If you could give your younger self advice of what do you wish you knew then?

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If you could talk to your younger self what would you say? What do you wish you had known then that you do know.
My would probably be just because you've known them for a years it doesn't mean they are friends that have your back.
That it's okay to say no you dont have to please everyone.
Save start little and gradually build soon there'll be a nice amount.
Dont care about what people think the only opinion that matters is yours.

Adult life will be harder and less fulfilling than you imagine, all the insecurities and failings will be magnified by the adult world nor will a relationship solve them. Ohand those frosted tips you had in the early 2000s made you look a right prat.

Being an adult is mostly shit. But you can eat cake for breakfast if you so choose, so there is that.

Oh, also, being fat is not a moral failing. It does not make you a bad person or someone who isn’t worthy of success or love.

That at a size 10-12 you are not fat (!)

Get the unsuitable bad boys out of your system in your late teens / early 20s DO NOT COHABIT WITH ANY OF THEM

Friends can be the family you choose

You will amaze yourself at what you can cope with and how strong you are

Some people are just cunts. It's fine to ignore them

You can get nicely pissed without puking everywhere

Buy a property as early as you can even if it feels too 'grown up'. Your 45 year old self will thank you for it

Don't settle.
Value you above all else. Know your worth.
It's ok to not be so open. Keep your own secrets.
Treasure family and remain true to them as you grow and meet new friends / relationships.

Stay single. And take coding classes.

Education, buy a house, rent it out, and travel

Don’t be in a rush to have kids. Your career will never recover.

Your mum is always right, and always be nice to her, she is trying her best

You are not fat- you are beautiful
Do not stop working out and doing all the sports you love doing- the negative impact it will have on your health is bigger than you imagine

Your friends now are not your true friends. Being part of the "popular" group just means your friends are bitchy and slag you off behind your back. You will realise in a few years those who are truly your friends

Get over that boy- better things are on their way.

Work harder in school. Yes your life ends up panning out as it should, but only after some hard graft after it was almost too late. Education is invaluable

Mates not dates. Friends are so important.

Get educated and fend for yourself. Don’t become reliant upon a husband

Trust your gut
Choose your battles
Keep learning
Save some money
You don't have to be in a relationship
You will astonish yourself at how strong you can be and what you can cope with
Be kind

Don't be insecure about how you look - I'm nearly 50 and saw a pic of myself at 19 the other day and thought how young and pretty I looked. But at the time I hated how I looked and wished I was prettier!
Don't settle - If you waste your time on the wrong man (as I did!) you miss out on potentially meeting the right one! In the same vein, it's ok not to be in a relationship.
Value yourself - The way people treat you is often a reflection on the way you treat yourself.

Don’t be so own and trusting. Talk less, listen more and you’ll take more in. Get into exercising and eating well and so not get into debt...save up. You know that guy yo think you love, he’s an utter walloper and you can do so much better... a million miles better.

DON'T RENT!

To value myself and prioritise myself and what I wanted instead of trying to please others. That other people's 'approval' of me doesn't actually matter, it's what I think of me that counts. And don't have DC. Not because I don't love them, I absolutely do but honestly life is fucking painful and I wish I hadn't subjected them to it.

You are beautiful and will indeed be hell in high heels one day. Own the spirit that lies hidden within you.

Don't believe that everyone else is doing 'better' than you, they may look like they have their shit together but you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

I spent many years being jealous of people who I really believed had perfect lives, turned out they didn't!

Stay single.
You are not fat.
You shouldn't care what people think of you.

Listen to the compliments, the good times, the successes. Relish them 😁
(Not the negative things that you interpret and use to beat yourself up)

That my so called 'friends' would desert me the moment I found my own happiness - I wish I knew this so I could have fucked them off a lot earlier and saved myself a lot of heartache.

That life really is what you make it

Relationships are not that important. Never live with anyone, stay single, save, get your own house and a cat.

Dont worry about promotion/status , just get some decent qualifications and a decent mid range job with a pension that pays the bills , but dont forget to live your life,

Its ok to have a child on your own , but just have the one.

Marry the man you want to at 17, don't let work pull you away from him.

Don't cohabit or marry abusive bellends

Keep up with exercise

You got this!

That by 21 your dad will be dead (without warning) so to love him and enjoy him enough to last a lifetime and don't miss that last Christmas with him because he'll be gone by February!

You are not fat.

Go off the beaten track, you'll make new friends and connections.

Don't bother with open uni degree.

Save.

Oh and by 30 your mobility will be fucked so run and dance and jump and travel and live, live like your life is about to end because physically it will really, really soon

Education is for life
Don’t have children before you can afford them
Don’t overlook geeky men
Travel as much as you can