In laws giving my daughter Coca Cola.

[Shootingstar1115]

Hi all, my daughter is 3 and we went over there today and they were giving her Coca Cola. I said no but they just carried on saying it was an Easter treat and I was letting her eat chocolate so what’s the difference? Firstly, Easter is about chocolate eggs not Coca Cola.

I’m not overly strict with the kids diets. I believe in everything in moderation BUT I tend to draw the line at fizzy drinks. I don’t drink them myself apart from the very occasional Fanta or Lilt. My own mother had some serious issues with Cola. Growing up she would get the shakes if she didn’t have a few large glasses of it A DAY! She would panic if she forgot to buy it so it did put me off. My mother always encouraged me to drink it but I was never keen and can’t stand the stuff.

Aibu to think if a parent says no the in laws should listen and stick to it?

I know grandparents like to spoil their grandchildren but surely just letting them Isn’t setting them a good example in respecting me as their mum? 🤔

Fortunately my eldest isn’t keen and isn’t interested in fizzy drinks but I daughter will pretty much eat or drink anything put in front of her.

YANBU. There's really no reason for a three year old to even think of fizzy drinks. They'll come across them when they get older but why start them so bloody young. My aunt is always trying to encourage my 7 year old to drink fizzy drinks but he can't stand them (won't touch squash either). She takes it as some kind of affront - I think she thinks I've banned him from having them (I haven't he just can't stand them for some reason).

My mother 'overrules' me all the time with my kids. Its annoying but I really don't want to cause problems so I let it go, which is probably totally the wrong way of dealing with it tbh

2 days back she came to visist, I had banned chocolate and any treats as the kids had decided to paint their bedroom wall with charcoal toothpaste..have no idea how they even got it as its in a high cupboard on the bathroom but they did..I told my mum this and she was basically like 'well I brought treats for them' and just..gave them chocolate. I had the option of being the evil mum AND causing half an hour of screaming and possibly falling out with my mother, or letting it go. I chose the easier option..

Seems common that grandparents do this. YANBU, but I would leave it personally. Kind of wish I had the balls to argue with her but..she still scares me a bit in all honesty..I still listen to the authoritive tone ans respond as I would as a child!

YANBU i would have said no too and physically taken the drink off her if anyone handed her one. I've done it a good few times tbh over the years. Who wants coke swilling round their toddlers poor bloody teeth? And who wants their toddler thinking coke is something nice?

Oh and i find the earlier post about 'don't stop her having coke because you're making it more desirable' complete and utter rubbish.

None of my older 3 were allowed coke when they were little and none of them have ever had any wild interest in it once they got to 10/11/12 or even 27!

TheGoalIsToStayOutOfTheHole - Kind of wish I had the balls to argue with her but..she still scares me a bit in all honesty.

This is a real issue which needs addressing and - not to sound horrible - but isn't really a situation which you should be advising someone else should copy.

You should be able to stand up to your mother. For your kid's sakes.

but isn't really a situation which you should be advising someone else should copy.

Oh I am not advising her to copy me! I basically have no advice to give so just put what I would do. I know tis a ridiculous situation already..

I grew up in the 80s and drank gallons and gallons of coke during my childhood. Absolutely INSANE. Teeth are not in a brilliant state although, honestly, could be worse.

I’m expecting my son in August all being well and will be MILITANT about limiting fizzy drinks to the occasional treat. Absolutely crucial his teeth stay in a good state to avoid dental problems and expensive treatments later in life!

I really think you need a thread of your own TheGoalls. Help you out with this y'know?. It sounds horrible.

Also came in to say that Easter is about the resurrection of our Lord. Not about chocolate!

@Toddlerteaplease - it depends on what you believe in. We’re non believers , don’t go to church, so for us Easter is a holiday; time off work, a long lie in, family meal (BBQ this year), nice drinks and way too much chocolate.

My DC are not allowed fizzy drinks. YANBU. GPs should respect your wishes - I have no problem telling the GPs what is and is not allowed and I expect them to not undermine my parenting decisions. I would have told them a firm no and poured the drink into the sink.

It's annoying when other people don't adhere to my ethics too.

OP I am so sorry you are upset. I can really relate as we had some similar things (MIL giving my 1 year old crisps when I was spending SO much time making homemade stock without salt!!).

For us, we have grandparents rules and home rules. Our DCs adapt very easily and as we don’t see the GP too often, it is not that big of an issue to us. If we saw the GPS every week it would be different. Hopefully you will find something that works for you.

We all know it’s christmas that’s about Coca Cola, and for reason I say YANBU!

Sorry for anyone I’ve offended by posting that Easter is about the eggs. I worded it very badly and don’t think this at all. I actually come from a religious family (me not so much in recent but I do consider myself a Christian whereas my partner is a complete atheist). What I mean was that most kids will be treated to eggs or some form of Easter treat whereas coke wasn’t necessary. Nor was the comment from my partners step dad when he said ‘but you’ve left her stuff Easter eggs all day so you can’t talk about giving her coke’. I just felt like a kid eating chocolate on Easter and Coca Cola wasn’t the same thing. I’m just not keen on the Cola after seeing my mother (as stated in my original post) become reliant on it. I was just really annoyed that they over ruled me, her mum!

Happy Easter everyone!