To not allow my DD to go to this concert

[pollywolfff]

DD has been obsessed with this band for months and has begged them to come to our city. This is the last tour this band is doing. However, my dd is 16 and she wants to go on her own and its in a pub. Do i let her go? She would be on her own, age 16 in a pub in the city centre.

I used to go to pubs at 16 but always with friends. Can she go with a good friend? If She is generally responsible and trustworthy and the pub is ok I wouldn’t have an issue with this.

How will she get in, won't she need ID?

Can you drop her off and pick her up at the end? I cant imagine a gig would run past midnight... it might be nice for her if you could do that as it's such a special band for her.
I was obsessed with several bands at that age and was allowed to attend gigs that weren't even in my own city! Went on the train with a friend.
I think if shes alone and its city centre she could do with picking up though. The but I'd be worried about is her getting home that late on her own.

Can you go with her?

Yep!

I was going to see bands from being 14 or so. Made my own way there, dad picked me up after!

Who is the band? Can you go with her? I've taken my DDS to a few gigs and either lurked around at the back or joined in at the front, depending on who it is!

Let her!

Would you not consider going with her?

I'd let her, but I'd feel better if she went with a friend. Are none of her friends interested in the band?

Yeh let her go

If she's sensible I'd let her go - although I'd prefer if she went with a friend. In a way I think a pub is safer than a large venue.

Go with her!

Actually though, I’m impressed that she is confident enough to want to go alone.

Go with her. You may have to anyway if she is only 16.

It's not a concert though, it's a gig in a pub.

I would check first she can go, what with being underage. Then maybe buy 2 tickets so she can take a friend or you go with her.

I'd go with her.
As it is a small venue the band itself and possibly the aftershow party might be your main problem.

Let her go xx

Can you go with her?

Personally I wouldn’t encourage it. I had many bad experiences that age off men thinking they can take the piss. I really wouldn’t send my dd in to the lions den by her self so to speak

I went to gigs from 13 , just go with her a hover around by the bar .

I was going in to central London (about an hour plus from North London) to go to concerts at age 15/16 with friends - from the o2 to Hammersmith Apollo. It was amazing ☺️ loved the experiences. I’d say drop her off and pick her up, if she’s willing to go on her own fair play!

Who?

Go with her. I went to my first gig/ concert in 1973, and I am typing now whilst leaning on the stage at Grand Central Liverpool waiting for the band that goes on around 9 or 9.30. I took dd along between her ages 11and 18. Can’t tell you the number of times i’ve been groped, propositioned, threatened, come near to fighting..,and if no-one in the crowd tries it on, the band will. I love the music I love, but I think as an adult I can take risks, occasionally, that I would want to protect my child from.

Go with her, or is there another adult that could? or a sensible friend? when my sister was a teenager I took a few of her mates to gigs, I was 24 when they first started going at 15, I went and hovered by the bar or with my mates, they knew where I was if they needed me and in fairness rarely needed me, it was mostly the walk through the city centre to get home after that they needed me for, that and I looked after coats, handbags etc a lot.

I cannot believe some of the responses here! You are talking about letting a 16 year old girl go on their own to a city centre pub at night? Absolutely not! Not a chance in hell would she be going on her own if she were mine!

I would go with her or DH would go with her if she were desperate to see them.

But to let her go on her own to a pub with older people, definitely alcohol, most likely drugs and goodness knows what people could slip into her drink or they grab her during the evening with no-one knowing she was missing until you go to pick her up (however remote the chance is before someone says it!) hours later, not a chance in hell! I am totally gobsmacked that some of your seem to think this is ok? Giving your children independence is one thing but letting them do this at that age is insanity!

I am in total agreement with the fact that yes, women/girls SHOULD be able to do this kind of thing if they want to, however am I going to risk my daughter’s safety on the principal of how things should be? Not a chance!

She might find it's 18+ if it's in a pub!

Does she have to go alone? No friends also wanting to go?

random I Hear you