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Taking a 12 day old baby on holiday ?

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Jencottage · 20/04/2019 08:15

Desperate to get away as feel like I've been exhausted all third trimester, have a 8 year old daughter who would love a holiday, hubby coming along too. I've found an amazing deal in Sardinia, 7 nights at half term, full board and kids club for the 9 year old and golf for hubby. Me and baby could be on the beach all day chilling ! It's a 3.5 hour flight, shall I book it or is baby too young ? What would you do ?!?

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TeddybearBaby · 20/04/2019 17:00

October sounds better. I think that’s a better decision. Have an amazing time 🏖

jabylite · 20/04/2019 17:05

Haven't read the thread.

But so sad. please don't.

I remember a sales assistant giving me a disapproving, withering look in a department store in Oxford Street (3 month old baby). I was puzzled at the time, and also a bit "whats your problem Hmm"

Now, I'm older, I understand.

Mum and baby should be at home, chilling together ... there's plenty of time ahead for holidays.

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 17:13

So many things could go wrong here

  • you need to stay in longer due to complications
  • baby needs to stay in longer due to complications
  • emergencies come in so yours is delayed and your baby is born later on
  • your baby is unwell abroad
  • you are unwell including things like wound dehiscion
  • you could still be passing all types of bodily fluids which won't be pleasant on a flight and on a beach
  • can you take things like Fragmin injections abroad if you need them?
  • depending on what skin closure you have, the removal date might be whilst you're abroad
  • risk of blood clots
  • baby finding it difficult to climatise because so young and sudden change
  • your insurance not covering this as I don't know many medical professionals who would sign off on it

Just so so many things those are just some

roses2 · 20/04/2019 17:13

If the kids clubs specifiy age 9+ and your daughter isn't quite 9 then I wouldn't expect them to get in. Some of them are super strict (maybe an insurance issue?) and they take passport details at check in.

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 17:14

Ah enjoy in October!!

Madratlady · 20/04/2019 17:22

No way. I’ve had 2 c sections and I’m due my 3rd in a couple of weeks. At 12 days I was still uncomfortable/in pain, bleeding (you couldn’t wear a swimsuit), establishing breastfeeding (so you’d either have that or faffing around with formula), barely sleeping. I got back to normal pretty quickly after both my sections so far too. No way would I be going away anywhere that soon. If you really want to get away leave it until summer or stay in the uk, and make sure you have the option to cancel.

Passthecherrycoke · 20/04/2019 17:33

Tbh although I don’t agree that you should go, some of these answers are a bit random- wouldn’t be allowed on the plane? How would Ryanair know how she’s given birth? Confused

Passthecherrycoke · 20/04/2019 17:37

And not being able to get a registrars appointment for weeks- surely as she’s having a planned section it would be common sense that she’d have booked one in advance?

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 17:38

No they're not usually booked in advance because there could be complications that change time frames.

Isitmybathtimeyet · 20/04/2019 17:39

jabylite I don't think being in a department store with a three month old is particularly problematic?

gotmychocolateimgood · 20/04/2019 17:39

No way would I do this. Still bleeding after birth, baby constantly feeding. Absolute nightmare for me personally.

BlueMerchant · 20/04/2019 17:40

Just NO.

Lockheart · 20/04/2019 17:41

@Passthecherrycoke the fact that she'd be carrying a newborn baby whose passport gives it an age of 12 days might be a tiny clue, don't you think?

It's all one anyway as OP has decided to go on holiday a little later when recovered.

Passthecherrycoke · 20/04/2019 17:46

Really? Carrying a 12 day old baby tells Ryan air you had a c section? Amazing. Didn’t realise babies allowed air stewards to see through your clothes to your abdomen.

morefoolyou · 20/04/2019 17:46

I wouldn't do it
12 days is no time
Imagine all the organising you will have to do.. packing... all the guff that comes with a newborn
Plus you run the risk of a wound infection... airports, a plane, swimming pool
Your stitches may not heal, your baby may be unwell. Far too many variables.
Plus all the challenges that come with sleep deprivation in the early days. A newborn in the heat etc.
I can't think of a reason to go tbh. Hang on and go when the baby is a few months old.

And btw, yabvu for using the term 'hubby' and 'baby' with no prefix 😫

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 17:52

passthe

You asked how Ryanair would know she had given birth, not that she had specifically had a section.

Lockheart · 20/04/2019 17:54

@Passthecherrycoke you asked how would they know she's given birth. I answered you. It's in your post of 17:33.

Given you should generally wait at least one to two weeks before flying after a vaginal delivery, seeing a newborn baby of 12 days flying should prompt questions and asking to see a fit-to-fly note by check-in or boarding staff, regardless of the method of delivery.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 20/04/2019 17:54

I was still in hospital 14 days after my c section

Passthecherrycoke · 20/04/2019 17:55

No I didn’t. The OP has checked the policy and stated that Ryan air allow babies from 8 days, so clearly there is no problem taking a 12 day old baby on the fight. The medical problems stopping her flying identified by the pervious posters were all related to her surgery.

I clearly said “ how would Ryan air know HOW she’s given birth”

HogMother · 20/04/2019 17:57

October is much more reasonable.
I recover from c sections amazingly well, but the blood clot risk would be too much for me.
Then there’s the risk of illness to baby.
But most of all, I don’t believe it’s possible to chill with a tiny baby. My youngest didn’t like any heat until he turned 1. Some just cry, for no reason. It’s really not going to be relaxing at this age. I’m not convinced dd wouldn’t want to spend time with you too. A new baby changes dynamics, and she might not want to go to holiday club while baby is so tiny. October will be much more settled

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 17:57

Sorry I read that wrong.

medical problems related to her surgery could include a doctor not agreeing it is safe which would render her insurance void.

Passthecherrycoke · 20/04/2019 18:00

No problem. The point is, posters said she wouldn’t be allowed on the plane. Not that a doctor could refuse to allow her to fly.

Besides which, a doctor refusing to allow her to fly would involve her booking an appointment with a doctor specifically to ASK them that, which she has no reason to do if she just wants to go.

So as I say, the answers are sometimes a bit random.

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 18:00

And the airline would know as they require a 'fit to fly' form

A mother can be accepted for travel from 48 hours after the birth of her baby subject to having delivered without any complications or surgery. (We do not accept infants under the age of 8 days old). If a caesarean section was performed or if surgery was needed for the mother then the minimum period before we could accept her for travel would be 10 days. However, this is also subject to approval for travel from her treating doctor

10 days is the minimum period. So OP would have been cutting it very fine especially if her section was delayed.

And that's if a doctor was happy to sign off on it which a lot wouldn't be. I know our obstetricians wouldn't be

Prequelle · 20/04/2019 18:02

If OP just decided to go without having sorted all this out, she would likely be stopped at check in when she arrives with a newborn. Then she would be asked for a fit to fly form which she wouldn't be able to produce

Passthecherrycoke · 20/04/2019 18:02

Quick googling there 🤣 I’d be more impressed if you’d known that when you answered originally

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