DH keeping his friend's huge rusting BBQ in our small garden for 3 years

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DH for sone reason has kept his friend's judge BBQ/fire pit in our small back yard since we moved in. It is 2 metres long, about 1 metre wide and 1.5m tall. On wheels. We live in a Victorian terrace with a small back yard and we're struggling for space. We don't use this monstrosity, as we have a fully functioning separate BBQ.

I have been asking DH for the past 2 years to return it to his friend. He said he'd do that after they'd fine a hog roast (this has never happened). I continue to ask him to get rid if it and he continues to say "Ill speak to X (friend) about it". We're struggling for space for a bike shed and this is infuriating me as this BBQ is taking up so much space.

So yet another summer approaching with the huge rusting eyesore taking pride of place in the back yard. Im tempted to tell DH that if he doesn't give me a date when it will be gone by, I'll take it to the tip. AIBU?

YANB, give him a deadline of sometime this weekend and if it’s still there take it back to his friend, he can go to the hassle of tipping it.

Not in the slightest. Friend has dumped it there as far as I can see. Can you ask friend to move it yourself- if he doesn't wany it HE can take it to the tip.

Contact the friend directly, and say are you coming to collect it this Saturday (*time and day that suits you) to go to yours or to the tip, as I'll do dinner for all of us after DH has helped you load it into your car - that ensures your DH can't turn it around on you being mean or unwelcoming and gets rid of
the bloody thing 😏

This is it

I don't have his friends contact details, rarely see him (although he lives fairly close)

You've been incredibly patient!!

I'd message the friend and ask when he can collect his BBQ, as you're doing up there garden and want to make space.

Just seen your update.

That really is a beast 😂 unless you're in the mass catering biz, that's such an excessive BBQ.

I feel like I'm being taken for a mug. I'm sure his friend or his girlfriend wouldn't want it in their front yard!

I would use it as a flower pot. But them i have plants growing in all sorts of things in my garden😆

Ask for friends address to return it or give a deadline when you’ll take it to the tip.

Widowanky I have some (lovely) plant pots in the yard and DH has said we need to get rid of them as they're taking up space. The irony is lost on him!

Cherry yes I think the deadline date is the way to go. I'll suggest next Saturday as the final deadline

YANBU
It needs to go

I might struggle to transport it in my car actually. It had wheels but I dont know if I could dismantle it. Have just seen it has very rusty screws, will have to see if they'll even loosen any more

Put it as free on gumtree - collection only. Whenever I need to get rid of something and don't want to go to tip it always seems to work - even things I wouldn't think people would want!

That's a great idea Withington. Perhaps listing it and showing to DH would prove I mean it

If it's rusty I would gently ”help” it to fall apart. Then it's dangerous, rusty chunks of metal so it must be removed before someone has an accident.

YANBU he has one month to get rid of the bloody thing or it;s the tip.

It had to go in the next week or it’s going to the dump. Give it a few kicks doing the way.

You need a tetanus shot just to look at it!

Nightmare!

Why have you got it? Did the friend give it to you to keep?

WD-40 will help the screws

Well, you've waited way too long so I would give a deadline of Sunday at noon, HIGH NOON!

It was supposedly brought here at the time for a group BBQ, that never happened

Take it to the tip, or put it in the back lane. The scrappies will take it. I doubt the friend will want it back now anyway.