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In laws giving my daughter Coca Cola.

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Shootingstar1115 · 21/04/2019 14:44

Hi all, my daughter is 3 and we went over there today and they were giving her Coca Cola. I said no but they just carried on saying it was an Easter treat and I was letting her eat chocolate so what’s the difference? Firstly, Easter is about chocolate eggs not Coca Cola.

I’m not overly strict with the kids diets. I believe in everything in moderation BUT I tend to draw the line at fizzy drinks. I don’t drink them myself apart from the very occasional Fanta or Lilt. My own mother had some serious issues with Cola. Growing up she would get the shakes if she didn’t have a few large glasses of it A DAY! She would panic if she forgot to buy it so it did put me off. My mother always encouraged me to drink it but I was never keen and can’t stand the stuff.

Aibu to think if a parent says no the in laws should listen and stick to it?

I know grandparents like to spoil their grandchildren but surely just letting them Isn’t setting them a good example in respecting me as their mum? 🤔

Fortunately my eldest isn’t keen and isn’t interested in fizzy drinks but I daughter will pretty much eat or drink anything put in front of her.

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Lollypop701 · 21/04/2019 15:19

Once it’s oasr, get you photo tell th you have chosen as parents not to allow fizzy drinks. If they ignore you you have another issue, but they shouldn’t undermine you. It’s hard to take something away Once given, but they don’t have to repeat it

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 21/04/2019 15:20

Atleast it wasn't Pepsi! Sorry OP I shouldn't joke but one tiny sip and hopefully thats all it was won't really hurt..can you swap it for water and clean her teeth? Grandparents do tend to do as they wish I find.

SweetMarmalade · 21/04/2019 15:20

The amount of people who seemed hell bent on wanting to add squash to ds’s water when he was a toddler was annoying. Ds loved plain old water, he didn’t ask or need anything added but I was made to feel like I was being mean by not allowing something to be added to his water which he’d never even asked for!

To this day, he will still gulp down glasses of water rather than fizzy drinks or flavoured water. He does drink cola and orange juice but he’s happy to go without.

WinterHeatWave · 21/04/2019 15:23

Cola is one I still restrict.
Fizzy at parties, and if we are out for a meal, but still not coke.
My 9 yr old did get a can in his stocking at Xmas, to try and keep Santa going a little longer. The 7 yr old didnt - but he's not a fussed by it. I dont know where they have had it to know they like it tho. Probably my father! But way older than 3! More like 6 id guess for fizzy stuff first tastes here.

FriarTuck · 21/04/2019 15:33

Firstly, Easter is about chocolate eggs not Coca Cola
Yes, that was the message that the vicar was trying to get across over the services of the last few days. How we should avoid the big red lorry and focus on savouring every sweet mouthful of chocolate egg instead. Oh no, wait...
Thank goodness Jesus was never tempted by a can of coke in the wilderness. I can see it now - 'no I don't want to rule over the entire world, no I won't throw myself off this height to see if angels catch me, but a can of coke you say... oh sod it, bugger God, I'll bow down to you Satan if I can have a can of the fizzy stuff poured over ice'
You'd better book her a bed at The Priory to deal with her imminent addiction issue.

IHateUncleJamie · 21/04/2019 15:34

YANBU; no 3 year old needs caffeine, the amount of sugar and acid in full sugar cola or artificial sweeteners in diet cola.

Chocolate is fine; tooth destroying chemicals and caffeine are not.

strawberrisc · 21/04/2019 15:35

It doesn’t matter whether its harmful or not. Mum doesn’t want kids to have something and other people should honour that. I would.

Shrewbie · 21/04/2019 15:38

@OP Easter is not about chocolate eggs. This is where YABU.

Widowodiw · 21/04/2019 15:41

If you do t want them having g caffeinated drinks I’d be careful about the caffeine in chocolate too. I have a headache condition where I’ve had to cut caffeine, I know from dropping and reintroducing chocolate that it’s the chocolate that causes the headaches and not the pop.

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/04/2019 15:43

Why does you objecting make it an argument? They are the ones bu not you. “She is my child and I said she isn’t allowed it” no explanation or discussion about the chemicals. Firm communication. If your mil winges or makes an issue “I’m sorry you feel that way (insert something else), however she is my child and she isn’t allowed Coke”. Rinse repeat.

Ewitsahooman · 21/04/2019 15:49

bugger God, I'll bow down to you Satan if I can have a can of the fizzy stuff poured over ice'

I am very hot right now. Where do I sign?

AlaskanOilBaron · 21/04/2019 15:51

I wouldn't give a toddler Coke in a million years. WTF are they thinking.

Moomoomoomoomoo · 21/04/2019 16:01

Neither of mine have ever had cola, why do they need to? It’s full of shit.

Ellisandra · 21/04/2019 16:07

In a secular society, among atheists, actually yes Easter is about chocolate eggs.

I grew up a Christian, and Easter week was very important to me, the Holy Saturday vigils stay with me especially.

Over time though, I simply did not believe.

If you ask me, Bob Monkhouse style, to name something that symbolises Easter - I will say “chocolate eggs”, even though I don’t even like them myself. Give me a proper thick bar of good chocolate any day!

It’s perfectly fine to say that Easter is about chocolate eggs. The symbolism of the eggs is older than any Christian symbolism anyway - so it’s a bit sad to see people trying to score points over what their vicar says

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 21/04/2019 16:12

Firstly, Easter is about chocolate eggs not Coca Cola.

Sorry but I haven't stopped laughing. This surely has to be a wind up thread ?

sweeneytoddsrazor · 21/04/2019 16:16

Yes the symbolism of eggs is older than Christianity but certainly not chocolate eggs.

Chamomileteaplease · 21/04/2019 16:19

You said no twice and they ignored you. Next time get the glass and pour it down the sink. Then they might listen!

Coke for a three year old? That is gross. Stick to your guns.

MissPollyHadADolly19 · 21/04/2019 16:19

OP you are not overreacting. I'd never give my kids coke, or even more so diet coke.
For them to undermine you is horrible, whether it's a sip of coke or something else you don't agree with, rule number 1 is never contradict the parent, no matter how unimportant you think the issue is.
I'm also quite similar, not strict with much but fizzy drinks is a big no.

RezCowgirl · 21/04/2019 16:20

If you've said you don't want them having it they they should respect that not give them any.

Fwiw it's cola not cocaine.

PumpkinPiesInTheOven · 21/04/2019 16:20

It wont kill her but that's not really the point. You're allowed to have rules for your child. Next time say directly to the child "you aren't allowed that. Nanny is just being sillly you aren't allowed it as it's very bad for your teeth". Then tell your inlaws that they are going to upset her by telling her that shes allowed something that you already said no to.

Parker231 · 21/04/2019 16:20

@Ellisandra - in our house we call Easter the chocolate holiday!

PumpkinPiesInTheOven · 21/04/2019 16:22

I don't think the Op thinks they were eating chocolate eggs at the crucifixion. just that it's become a tradition and thats why she's allowing it but there's no reason to add coke to the mix

MrsEricBana · 21/04/2019 16:37

You are absolutely not being unreasonable OP. You don't want your three year old getting a taste for it because 1) it's unhealthy and 2) your own mum had issues with it, and she should respect your wishes. (I am addicted to diet coke, I wish I wasn't)

Blondeshavemorefun · 21/04/2019 16:38

I would flip

My 2yr only had milk or water

She doesn’t know about anything else not wants it

Yes as gets older sure she will have some juice and odd fizzy drinks

But you you said no. And they shouldn’t ignore your wishes

Yabbers · 21/04/2019 16:43

The more you restrict the more it seems desirable.
Presumably you’ve given the same advice on the “MIL gave 1 year old alcohol” thread?

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