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Daughter's predictable but weird period cycle

31 replies

CareBear50 · 22/04/2019 08:59

Good morning everybody

My daughter attends university In England and comes back home to Northern Ireland 3 or 4 times a year.

She NEVER has periods at uni, but without fail, every time she comes home her period arrives.this has been going on now for three years.

She's normal weight....size ten..... No other medical issues. Is very happy at university.

Anyone any ideas what could be going on??? Her GP doesn't seem to think it's an issue though. Very weird!

OP posts:
Treezylover · 22/04/2019 09:05

I was going to respond with an obvious reason for this, but then I wondered... why are you so curious?

lubeybooby · 22/04/2019 09:07

could it be stress? I don't ovulate when stressed. No ovulation = no period.

Original poster
CareBear50 · 22/04/2019 09:08

Cos she mentions it to me every time she comes back and I'm curious if anyone might have any pointers

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OwlinaTree · 22/04/2019 09:09

This used to happen to my sister when she was at uni. I assume all was well in the end as she has had a child.

MatildaTheCat · 22/04/2019 09:14

Could it be her hormones syncing with yours or any other sisters at home? When I lived with a flat full of women we all had our periods together and I believe nuns have the same thing ( our flat was most decidedly not a nunnery!)

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CareBear50 · 22/04/2019 10:28

Thanks guys.

I honestly don't know what it is. Thanks for your ideas.....I don't think it's a synching thing but maybe it is stress related. Not sure.

#Owlina thanks for that.....glad to hear all went well w your sister

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SweatyUnderboob · 22/04/2019 11:23

Is there a difference in her diet when she is home?

tired17 · 22/04/2019 11:43

I went travelling a lot when younger (early 20s). Never had a period when away despite it being for significant periods of time. I've no idea why but once i was settled everything went back to normal and I now have 2 DCs. I always thought it was my body realising that ovulation/pregnancy would not be convenient at that time.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 22/04/2019 11:46

Does she change or stop her contraceptive when she comes home because she doesn't need it at home?

For example take a break from the pill at home?

PotatoScallop · 22/04/2019 11:58

I wondered if she is hiding the fact she was on the pill from you. Takes it at uni and stops at home?

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CareBear50 · 22/04/2019 16:46

Not sure if she's on the pill or not. But that is nothing to do with me, and she knows I wouldn't comment or pass judgement, so that wouldn't be the issue.

I don't think it's diet related either.

Maybe it's a stress thing....mmmm.....it's just odd.

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Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 23/04/2019 00:46

No obviously you don't care as it's her choice but it may be a relative component because certain contraception will change or stop her cycle and that would possibly explain it.

She should but may not be aware it's a contributing factor.

Obviously it may completely irrelevant!

englishdictionary · 23/04/2019 01:06

How bizarre you think whether she is on the pill or not is nothing to do with you but her periods are!

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CareBear50 · 25/04/2019 08:51

@english dictionary......because she mentions to me every time she comes back about her weird cycle....that is why it's 'to do with me' as she brings it up with me.

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x2boys · 25/04/2019 08:55

My cycle was never regular ,I could have three periods in a row and then go six months with out a period it was always like that , I have two children and didn't need fertility treatment so it was ent too much of a problem.

EugeniaGrace · 25/04/2019 08:55

This happened to me my first two years at uni. I think it was stress and being slightly underweight. No period during term time or maybe at the very start, write final exam for the term and BAM period.

I was better at controlling my stress after the first two years and it evened out.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 25/04/2019 09:00

I don't know why some posters are being a bit pissy about the OPs interest. It's natural for parents to look out for their children's health and wellbeing, even when they are grown up. OP just wants some reassurance that everything is okay and there's nothing to worry about.
Maybe ask in the health topics or chat, since aibu isn't always helpful.

Butchyrestingface · 25/04/2019 09:09

I think asking her if she’s on the pill is a rather obvious and relevant question here. If your daughter is comfortable talking to you about her cycle, it doesn’t make sense not to ask such a pertinent question. You’re not asking about her sex life, but simply what medication she may be taking that could affect her menstrual cycle.

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CareBear50 · 25/04/2019 11:24

Thank you @ I want to see how it ends..... That is exactly where I was coming from

Thank you others also for your input.

Think this might be better under health....sorry I was not aware there was such a thread on here

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Aceinthehole · 25/04/2019 11:33

Why are people being weird about this? Hmm

I'd love to know the answer to this OP, has she really never ever had any bleeding whilst at Uni? Isn't the human body mad?!

JellyBaby666 · 25/04/2019 11:43

Does she come home regularly - I assume it's the lack of monthly periods that is odd? The fact its only when she's at home would only be weird if she didn't come home predictably! I'd possibly ask if shes on any contraception, as some progesterone only contraception can play havoc with your cycle which may explain it.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 25/04/2019 11:53

I was going to respond with an obvious reason for this, but then I wondered... why are you so curious? Because she's concerned about her daughter which is completely normal.

Why are people being weird about this? Yes, quite!!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 25/04/2019 11:55

Maybe diet related /stress?

Aceinthehole · 25/04/2019 11:58

Good point @JellyBaby666 👍🏻

Loz90333 · 25/04/2019 12:03

Hi OP, I'm at university and I have this same issue. For me it is 100% due to stress!

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