To think you can move a travel potty 3 metres?

[Confrontayshunme]

Was in toddler ballet class this morning when a parent suddenly pulls out a ladybug travel potty and plops naked bottomed child onto the toilet. She proceeds to grunt away for the rest of a song while we are trying to walk around her. Does a massive stinky poo. Then parent wipes her bum with a wipe AND LEAVES THE POTTY OPEN FOR THE REST OF THE CLASS. 20 minutes I had to sit there with eau de crap when the door to an empty hall and toilet was a few steps away. The teacher looked really stunned. There is actually a clause in the terms when you join saying you will take your child out or get them to potty before. I have trained three kids and never done anything like this but it has been a few years.
AIBU or do I get to just whip out a potty at weddings, ballet classes, restaurants etc in a few months?

Im a loud mouth I would of said "TAKE THAT SHIT ELSEWHERE" 😂

Oh wow that's horrendous!

Most public my travel potty gets used is in a laybay on the road

Op that is totally gross. Contact the dance teacher and request that she speaks to this parent to tell her to bring her child and potty to the bathroom in future. I'd have said something given she left it there after use - why would you and any of the other parents have just put up with it?

Oh my god it made me retch just reading that. I honestly think if the child can't wait 1 minute to get to the toilet they're not ready for potty training. That is beyond gross.

We're potty training right now and carrying the (non-travel) potty everywhere, but trying our best to use it in as private space as possible. Where there are toilets, then we'll go in there - if not (e.g. a park) then it'll be a secluded spot while we shield them. Admittedly haven't got to the part where he'll poo in a potty but when we do then I imagine we'll be even more conscious of this!! YADNBU - although for wees I think whipping it out in public spaces but being mindful of others isn't the end of the world really.

That’s dreadful.

I was ready to give the mother the benefit of the doubt to start with - I had to potty train DD before she was really ready as she developed the most awful nappy rash the doctors had seen (ended up getting a paediatric dermatologist referral which, along with potty training, helped a lot). It was a really stressful time and on one occasion I was waiting in the GPs waiting room and DD needed a wee so I whipped the potty out from under the buggy and she went there and then. Halfway through the wee I realised I really should have dashed her to the toilet but I panicked as I didn’t want an accident. I immediately took the wee and disposed of it in the patient toilets and apologised to the other patient waiting.

Doesn’t sound like that mother was panicking though, unless she did and then realised what she’d done and was too mortified to deal with it. The teacher really should have told her to get rid.

I’ve found travel pottys great for in that urgent stage so kiddo can be popped on it downstairs and then the potty be carried upstairs without spilling, also when far away from public toilets on a long walk you can pull kiddo into a bush with it.

But yeah, she should’ve used the toilet. And why not close it ffs, that’s the whole point!

I feel like I should clarify that the parent was a dad rather than a mum so we aren't all piling on an invisible woman! Maybe he is one of the super clueless ones like in another thread. Or maybe, like my husband, he thinks everyone cares about poop!

We have a travel potty. For travelling. If dd needs to go when we're driving I pull up and she sits on it in the boot of the car and because I can close the lid I can deal with the contents when I next get to a toilet.
Anywhere else we go to the toilets. We've never not been able to attempt to go to the toilet, and if she's started going before surely that's how she learns to recognise she needs to go earlier?
I'd email the teacher about this as that is actually disgusting.

Disgusting! And I agree, that kids not ready but the parent wants her to be ready so is doing this

@makingmiracles

Sorry if you can't wait 2 minutes to find a more appropriate place they're not ready to toilet train. Of course if you just watch your DC like a hawk and shove them on the potty the second they need to go they won't have accidents that doesn't mean they're really trained. What if you were in a restaurant or stuck in a traffic jam? I don't think there's anything wrong with taking a potty with you for places like parks where it may be a 20 minute walk to the loo.

Was the child on the potty a member of the class?! The teacher should have been strong enough to tell the mother to remove herself to the toilet, tbh, even without an actual written policy.
I would complain to the teacher afterwards, and ask her to explain why she let this go on.

Oh, it’s a Dad. Same thing applies. No one needs to watch his kid having a crap when there’s a bloody ballet class in session.