I would really appreciate your views on this please

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I have changed a view details but essentially how would you feel in this situation? DD was very badly bullied for about six months by a few girls. It was absolutely horrendous and the bullying was very cruel. These girls did everything they could to humiliate and ridicule Dd. I noticed that Dd became very unhappy and withdrawn as did some teachers. Eventually it came out (Dd burst out crying and told me everything). The school were informed. The girls who were responsible were very much the queen bee and her entourage types. Very bright and very popular. The school love these girls and their parents. To be fair the girls admitted what they had done and said sorry to Dd. I think the main queen bee got a day long suspension. I don’t want to go into detail about the bullying go fear of being outed (I have namechanged) but the bullying was sustained and some of it had a sexual element. It was very weird and very humiliating. If we had gone to the police I believe the girls would have been in big trouble.
Here’s my problem. The queen bee who was at the heart of this has just been made head girl. I am incredibly angry and upset and I wonder how others would feel in the same position?

I'd be annoyed. A little bit of me would want to fast forward to 35 years later and see what a shocking mess they made of their lives. As I am in my 50s, I can actually do that about some queen bee types I knew at school. But this is of little comfort when you are in the middle of it.
The school has fucked up.

The bully and their entourage did stop the bullying but they still swagger around the school like they own it. Bully has made racist comments in the past and has a superiority attitude and whilst I have had little to do with them since it happened I can’t imagine they have completely changed.

I understand on a personal level that it hurts, but it is a good life lesson if you want to call it that, that not everyone in a position of power is a good person.

I had a sheltered life and was then massively shocked when I went to university and one of the senior lecturers was a massive racist, misogynist bully. Same when I started work, majority of the senior management team were real arseholes.

That is very wise Sindragosan

It's not too late to involve the police if that's what your daughter wants. It's never too late.

I know this is an old thread but I just wanted to vent too. A bully at my dc school has just been made head pupil and the school are aware of what this child did. For children to watch and see children rewarded for being a bully is so unfair. No, they mustn't be punished forever but why give them a role like that? There are plenty of kind children who apply for things like this.

Charming cunts rule the world. That's why we end up with popularist politicians. It's beyond depressing.

You're very right. It's crap. I want to see good people getting rewarded in life.

Is there anywhere you can report outside of the school?
LEA/OFSTED/Parent company if its a group of academies?
Trustee Board/School Governors

Although I do agree that after two years if there have been no recurrences she could have leaned her lesson and it no longer be an issue.

This is an old thread. Personally I feel that there are plenty of children who can be selected as head students who do not have a history of bullying others.