to ask you how you deal with interrupters?

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Just that really, people who don’t let you finish your sentence or answer you before you’ve finished your question (often anticipating a different question) .

@cstaff i know it can, but for me, its the only way i can finish what im saying. And if someone thinks its rude, then they started it by talking over me. (I also don't talk much and hate my voice.. I'm very conscious of it)
If it's parents/grandparents I'm a bit more tactful but for people that don't fall in those categories I honestly couldn't care how they felt. I've spent my whole life being spoken over/ignored. I'm not having it.

My partners son does this a lot and it really makes me feel that he’s not listening to understand and contribute to the conversation. He’s listening until he hears a word that triggers yet another one of his own stories and then he just starts yapping about that. I may as well be talking to the wall. He’s a lovely buy but sometimes that drives me nuts.

Usually I just say Can I finish?

Oi, shut up & stop talking over me you might learn something, you ignorant sexist git

At DH who is bad for this, as he's guilty & gets really upset by the sexist accusation 😆

Otherwise depending on how well I know them, I'd go with "excuse me, I hadn't finished talking" or oi, Rude git who likes the sound of their own voice, I'm still talking" - said with a smile

I do this all the time and annoy myself. I just can't help it and at nearly 40 it's unlikely I'll change. Ironically me and DH are trying to teach DC not to interrupt. Double standards or what! I guess I'm just annoying!

One of my ex's most annoying habits would be to ask me a direct question about , then when I started to answer, would say "hold on".

SO WHY ASK ME?!

I ended up just walking off after a while.

Shaming me for doing it makes no more sense than shaming someone with a limp for not walking properly.

ah stop will ya

As a child my father went potty if I interrupted so I find it hard to keep talking over someone if they interrupt and I just automatically stop talking. It amazes me that my stepmother constantly interrupts him and he never says a word. They do say love is blind (must be deaf too).

"Mouth moving, still talking" has been said a few times to serial interrupters, otherwise an excuse me haven't quite finished.

MrsTerryPratchet - you've cheered me up with that post!

You'll know what i mean - I'll say no more but thanks

There are people who want to continue until they have decided to finish speaking - whenever that might be, and those of us who see conversation as a chance for two or more people to interact, whether that means that everyone gets their turn or we stick to a point

I do it. I try not to but sometimes realise after a conversation (usually one I've really enjoyed) that I did it again. Apologies to anybody I've annoyed, ever.

I once worked in a senior leadership team (wanky title, but that's what it was called) where I was the only woman. In meetings, i would put arm out, at table level, with my palm facing the person who had interrupted me and tell them i hadn't finished. Usually worked.

After the second or third meeting they stopped interrupting me. It didn't mean they actually listened to me. That took a couple of months ( years on
some occaisions).

Stil, small vicories

@AyraStarkWolf They are both things that people do, you know...

I do it - I didn’t even realise until I started working with someone who gets really angry about it. I think she thinks it’s deliberate, but it really isn’t, and I feel like shit every time she tells me off. I have tried to have a conversation with her about it, and have said to just poke me or tell me to shut up in a jokey way, but it hasn’t worked.

DH interrupts me all the time. I have tried asking nicely, he still does it. So I now do the increasing volume thing, which ends with me bellowing I WAS STILL TALKING. Not ideal, but I have fibro fog and if I don’t get my thought out, I will forget what I wanted to say (this has happened several times).

@Chouetted limping isn't rude and disrespectful.

Nice excuse for being rude though trying to make out interrupting people is some sort of disability

@aryastarkwolf Oh, but it is - it's rude and attention seeking to limp. If you haven't hurt yourself, you mustn't limp, and if you have hurt yourself you seek medical attention and then get over it asap.

No, these aren't my views now, and they may not be your views, but they are real views that exist.

I'm an interrupter ! I just get too involved in what your saying and before I know it, I'm interrupting, sorry 😐

If I'm really annoyed by being interrupted I just stop talking. Sometimes I.just walk away or if I really need to say it I just ask can you not hear that I'm still speaking?

@Chouetted what are you talking about? That has to be thee most bizarre comparison I've heard

I interrupt to. I just get animated by conversation and join in a bit too much sometimes. I know I do it and try and hold back a lot but sometimes it just happens despite my best intentions.

Depends who it is and/or the circumstances. I might say "may I just finish this point whilst it's in my head" or "excuse me I'm still talking!" The second point to someone who starts a different conversation to the one we were having whilst I was in the middle of a sentence.

@aryastarkwolf? Why is it bizarre? They're both things that take great concentration to not do if you're prone to doing it, and are internally unpleasant to suppress. One slip in concentration and the limp slips out.

I can speak to both, as I've personally experienced both situations. I assume it's fairly common - I'm not special or unusual.

I get interrupted so much that I now have a bit of a complex that I must be really dull and uninteresting. There are a handful of people who let me speak and listen to what I say before responding and a value them so much because they are such a rarity.
Even when I make sure I’m speaking in short, brief sentences I still get interrupted constantly. It genuinely makes me very frustrated and sad.