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AIBU?

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To think DH doesn’t pull his weight with the dog?

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Skettles · 26/04/2019 08:16

We have a little dog of a breed which can’t handle long walks. So I take him for a plop run in a morning before I go to work, a longer walk when I get home at lunch time and then a final plop run at tea time. All I ask of DH is that he lets him out in the garden before bed for a final piss and shit.

We’ve had trouble house training on a night and after 3 years I’ve realised that DH doesn’t bother letting him out!! He says he’s been out when he hasn’t.

DH works full time, I only work until lunch time so I expect to do the majority but I go to bed before DH which is why he needs to be the one to let him out before bed! AIBU to think it’s not asking much that he stands outside for 10 minutes with him? There is wonder there is badness in the folds.

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MQv2 · 26/04/2019 08:17

Did he want the dog?

If so and it was a joint decision he's being an asshole and a lazy dog owner

ShatnersWig · 26/04/2019 08:18

There is wonder there is badness in the folds

YABU to post this as I have no idea what it means.

Did your DH actually want a dog in the first place, or did you just get one?

Regardless, your DH IBU for lying to you about not letting the dog out.

QOD · 26/04/2019 08:19

Do it before YOU go to bed or make him clean up the shit
My husband is similar in a way in that he just won’t walk the dog, but he worries about her needing the toilet etc at night and bloody cares enough to toilet her!
Poor doggy, mine has had 1 accident in this house (4 months) and she was so upset!

Bunnybigears · 26/04/2019 08:20

Does little dog need 3 walks and to go in the garden before bed? Do little dogs have to pee that frequently when they are adult? My dogs last walk is at about 7 then he doesn't pee or poo again until 8:30 the next morning? Would it be worth investigating if there are other issues regarding the house training? DH shouldn't have been lying about letting him out though!

QOD · 26/04/2019 08:20

In fact she just appeared all woozy from bed and ran straight to the door to go out

Xiaoxiong · 26/04/2019 08:27

Obviously your DH shouldn't be lying to you. But I'm kind of just posting because I want to know what "There is wonder there is badness in the folds" means!

Fairylea · 26/04/2019 08:29

I think if he agreed to have the dog he needs to pull his weight. But if this is “your” dog then I can see why it would annoy him to have to let it out when he’s ready to go to bed and then stand about waiting for it to have a wee in the cold with the door half open etc etc (been there, done that with dogs we’ve had). Could you let the dog out before you go to bed?

Lllot5 · 26/04/2019 09:22

How much earlier do you go to bed? Let him out before you go up?

Justkeeprollingalong · 26/04/2019 17:17

There is wonder there is badness in the folds

?????

OffToBedhampton · 26/04/2019 17:50

YANBU Very lazy of him.

Barbie222 · 26/04/2019 17:56

Damn right there will be badness in the films if dog isn't let out for a poo.

However if he didn't want the dog you need to do it really.

RestingBitchFaced · 26/04/2019 17:57

I don't understand some of your post, I assume spellcheck gone wrong. But yes he is U, and lazy not to let the dog out. Poor thing must be bursting for a wee, it's cruel

Barbie222 · 26/04/2019 17:57

Ha ha, now I have autocorrected... let's all play Chinese whispers. Type in badness in the folds as fast as you can and post what you get....

hiyababy · 26/04/2019 18:02

I didn't want a dog, he did, I do everything for it, he promised he would do everything it drives me mad.
Who wanted the dog?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 26/04/2019 18:14

Well, that poor dog deserves better.

My DH definitely does not pull his weight with our dog. Nor do I expect him to as the dog is mine and the deal was that DH, who works away a lot, would never have responsibility for him.

So change your bed time and / or your dog's toilet timings. Problem solved

Now the folds can rest quietly.

Youtoldme · 26/04/2019 18:25

Have a small dog flap installed

motherheroic · 26/04/2019 19:00

@Bunnybigears My little dog can hold his wee for that amount of time, but it's not nice or comfortable is it? Try holding your pee from 7 till morning.

Aprillygirl · 26/04/2019 19:59

Can I just ask why your dog needs someone to stand outside with him while it plops. Also please hurry back and tell us what badness in the folds means.

HBStowe · 26/04/2019 20:06

There is wonder there is badness in the folds.

This is such an enticing, musical phrase. Please tell us what it means!

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 26/04/2019 20:07

Like others have said - did he want the dog?

My DM used to get animal after animal which my DF never wanted and then expected him to do all the dog walking or cleaning.

If you both decided on getting the dog then he needs to pull his weight.

werideatdawn · 26/04/2019 20:09

Your dog poops a lot?!
Anyway, yes he should be doing that at the very least.

ItsAllOkay · 26/04/2019 20:11

There is wonder there is badness in the folds.

It's like a line from a modernist performance poem. I can imagine you, palm outstretched, looking toward the crowd.."There is wonder..there is badness in the folds..."

Kaddm · 26/04/2019 20:17

Little dogs do often poo a lot. Their bodies don’t hold much before it needs to come out!

Your dh is a dick lying about letting the poor dog out when you have night training issues.

SugarPlumLairy2 · 26/04/2019 20:19

oooh please hurry back with explanation.

And yes your Dh is very unreasonable. Having said, that will doggo not “ask” to go out? My own dog often get the urge for a pee at 1am and comes to get me out of bed to do the honours (walks straight past hubby to do so too. NEVER wakes HIM up😡)

Anyway.... hurry back

Eliza9919 · 26/04/2019 22:00

It's obvious it means is there any wonder there's bad feeling between them

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