I've posted a couple of times before for advice about the fact my DP and father of my children doesn't want to leave London, despite it not being financially feasible for us to continue living here as we are. We're in a one bed flat with a toddler and I'm about to give birth to our second any day now, we've known for a considerable amount of time that something needed to be done and sharpish when we decided to keep the second baby but he has dragged his heels and nothing materialised.
We've butted heads over this for many months and failed to come to a compromise that would work for everybody concerned because he's very adverse to any change whatsoever (he's on the ASD spectrum if that's relevant).
I've decided that I'm going to do me and the DC a favour and make the choice for us so my minds made up and we're going on our own.
He doesn't want to leave everything he knows here (his first DC - understandably - his hobby club and one older relative). He doesn't want to have to travel long distance regularly to see his older DC so I suspect he won't want to make the effort to come and visit our two, either. It looks like I'm in it alone from here on out.
He has had his hours reduced at work so it really is crunch time as before long we won't be able to afford this flat whatsoever, let alone it be a pinch every month, so it's a case of jump before I'm pushed. I expect he will move in with his relative temporarily when I leave.
My plan is to give notice on our flat and use the deposit to rent somewhere i have ties a couple of hundred miles away, very cheap rent in comparison and a better quality of life.
I'm positively shitting myself because I'll be doing all of this on my own with a toddler and a newborn but I want a better future for my children than being couped up in a poky flat, scraping by miserably.
My AIBU is, am i being mad for thinking I can do all of this within the next three months whilst baby is so young?
I want to go before I lose my nerve or he convinces me to change my mind.