Ok, so it’s not as bad it sounds. We weren’t together at the time (a year or two before). He lent her 10,000. He never told me this and I’m unsure if she paid it back. Today we were clearing out some old paperwork together. He found a cheque book from 2008 and he had written a cheque for 10,000 when I questioned it (who wouldn’t) oh said I can’t remember and wasn’t sure and changed the subject. Who doesn’t remember lending someone 10,000??
He hasn’t got that kind of money now. All our money is tied up in the house and we are scraping by every month.
Because he changed the subject quickly so you think she never paid it back? Surely if she paid it back it wouldn’t of been something he didn’t want to talk about.
His money of course, this isn’t my problem because it was before we were together but Oh’s mum ‘lent’ us a few thousand to help with a car a few years ago but OH said we didn’t have to rush to pay it back and never did. Why? It just seems like I’m being kept in the dark.
I’m just confused to be honest. Why has he never mentioned it? Did she really manage to pay him 10000 back in the 1-2 years between him lending it and us being together? I mean 10,000! Surely kids should be borrowing off their parents, not the other way around.
What’s annoying me more is that my mum has asked to borrow money off me (usually the odd £50 or whatever). I don’t really have any spare so I have to say no and my OH gets agro saying that parents shouldn’t borrow off their children and ‘my mum would never ask to borrow money off me’ but she bloody has. Surely he just can’t forget about 10,000??
He also lent her 2 grand a few years ago (I knew about this) for a TV.
Am I over thinking this? Should I just let it slide?? I’m just confused!