarlett · 26/04/2019 21:42

Trouble is that you yourself describe the biscuits as "unusual" so you can't really be that surprised that they didn't like them. If it was me I would have had a good laugh and admitted to being the biscuit giver.

Life is too short to fall out over shit biscuits.

MeadowHay · 26/04/2019 21:44

OMG, what a non-issue! I would have died lying once the DH said that! It's not a big deal, I dunno why you didn't find it funny and say something at the time. Definitely don't say anything about it now, that would be really weird.

MeadowHay · 26/04/2019 21:44

died laughing

MaybeitsMaybelline · 26/04/2019 21:46

Massively overthinking. They are allowed to not like the biscuits, it doesn’t mean they don’t like you.

MRex · 26/04/2019 21:46

I'd find that funny.

My SIL put very weird biscuits in family Secret Santa once, it was minus one! They were very strange and we all found it funny, particularly the missing biscuit and critiquing the weird flavour.

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