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To think there's no difference between shouting and raising one's voice?

30 replies

GinsanityBeckons · 25/04/2019 10:42

Just that really. Shouting is raising one's voice, isn't it? If asked to stop shouting the response "I wasn't shouting I was raising my voice" is a bit wanky.

AIBU to think the two are one and the same?

OP posts:
Boom45 · 25/04/2019 10:44

Dunno, i sometimes raise my voice to be heard over my noisy children - not angry, just being heard. I always think shouting is an angry thing.

Ohyesiam · 25/04/2019 10:46

I think people say that someone was shouting when they were raising their voice, so yes, to a lot of people they are the same or very similar.

FrequentNameChange · 25/04/2019 10:47

No, there's a big difference. Shouting is well shouting, normally used either in anger or excitement. Raising your voice is to be heard.

Tonightstheteriyakichicken · 25/04/2019 10:47

Sorry I think there is a difference.

What if someone's a distance away or you're competing with background noise, you don't necessarily shout.

Butchyrestingface · 25/04/2019 10:48

I don’t think they’re the same. You can raise your voice and not be shouting. Similarly you can raise your voice and be shouting.

Surely it depends on the level, pitch, etc? Confused

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 25/04/2019 10:49

They're different things.

FunkyKingston · 25/04/2019 10:49

When students are chattering, i will raise my voice to ask for quiet, simply to be heard over the chatter. A raised voice doesn't imply anger. Shouting does.

BogglesGoggles · 25/04/2019 10:49

Shouting is at the top end of raising ones voice. One is always raising ones voice when shouting. When raising ones voice, one sometimes shouts.

Siameasy · 25/04/2019 10:52

Shouting is more propelled and has more of an edge to it. Depends on the context

BarbarianMum · 25/04/2019 10:56

No there are not necessarily the same at all. Neither is either necessarily aggressive or indicative of anger. Shouting "fire" or "help" for example.

Peachesandcream14 · 25/04/2019 11:04

During an argument they are pretty much the same imo, although my ex would always vehemently disagree that he was being aggressive when 'raising his voice'.

PodgeBod · 25/04/2019 11:07

I think they're completely different

Blondebakingmumma · 25/04/2019 11:11

I think shouting is emotionally driven in either anger, or excitement.

It’s possible to raise your voice to be heard, but not in anger

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 25/04/2019 11:15

There is a difference. A big difference.

AnnaComnena · 25/04/2019 11:18

You raise your voice to make yourself heard in a classroom above the noise of children/students talking. You shout to make yourself heard across a playing field, or if it's urgent. 'Katie, stop that!'

windysowindy · 25/04/2019 11:21

This ^^
I raise my voice at work to make sure they can all hear me

DuffBeer · 25/04/2019 11:22

Definitely a big difference. Mainly to do with the tone of voice used.

When I raise my voice I sound agitated and frustrated. If I were to shout (which would be extremely rare) then I would have completely lost control.

cushioncovers · 25/04/2019 11:23

They are different imo. It's all in intent and what's being said that separates them.

acomingin · 25/04/2019 11:28

Two different things.

YouLikeTheBadOnesToo · 25/04/2019 13:55

Sorry, but I think they’re two different things. Raising your voice is speaking in a louder voice to make yourself heard. Shouting is speaking almost as loud as you can, either in excitement or anger, or to gain someone’s attention/ make them aware of something.

PrincessTiggerlily · 25/04/2019 13:58

Raising your voice is speaking loudly because there is another noise or the other person is deaf, raising your voice because your angry is raising your voice because you are angry. Ditto shouting.

Walkingthedog46 · 25/04/2019 14:01

My husband used to say he wasn’t shouting - he was speaking emphatically!!!!!!!

RedTideBlues · 25/04/2019 14:08

If you have ever heard the Sergeant Major on Horse Guards parade you can soon tell the difference.

justarandomtricycle · 25/04/2019 14:10

All shouting is raising your voice, but not all raising of your voice is shouting

OneofPansPeople · 25/04/2019 14:12

Completely different.

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