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To expect guests to bring toothpaste?

319 replies

peanacat · 25/04/2019 20:22

Please settle a debate, all the guests we have from dh side (family and friends it seems) never bring their own toothpaste to use when they visit. Never been an issue with my side of the family. (Geographical thing maybe?)

Me and dh share toothpaste but I find it weird that people don’t bring their own to use when they visit and we have to share ours with the guests?

I have no idea why it irritates me so much, but just seems weird and kinda germy Confused
Do you all take toothpaste when you go and stay somewhere?

OP posts:
redcarbluecar · 25/04/2019 23:11

Always have toothpaste but if I had to use a friend’s, I would, and would be surprised if it was an issue.

DexyMidnight · 25/04/2019 23:12

Wtaf nooo you yabu. Guests bring a toothbrush, that's all. Our guest bathroom always has deo, shampoo, conditioner and shower gel and guests are shown where to get extra towels.

I always have a little stash of free toothbrushes from planes (still sealed) which I can give if they stay on the spur of the moment.

I have noticed that Germans travel around with a complete toiletry set though.

AmeriAnn · 25/04/2019 23:12

I cannot believe that there are people who go to someones home and expect to use their toothpaste. Absolutely revolting cheeky fuckerey!

I always pack in my toilet bag - toothpaste, toothbrush, shampoo, conditioner, razor, soap, cotton buds, a few band aides, nail clippers and whatever. I even take my own towel - especially after I read here that people have a 'family' towel they all share!!

I've never heard of anyone here using the host's toothpaste.

DexyMidnight · 25/04/2019 23:15

Ah yes that's another thing, in the era of handluggage vacations I travel very very light!

AnyoneButAnton · 25/04/2019 23:20

TBF Bertrand, my Sensodyne is five times the price of DH’s bog standard Colgate. That’s why I’d never go anywhere without my own toothpaste unless it’s to my DPs who I know happen to use my preferred type.

Imustbemad00 · 25/04/2019 23:22

This is the most bonkers thread ever. Never would of imagined people had issues about sharing toothpaste.
Firstly, I’ve never really stayed with anyone that has a guest bathroom, nor do I have a wash bag.
I don’t stay out much. Toothbrush gets shoved in a sandwich bag Grin
I would only stay with people or have people stay with me if they were family or very close friends so wouldn’t even think to ask to use heir toiletries. Would just use shower gel, toothpaste, toilet roll ect. Would ask for a towel though.

Livingoncake · 25/04/2019 23:23

This is interesting. I always bring all my own toiletries because I’m quite picky about the products I use and wouldn’t want to take a chance on whatever happens to be in someone else’s shower.

That said, I always stock my bathroom with toiletries for guests to use because there’s always the chance they’ve forgotten something and I want them to be comfortable. I’m honestly not sure if the toothpaste thing grosses me out. I’ll have to ruminate on that.

Applesbananaspears · 25/04/2019 23:25

I’m so pleased I’ve never stayed at anyone’s house and never had an overnight guest to mine. Couldn’t cope with the stress over toothpaste and the sorry over towels

Imustbemad00 · 25/04/2019 23:26

It has never even crossed my mind if a guest has used my toothpaste or not. Not even on my radar.

icannotremember · 25/04/2019 23:29

I always take toothpaste and shampoo. But if people visit me I assume they'll use our stuff and I'm fine with that and often get nicer stuff than usual so they'll not think I have terrible low standards.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 25/04/2019 23:31

I can’t even share a toothpaste with DH

Why on earth not. Presumably you are happy to shove your tongue in his gob or his dick in your mouth so how can toothpaste be any more germy?

EmeraldShamrock · 25/04/2019 23:31

It could be is a geographical thing, dare I say it, could it be a class thing.
Is your DH's family working class. Wink

BertrandRussell · 25/04/2019 23:36

More likely to be the other way round. The posher the more relaxed about germs and hygiene in general is a good rule of thumb.

EmeraldShamrock · 25/04/2019 23:38

Yes when it comes to germs. With family I find working class is more sharing is caring, what's mine is yours.
Just come yourself.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 25/04/2019 23:42

OP how do feel about guests dtd in your house or actually daring to have a poo.

goingonabearhunt1 · 25/04/2019 23:44

We don't have a guest bathroom. I don't care if guests use anything in my bathroom tbh (though maybe not my makeup without asking!)

Dieu · 25/04/2019 23:52

How very odd that people would worry about this.

Planetian · 25/04/2019 23:52

I usually bring my own but I move/ travel/ stay with family a lot, so I’m used to packing and bring everything I need. Before my nomadic days I would have frequently forgotten to bring toothpaste as do many visitors to my house. It’s not a problem at all and I wouldn’t think twice lending my toothpaste to anyone. As pps have said, I also keep a basket of toiletries in the guest ensuite as people often forget toothpaste/shampoo etc.

I think YABU to be irritated by this OP

Planetian · 25/04/2019 23:56

I cannot believe that there are people who go to someones home and expect to use their toothpaste. Absolutely revolting cheeky fuckerey!

Hmm
opinionatedfreak · 25/04/2019 23:59

I am also astounded at this thread.

I would never have guessed sharing toothpaste was an issue!

My guests are welcome to use my toiletries except roll on deodorant. I even have alternative shower gel & generic shampoo in the bathroom guests as I my own products are quite niche ( very floral shower gel and blue shampoo to stop my hair going brassy).

When I had a guest bathroom it was fully stocked.

I usually travel with my own stuff but if I'm travelling light and visiting close friends/family toothpaste & shower gel would be the first products I culled from my wash bag.

OhTheRoses · 26/04/2019 00:06

May it be assumed that no human who finds a shared thbe of toothpaste abhorrent has ever given or received a blow job. Just interested in the overall standards of hygiene.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/04/2019 00:10

@OhTheRoses that could be a whole new thread AIBU to ask if you kiss your partner after oral sex befire they have gone and washed their mouth out?

llangennith · 26/04/2019 00:15

Always take my own even when staying with my DC and other close family. Sharing toothpaste is akin to sharing a lip salve as far as I'm concerned.

BertrandRussell · 26/04/2019 00:18

It wasn’t til Mumsnet that I realised I had been causing offence for decades by peeing and pooing in other people’s loos......

Bringbackthestripes · 26/04/2019 00:23

Are the people that are all germ phobic and weird about a bit of toothpaste sharing with friends and family the same people that won't have a bathroom bin in case anyone uses it?

Nope. I have a bathroom bin, people can use my hairbrush and I will even happily share my spray on deodorant (draw the line at roll on) shampoo and shower gel, provide towels or any sanitary products they need, I will even share a drink with them BUT I don’t want them dragging their spittle filled toothbrush across the top of my tooth paste! We all have boundaries

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