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Just found out I'm pregnant..... Could be 5/6 months

60 replies

GetsIt · 18/04/2019 16:37

Hi,

Firstly as per the title, has anyone been in this boat?

Secondly what the hell do I do???? I could be quite far gone and had no idea until today! I can't get to midwife until Wednesday as she has no appointments

OP posts:
Pharlapwasthebest · 18/04/2019 19:41

Why are pp suggesting private scan, op, you’ll get an nhs one to date you. Don’t waste your money.

fleshmarketclose · 18/04/2019 19:56

Dd found out four weeks ago, she is now 32 weeks pregnant. She had had regular periods throughout two negative pregnancy tests at my insistence and went to the GP because I had nagged her about her growing tum on a size six frame. GP called maternity whilst she was in the surgery estimating she was 24 weeks and they fit her in the following day for scans and blood tests etc. All is fine and dd is quickly getting used to the idea.

Timeforacupoftea · 18/04/2019 20:05

Hello all, sorry to hijack, but can I ask OP and other posters how they didn’t know? Periods? Pregnancy test?
I’m asking because I am quite late for my period. Am breastfeeding a 14month old. Periods came back for a few months, fairly regular, but my last period was about 8 weeks ago. Took a pregnancy test last week: negative.
But I have known of people who have negative pregnancy tests despite being pregnant.
I have been feeling weird flutters similar to early on in my previous pregnancies. I felt movement very early both times.

Amanduh · 18/04/2019 20:06

I was almost 5 months. No need for a private scan, book in with midwife or whatever happens in your area, tell them how far along you think you are ( I had no idea) and an immediate scan won’r change anything. Amazingly, after 5 months of a LOT of pate and vodka I had a very healthy boy! Good luck OP x

BluntAndToThePoint · 18/04/2019 20:08

Congratulations! I was in your shoes about 17 years ago. I thought I couldn't get pregnant due to an illness and treatment in my late teens so it was a lovely surprise.
Please don't panic and don't disappear down the rabbit hole of "if only I'd done ...." etc.

Wait to see the regular midwife - there is absolutely no need to panic and pay for a private one. You're going to need all the money you have in approximately 3 or 4 months time!

In some ways finding out late is a good thing because you have less time to worry/freak out - I think it made me more focused because I knew I didn't have as long to get everything organised. Good luck.

makingmammaries · 18/04/2019 20:20

Take folic acid, stay off the booze etc and wait for your scan, what else is there to do? Congratulations OP

sue51 · 18/04/2019 20:21

Timeforacupoftea My DD has eds and frequently feels as though she is being beaten up from the inside so any movements from the baby were just seen as normal for her condition. She took the pill constantly to avoid having periods as they exacerbated her discomfort. She also had surgery when she would have been approximately 6 months pregnant and her pregnancy was not noticed by the medics. She put on about 4 or 5 pounds but certainly did not look in the least bit pregnant.

Fallingirl · 18/04/2019 20:24

I found out about my first dd at about 5 mths. Until reading this thread I had no idea it was so common!

I had done an earlier test, with a (false!) negative result.

The only slight negative was that the dating was not as accurate as having known when she was conceived would have been. My periods had been irregular at the time, So dates were an estimate. This was nearly 22 years ago though, so dating may be more precise now.

She was an extremely wanted baby, so not having to wait a full 9 mths was a major bonus to me Smile

My gp booked me in for a scan the same day, so unless you are very impatient (understandable under the circumstances), I shouldn’t think you’d need to book a private scan.

Oh, and congratulations.

Korvalscat · 18/04/2019 20:45

A relative of mine found out at 24 weeks with her dc2, she was on the pill, had little lighter than usual periods and only thought she could be pregnant after passing out as she was prone to lightheadedness with dc1. She put the bigger belly down to Pizza!
She contacted the midwife team and as it was right on Christmas a midwife made a home visit and arranged all apointments/scans/blood tests for the first available dates.
The pregnancy was a total shock and she needed a few weeks to get her head around it but the midwives and sonographers see latebookers reasonably often and are, according to a midwife I know, a lot more sympathetic to women who book late because they hadn't a clue that they were pregnant than to those who book late because they can't be arsed (the latter is unfortunately just as common in her practice area - which left me feeling rather naive tbh)

Korvalscat · 18/04/2019 20:47

Sorry forgot to add Congratulations OP Flowers and that I hope everything goes well.

Mummyoftwo91 · 18/04/2019 20:49

Congratulations op, I agree with pp about the private scan if you can afford it

Home77 · 18/04/2019 21:16

The first thing made me aware was the fluttering at around 16 weeks. Also had some breast and nipple tenderness and mood swings, put it down to maybe starting my periods again after breastfeeding.

Home77 · 18/04/2019 21:17

Why is private scan better than NHS one? Is it better for dates or something Confused?

Absofrigginlootly · 18/04/2019 21:20

But but but how??!! I’ve never understood this. Not judging I just ant get my head around it. I’m very in tune with my body and always know the day I ovulate and the day the of implantation! (Yes seriously). I always “know” even before my missed period and taking a test.

I’ve been pregnant many times and always know from 3 weeks..., with my DD I felt her moving at 14 weeks, with my DS I felt him moving from 11 weeks. My boobs hurt and grow 2 sizes, you feel sick. Exhausted.

With DD I was really showing by 14 weeks and with DS I was showing at 10 weeks..,, I know that doesn’t sound possible but I am slim build and honestly had a visible bump/couldn’t do up trousers etc

I just cannot fathom not knowing until 5-6 months or even those women who go into labour without knowing?!

Anyway congratulations OP Flowers

lyralalala · 18/04/2019 21:21

Why is private scan better than NHS one? Is it better for dates or something

No, but many private scan places are open bank holidays so if the OP didn’t want to wait until late next week for a scan it could be w quicker option to find out for sure

CupOhTea · 18/04/2019 21:25

Yep, private scans aren’t better, but they will do them pretty much whenever you want. Obviously the nhs won’t.

fleshmarketclose · 18/04/2019 21:41

Abso my dd has had regular periods throughout and had two negative tests a week apart. My nagging about her having a pot belly when she has always been as flat as a pancake made her go to the GP but she was still wearing her usual size six clothes. She hadn't had any pregnancy symptoms and hadn't noticed any movements so had no reason to think she was pregnant and put the tum down to eating too much.

GreatestShowUnicorn · 18/04/2019 22:06

Congratulations if you can afford it and can get an appointment I'd get a private scan.

TheFastandCurious · 18/04/2019 22:24

I didn’t know because my pregnancy caused a subchronic heamatoma (never heard of it prior) but it’s a pregnancy complication that causes heavy bleeding. Plus I was on depo shot. So I was on a supposedly highly effective contraception and bleeding throughout. Plus I was nearly 40 and had only one fallopian tube. Nobody on earth would have thought I was pregnant.

The scan to investigate the bleeding showed by 20 week baby!

Anyway she’s 16 months now. She’s my 4th so it’s bloody tough. I’m too old and tired for it all again but my god we love her Smile

CookieSwirlC · 19/04/2019 08:58

Abso that’s just your experience though.

There are millions of women in the world. Lots don’t have regular periods, lots have no clue when they ovulate, lots are on contraception so think it’s impossible, babies can tuck themselves up so you don’t show, kick into your back so you don’t feel them, have the placenta at the front so it muffles movements. There are a million reasons why another woman’s experience will not mirror yours. It’s not that hard to get your head around.

Home77 · 19/04/2019 09:02

I didn't know due to the breastfeeding meaning periods had stopped and also the symptoms being like the start of the period. Also we'd had very little sex or chance of it, it really must have been tone of the first times it happened. In hindsight was a bit naive perhaps

BarbaraofSevillle · 19/04/2019 09:04

What's with all the congratulations? It could be an utter disaster for the OP to find out at this stage when she has no choice other than to go through with the pregnancy.

Prequelle · 19/04/2019 09:04

This is more common then people think, we call it cryptic pregnancy if it's late on.

We have had people only find out as they've been whisked to emergency theatre and had to have an emergency section.

Had women labour in our a&e when they've come in with 'abdo pain'

Its amazing how some women must have such easy breezy pregnancies that they don't notice!

SouthernComforts · 19/04/2019 09:09

Same as a pp my '12 week scan' was actually 21 weeks. I was on the depo, so no periods anyway, and I was still a size 8. I did a test because I fainted and googled why I was tired and fainting Blush. I then had dd at 28 weeks so I had a 7 week pregnancy! Still vaguely shocked 10 years later Grin

Beamur · 19/04/2019 09:11

A colleague had one of these. Had periods throughout the pregnancy, didn't show very much. Just assumed slight weight gain was because she was eating/drinking too much.
Went to doctors because of persistent pain in her lower rib cage. Doctor said it was baby's feet digging in. She was something like 7.5 months pregnant.
Bit of a shock was an understatement. First baby. Not married. Not actually with the father to be...

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