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to ask WYWD (biscuit related)

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PocaMiseria · 26/04/2019 21:07

I have a good friend who I see from time to time. Last week I went around to her house as she had offered to do me a favour and I took a packet of unusual biscuits that I rather like as a gift, thinking she might like to try them.
Fast forward a week and i have to call round to hers when she is out but her husband is in.
He offers me a drink and a biscuit. But as he gets out the box I recognise he starts to warn me that they are a bit strange and he's not sure about them and they were a gift from "someone" who had been on holiday.
Well, I ate one to be polite, made my excuses and left.

How would you have handled it? Would you have told him that you were the someone? I considered texting his wife to tell her what had happened and ask her not to let on where the biscuits ahd come from if he mentioned that he had offered me one of the strange biscuits.... but I thought that might draw more attention to the uncomfortable situation. I don't know if my friend enjoyed the biscuits or not, and knowing how her husband felt about them I wouldn't dare ask now..... is this a particularly British trait, do you think?

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CalmdownJanet · 26/04/2019 21:46

I would have laughed and said "Oi cheeky, I brought them! I thought they looked nice but if they are rotten stick then back in the press for visitors you don't like and I'll have the normal ones". Totally make light of it, why would you not? I mean it's biscuits, hardly a big deal

Disfordarkchocolate · 26/04/2019 21:46

I'd have had two, just to help them out

maddiemookins16mum · 26/04/2019 21:47

Were they those forrin ones with the thick chocolate on one side?

CassandraCross · 26/04/2019 21:47

I'd have owned up to be the giver of said biscuits and made a joke out of it, I wouldn't be offended in the slightest what is one person's taste isn't another's.

Would also like to know what these unusual biscuits were.

Greeborising · 26/04/2019 21:48

I definitely would have laughed and told him I’d bought them!
Don’t understand the awkwardness tbh 😆

Rachelle11 · 26/04/2019 21:49

I would have laughed and told him it was me that brought them!

BentBaastard · 26/04/2019 21:52

I definitely need to know what the biscuits are please.

FromDespairToHere · 26/04/2019 21:55

I'm one of the most socially awkward people in the world, but this I would have just laughed and said I'd given them. I don't understand the issue!

Plus we really really really need to know what biscuits they were!

CocoLoco87 · 26/04/2019 22:00

If someone gave me unusual biscuits, I'd have told DH exactly who gave them. Therefore was her DH being funny and expecting you to laugh about it with him, because he knew they were from you?

InvisibleLlamaBurningCamel · 26/04/2019 22:06

BackforGood · 26/04/2019 22:28

You are totally overthinking this.
I'd have laughed at the time and told him I got them, agreed they were a bit of an acquired taste and had 2 to help him out.
Your friend would think you were bonkers if you started messaging her about it.

Lochroy · 26/04/2019 22:34

If they're good friends you should have said they were from you at the time and both laughed about it
If the DH is anything like mine, he'd vaguely recall there was a story behind the biscuits but not have listened properly and then made up some bollocks which he'd swear was what I'd said all along
They were for friend not DH so it doesn't matter what he thinks
It's too late now to bring it up again

CassandraCross · 26/04/2019 22:47

We are never going to know what these unusual biscuits are, are we?

BigApple11 · 26/04/2019 22:48

Original poster

PocaMiseria · 27/04/2019 11:13

They were Spanish polvorones
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polvor%C3%B3n

If my friend mentioned it we would definitely have a good laugh but her husband is a bit "odd"... I sometimes wonder if he is on the spectrum.....

They are now on holiday in ..... Spain so although I have had lots of photos nothing has been mentioned about the biscuits.

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Taswama · 27/04/2019 11:19

Love those biscuits, like a nutty shortbread. Yum!

Floralnomad · 27/04/2019 11:21

Well in the context of what the biscuits were I think the husbands explanation to you was pretty much spot on - if someone gave me a pack / box of those I would imagine they’d bought them back from holiday .

Floralnomad · 27/04/2019 11:23

To actually answer the question of how I’d handle it I would have said at the time ‘oh I gave x those do you not like them ‘ which would have been a totally normal reaction .

Macandcheese05 · 27/04/2019 15:00

I would have laughed and told him they were from me and make a joke out of it.

Gth1234 · 27/04/2019 15:40

what were they? like lebkuchen biscuits or something. I don't particularly like spiced biscuits.

RSAcre · 27/04/2019 15:52

You bought some biscuits.
One of the biscuit-recipients had an opinion about them.

They're biscuits. No need to make a feckin' French farce out of it.

RSAcre · 27/04/2019 15:55

I would have lunged at him, kicking, biting and screaming something about him being a malted milk apologist.

Brilliant.

donquixotedelamancha · 27/04/2019 15:59

her husband is a bit "odd"... I sometimes wonder if he is on the spectrum.....

Perhaps you could give him advice on handling difficult, biscuit related, social situations.

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