To think you can move a travel potty 3 metres?

[Confrontayshunme]

Was in toddler ballet class this morning when a parent suddenly pulls out a ladybug travel potty and plops naked bottomed child onto the toilet. She proceeds to grunt away for the rest of a song while we are trying to walk around her. Does a massive stinky poo. Then parent wipes her bum with a wipe AND LEAVES THE POTTY OPEN FOR THE REST OF THE CLASS. 20 minutes I had to sit there with eau de crap when the door to an empty hall and toilet was a few steps away. The teacher looked really stunned. There is actually a clause in the terms when you join saying you will take your child out or get them to potty before. I have trained three kids and never done anything like this but it has been a few years.
AIBU or do I get to just whip out a potty at weddings, ballet classes, restaurants etc in a few months?

What the hell!!??

That smacks of loud parenting really doesn’t it?

“Look at me potty training my child. Aren’t I awesome?! Please do give me some attention”

The dance teacher should have stopped the class and refused to carry on until mum moved the potty

Eh?! Why didn't she just take it to the bathroom???!!!

I've potty trained many children over the years as a nanny and I've never needed to sit them on a potty in public, apart from it being not very pleasant for everyone else, it's not particularly dignified or respectful for the child. If they are not able to hang on for the minute or so that it takes to take the potty and child somewhere slightly more private, I would say they are not really ready to potty train.

Can't believe no one said anything! I would have

I'm sure no-one knew quite what to say! I assume the teacher will have a word with the mother before next lesson.

Agree with NannyR never put either of my two on a potty in public either

Absolutely what nanny says.

Fucking vile for everyone else and shows no respect for the child, plonking them in the middle of a crowd to have a shit

Do some parents completely lose their grip on reality after having a child? It’s like they exist in a parallel universe.

The "behaviour policy" specifically says "no potty training in the space due to health and safety". Would it be unreasonable to email the teacher and say "This was gross. Could you have a word?"

Good God, I'm so shocked! I mean the toileting in the middle of the room when the class is continuing is one (unpleasant) thing, but LEAVING IT THERE FULL OF POO??? What the hell was she thinking?? I think I'd have asked her to empty it. Gross.

Oh my god that’s disgusting! I think emailing the teacher would be ok, the fact is that the potty wasn’t even emptied and that’s completlet unacceptable. It’s a health and safety thing, you can’t just have a bowl full of shit in the corner (I’m not a potty training fan can you tell 😂)

The teacher should have spoken up. That's really horrible so yes, email the class leader!

Poor child!

Parent is obviously batshit. I have to say if I was the teacher I'd have paused and asked them to take it outside immediately, why on earth did everyone just pretend nothing was happening?

Not U to email the teacher at all. There are so many things wrong with the parents decision, the teachers lack of response to it at the time and then there are masses of health and safety issues surrounding the idea of having a used potty in a room of people, let alone a room filled with active and curious toddlers.

Ewww, that;s fucking gross. I never even bought a potty, DS just learned to use a toilet.

I have toilet trained 10+dc and never owned a travel potty!
Bloody hell she was a lazy cf!!

Really no one said anything.

God that's horrific. Not U to email the teacher.

Potty's are vile anyway. Just use a toilet and a kiddy seat cover.

I always post this story on threads about public potty use, mainly because although it was nearly 30 years ago, I remain traumatised by it! Was at a friend's house for a nice lunch to coincide with the visit of a mutual friend who lived at the other end of the country and we didn't see often. Host friend's DD was potty training. During lunch, DD came in clutching potty and said she needed to use it. She specifically wanted to put the potty on the table and use it there. Host friend let her. Yes - she put the potty on the table, DD sat on it, did a poo and went away again. During lunch. Nobody said anything.

I once (in retail) had a parent stick a potty down and let the child go in front of the counter. The toilet was no more than 15 paces away. Having already toilet trained my own child without the need of a travel potty I was gobsmacked,

Ridiculous that the class teacher didn’t say anything in that situation.

My friend's son was slow to toilet train...so she'd change his nappy in front of everyone! So....a roomfull of visitors and she;s laying down her 4 year old and wiping up his shit whilst we're all trying to eat cake.

I had to speak to her. It took me ages to get the nerve but I told her she needed to give him his privacy...to her he was a baby still but he was this articulate child with opinions and everything! He needed to be alone for that kind of thing!

If they are not able to hang on for the minute or so that it takes to take the potty and child somewhere slightly more private, I would say they are not really ready to potty train

This.

I also had a dance class where the parent followed the child around for the full hour, potty in hand. Then the child pissed all over the floor. There was a toilet next door!

It’s always the parents that tell everyone that their child was toilet trained by 18m as well. When they mean they put them in pants and the child pissed and shit everywhere until they were 2.5 like everyone else.

I once had an outraged parent tell me how a police officer had asked her not to let her son piss on the pavement. Didn’t the officer know he wasn’t even 2 and couldn't hold it!

If they can’t hold it long enough to get to the toilet or somewhere more private they aren’t ready.

If the kid was grunting, then there must have been time to take them toiletwards!

Ew, there was no need for that. I get that sometimes needs must and we did have emergency moments with our 2 but I'd always take them somewhere discreet and clear it up immediately.

Never had need for a travel potty or public displays of training programme. Revolting.

People saying if they can’t hold it they aren’t ready o train, sorry but that’s a bit bollox really. Trained youngest dc at 2.4 and we still take a potty out And about, regularly have to use it in the boot of the car or by a roadside, however dc has only ever had one wee accident since training 6m ago so obvs doing something right. You can’t always garuntee you’ll be reasonably near a loo and If your toddler is drinking the correct amount of fluids, that’s quite a few toilet trips throughout the day.

However dc has never pooed in the potty outside of home and if dc did no way would I let her do it blatantly in public or leave it lying around, common sense says you’d try and put the potty somewhere discrete, preferably toilets if near and dispose of it as soon as dc has finished.

Would def have to speak to dance teacher about it tbh as if women gets away with it, it could become a weekly occurrence! JUst nasty to do that when the toilet is nearby.