to ask you how you deal with interrupters?

[ChampionThreadKiller]

Just that really, people who don’t let you finish your sentence or answer you before you’ve finished your question (often anticipating a different question) .

I think you just stop and give them a look!

"I HADNT FINISHED YET" or "DO YOU MIND, IM TALKING". DH is really bad at talking over me, but I just use one of the above and he stops, apologises, and reminds me to keep telling him until he stops. He's getting better.

I used to be a real pushover and just stop talking but then something snapped inside of me one conversation. Never regret it.

Dd and ds do this because they are autistic and when a thought comes into their head they just have to say it. I remind them they have interupted. Dd is especially bad as her processing speed is so fast.

Either say I'm talking, or just start the sentence again and keep going, don't be interrupted.

I’m an interrupter. Just smack me upside the head. I really annoy myself. It’s like some sort of twitch.

Dead I’m not sure I’m that brave, with acquaintances anyway.

Black yes, I do this sometimes but with some people it makes no difference at all. I’m surprised they can’t read my feelings on my face as I’ve been told I have a very expressive (scary) face!

I do it too. It’s a social anxiety thing and I try and stop myself when I realise I’m doing it...

I'd say "excuse me for talking whilst you were interrupting"

I am an interrupter and so is DD. Sorry! It's an affliction. And probably means I'm really interested in what you're saying and very excited. Just smile and say, "let me finish a thought" or something and I will try really hard to.

Being rude or mean back will stop me but it won't make the conversation flow because I'll feel like shit. Which is fine if that's the point of it but generally I do it more with people I like and respect so that's what it is.

Champion if they're acquaintances it doesn't matter what they think. Some people are just rude regardless. If it's a genuine mistake and the person is nice they'll apologise. If not then who cares? They need to learn. Giving looks doesn't help. I tried that.

I do hope you find something that works though. It's a PITA being spoken over.

Keep going. Get louder.... and LOUDER

Yep I’m another who suffers with crippling social anxiety who does it.
I don’t mean to, it annoys me and I beat myself up for weeks for doing it.
I apologise! I don’t mean to, I’m listening to what you are saying but I’m so excited that I might be able to help you / sympathise / have something to add, it just spills out.

I do this

I’m aware and try to be better.
I often come home from the pub or a catch up and feel really down about having done it.

I have one friend who gently pulls me on it and I love her for it.

I do this a lot, I’m so aware of it and it really bothers me but the words just come out before I can stop them! It’s usually when I’m excited about something! It’s so embarrassing, I’ve noticed my DM does it a lot too- maybe where it’s come from? If the continue talking more loudly it usually remind me to chill out.

"I HADNT FINISHED YET" or "DO YOU MIND, IM TALKING"

That can come across as very rude. I have a friend who does this alot but her reason is that she likes the sound of her own voice. We are not friends anymore (for other reasons besides that).

My reasoning would be that a conversation is two-way and you shouldn't have to ask permission to get your views across. That would be like being back in school with your hand up. Conversations should flow back and forth.

I know I interrupt if I think of something I need to get out there but that is because if I don't get it out then it just falls out of my head. People who know me well realise this and just let me talk or it could be days before I remember what I wanted to say.

just stop talking and head tilt and smile at them for a bit then restart talking right where you left off, or start over from the beginning and if they interrupt again, stop, head tilt and smile etc etc over and over until they get it

Sarcasm, i normally say "oh okay i guess your talking now" people tend to laugh it off but it points it out to them.

Some people honestly do it without thinking, tends to be people who grew up in big loud families as they had to interrupt to be heard.

I'd say "excuse me for talking whilst you were interrupting"

hahahhaha I'm stealing that

KOBr 🤣🤣🤣

It happens a lot with my husband’s family and I’m used to it now as that’s just how they are and they’re not going to change just for me but I’m finding it hard today as we have a decorator in and he won’t let me finish explaining what I want done. The conversation Has been going a bit like this:

Me: Please could you.....
Dec: Paint that wall?
Me: No, I’d like..
Dec: It like this...
Me: No...

and so on. I should just say If you’d just let me finish for fuck’s sake but am too chicken. Guess I should just grow a backbone but I know I’ll just make myself look hysterical 😩😂

I do this. Just ask me nicely not to.

I'm not being deliberately rude. Being rude back will only ruin the friendship. I'm not going to learn to not do it - what has helped me the most has been the maturation of my brain over time. Shaming me for doing it makes no more sense than shaming someone with a limp for not walking properly.

If you head tilted at me - I have no idea what that looks like but it sounds like it would look the same as a crick in your neck...

My ex used to do the stop and pointed look thing, I absolutely hated it. Felt like a naughty school child. It wasn’t a nice way of ‘dealing with it’ at all, it was unnecessarily patronising and embarrassing.

Am going to try some of these later (but not all at once). Will crick my neck with all that head tilting!

@soulrunner
Me too! I try not to, I just think so quick. I’m always good in arguments because my comebacks are so quick.
I try to mindful and often find myself apologising for interrupting

My DH used to do that AND he used to talk too long and too loudly. Dominating conversations.

I just told him...I chose a quiet moment and told him he was coming over like a wanker.

He took it right on board.

Cross post with Chouetted