If you could give your younger self advice of what do you wish you knew then?

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If you could talk to your younger self what would you say? What do you wish you had known then that you do know.
My would probably be just because you've known them for a years it doesn't mean they are friends that have your back.
That it's okay to say no you dont have to please everyone.
Save start little and gradually build soon there'll be a nice amount.
Dont care about what people think the only opinion that matters is yours.

neither of us will retire.

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It really doesn't matter what other people think. As long as you and your crew are happy, nothing else matters

Stay in that job at the accounting centre. They will train you up for free! Don't bother going to uni and getting in all that debt!

Although if I'd done that I wouldn't have met my husband so.. meh

Learn to say "Fuck off" with meaning!

Get to the highest possible level in your career that you can before you have children.

Men are overrated. If you find a nice one, by all means keep him around and enjoy him, but you don’t need him.

Be very, very careful choosing a father for your children. Don't be in a hurry, there's no rush. Remember a lot of personality traits are genetic - if you see it in the potential father, you may well see it in his child. Laziness, bad temper, alchoholism, beware!!!

Think about your career choices. You're intelligent enough to do anything you want, don't squander that.

Cuddle your cat. She won't be there when you're 30, like you expected. But there will be other cats that need cuddles.

Nothing. I'm happy with the ways I've got things wrong.

It really isn’t worth worrying about it. Apply as appropriate.

Depressing how some people are saying being an adult is rubbish. The older we get, the happier I am.

I also am pretty happy with my lot...mistakes included tbh.

Those lads you think are your friends are NOT good friends & will destroy your self esteem!

Follow your career dreams

Travel and do things you want to do

If you have any negative feelings about a relationship, LISTEN to them

Go on as many roller coasters and fairground rides as possible, by the time you're 30 they will make you vomit.

Eat as much chocolate and crisps as you like, by the time you're 40 your metabolism will have slowed down so you won't get away with it any more.

NEVER get a perm

Don't chase men. If you have to chase them then they're just not that into you and that's okay. The right one will come along and chase you one day.

Look after your health.
Don't start smoking and drinking to excess. It will catch up to you.
Value your body.
Treat yourself with respect.

You will never again look as young as you do now

Have a Caeasarean

Walk bare foot on the beach with the sea lapping at your feet at every opportunity.
Watch every sunset you can
Don’t be ashamed to be whoever you want to be

Never ever guarantee a loan for someone even if there potential earnings outstrips yours

Just because you fell pregnant doesn’t mean it will work out

Study ffs

Take care of your body or it will fail you in early 30s

Enjoy your life

Choose a career and study in that field at university instead of doing the same pointless course as your pal. Or don't go to university and instead start working so you're not saddled with the debt.

Don't get dogs at 20. They're very nice but you might as well have had kids your life will be that limited.

Don't have kids at 25.

Travel.

You are more beautiful and slim than you will ever be again. Enjoy your youth and use it to your advantage.

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I would tell my younger self to enjoy herself more. It's not that you're not good enough or are deficient in some way - everyone feels low worth from time to time and it's your job to work on it

And to focus on writing instead of boys!

Don't be in such a rush to grow up and leave home, just because you can move out at 16 doesn't mean you should, let your mum and dad care for you a little while longer. Work hard doing something you love, manage money and live by your means, debt sucks. There's a whole world out there, go and see it, travel and experience life. Not everyone you meet will be your friends, be careful who you trust.

To me....
At 10 - you will both survive this. You have each other
At 20 - he isn't the love of your life
At 30 - it's going to be a long haul, and get really scary but you will have kids....3!
At 40 - all your instincts are right, there is something wrong, but he will get a diagnosis, and he will be awesome.
At 50.....to be continued in 10 years time!