Tattoo of ex

[Fatandfedup1]

Hi.
Do you think it's unreasonable for me to ask boyfriend to get the tattoo of his exes name removed or covered?
Our baby is due in 7 weeks and I think skin to skin is so important but I can't bear the idea of our new baby puzzling against his daddy's chest, with his face in her name and worse seeing it in photos.
She's caused us nothing but aggravation and this is a brand new start for us.
I don't think it's unreasonable. Do you? Thanks in advance

a) Interesting new phenomenon

b) I've got less sympathy

You’re just going to have to put up with it for skin to skin because 7 weeks isn’t enough time to get it removed. But no harm in asking him to remove it if you hate it as long as you’re realistic about the timescales.

Are you having a DD? If so, use ex girlfroend’s name for the baby. Problem solved!

I wouldn't even want to start dating someone who had someone else's name emblazoned on their skin by way of a permanent tattoo, let alone have a baby with him.

But maybe I'm just picky.

YANBU.

My DH has a 4" x 3" tattoo of his ex-wife's initial on his bicep. He offered to have it removed but it doesn't bother me and (so far!) it has proven to be a good deterrent to our DDs to stop them from wanting tattoos (although they are only 10 & 11 atm...). We've used it as an example of making a decision with permanent results based on a feeling which may change - e.g. 7 or 8 years ago, our eldest may have wanted a 'Dora the Explorer' tattoo - which at the grand old age of 11 would be soooo embarrassing!

However OP, if it's something that really bothers you then I don't think YABU in discussing your feelings with your DP and letting him decide on how he wants to proceed. If it's simply a case of you worrying about how photos of your newborn will look, then expecting him to either have the tattoo removed or covered up would be a bit extreme imo.

Only you know how strongly it bothers you, but if it's upsetting you (and although my DH's tattoo doesn't worry me - in fact I find it quite amusing - I fully accept that someone else could feel entirely differently to me) then it's worth discussing. I think you would be unreasonable to demand that your DP make any changes to his body, but I think it's perfectly fine for you to talk to him about it and let him try and see it from your point of view.

Good luck with the new baby!

Some helpful and some amusing comments.
We talked about it. He understands where I'm coming from and plans on getting it covered.
Thanks

Glad he's agreed @Fatandfedup1. How big is the name? Does he have a idea what he'd want to cover it with? Does he have other tattoos?
Go to a good tattoo artist though, dodgy cover ups look bad.