To not allow my DD to go to this concert

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DD has been obsessed with this band for months and has begged them to come to our city. This is the last tour this band is doing. However, my dd is 16 and she wants to go on her own and its in a pub. Do i let her go? She would be on her own, age 16 in a pub in the city centre.

I think there’s a lot of variables here -
What’s the pub like? What sort of crowd does it attract?
Would your daughter feel confident in speaking up if someone made her feel uncomfortable? Would she be sensible enough to call you straight away to pick her up? How impressionable is she?

No, fans can be taken advantage of. Go with her and lurk.

It's in a pub and she is 16. She wants to go alone ... my mind would be working overtime. Has she arranged to meet someone from a fan page?
Just go. Take headphones and sit in the pub where you can keep an eye on her.

I'd let her, and give her this little bit of freedom at 16. But would be picking her up after.

Went to my first gig with a mate in 2005 , Babyshambles at Brixton academy! I was 15. Pete Doherty threw me a can or fosters from a dressing room window, as my friend and I waited in the street to get in. Made my day! 😂

If she was with a friend I’d be happy to drop off and pick up, if she was on her own I’d be waiting in the pub .

Who is the band?

Find out if she can go as it’s in a pub and she’s 16, then drop her off and pick her up.

I don’t get the issue. Because it’s a pub?? Any other venue would have as many/many more bars! I’d take her and pick up

Because it is a pub she will easily have access to the band. And vice versa. This is what I would worry about (having been in that situation myself).

My daughter is 16 and I would let her go. She's sixteen, not six! She'd be dropped off and picked up, and we'd be in touch throughout the night but yeah, I can't see an issue with this.

Will add, I would only agree if she was going with a friend or friends. Otherwise I'd go too and just sit in a corner keeping an eye. Can't see an issue at all if it's a couple of them or a group.

I’d go with her.

At 16 she can get married or join the army, I think she will be fine with a pub gig. She won’t get served alcohol anyway. I’d also go if it was my dd and she couldn’t get in otherwise.

I have read the OP again and see you're saying she is going alone, apologies I didn't read properly before posting.

I'd be uncomfortable about her going alone. I think I'd go too. Not sit/stand with her but be there in the pub at the back or whatever.

At 16 she can get married

How many of us want our DD's to get married at 16 though. Just because you can doesn't mean you should.

My DD is 17 and has been going to concerts for the last 3/4 years. She goes to a lot of venues on her own and I pick her up after.
However, if she was going to a gig in a pub in town I would still go with her.

Lots of pubs do gigs. Check the policy first obviously, they usually stamp hands on entry and don’t stamp underage to stop them buying drinks (or another similar system). Could you drop her off and go for a drink nearby and pick her up straight after?

I went to tons of gigs in pubs and gig venues from 15. Sometimes alone. Never had a bad experience. Let her go and pick her up after.

I didn’t say we would want her to. I said she could if she wanted, so trying to stop her seeing a band seems a moot point at 16.

I didn’t say we would want her to. I said she could if she wanted, so trying to stop her seeing a band seems a moot point at 16.

Well it's not, it is completed valid which is why OP has asked.

Being legally able to get married at 16 doesn't mean we all let our 16 year olds do what they want. Perhaps OP's DD loves within respectful boundaries and won't respond with 'well I could get married' because it's ridiculously unrealistic.

*lives

As is trying to have this mich control over effectively a legal adult seeing a band.

Not getting married. Not getting drunk. Not doing anything challenging or disrespectful infact. Just going to listen to live music.

Ridiculous.

She is not a legal adult.

This is the OPs call absolutely!

That said I agree with others, it would be a yes with friends or else I’d come with her. Either way I’d probably do the lift to and from.

Honestly some people must have had sheltered lives.

Many times as a teenager I was inappropriately touched and a few times sexually assaulted. No way would I put my dd in this position.

Just wouldn’t do it.

In a nice life girls should be able to do as they please and be safe - but this world just isn’t like that

She is not a legal adult. She is a 16yo kid who needs her parents to give a shit.

Definitely let her go but not on her own, if none of her friends are going then go with her, or get an older cousin or someone to go with her? At the age of 16 it's a bit ridiculous to say no to a gig. Loads of kids leave home and go to uni etc at 17, I went a week to gran canaria with my friends at 17. As long as she's not by herself let her go and live her best life :)