MIL Rant - so know I probably am not being unreasonable

[LieselVentouse]

Im booked in for elective section on Friday 0730hrs - they said theyre coming in to see me at lunchtime and I said no theyre not - they fail to see what the problem is - problem is Ive been told I wont be in ward until late afternoon but they want to see the baby not me

and unless baby needs to go to special care they are not taken away from mothers

Could you lie and tell her its a different hospital?!

PMSL @ Quint Yes I had thought of that. Thanks for all of your help I shouldnt be getting stressed out about details like this at the end of pregnancy

helenhismadwife - the ward I was on had visiting hours from 9am to 9pm for partners only (with a 2-hour no visitors rest period from 1pm - 3pm) and normal visiting hours from 3pm to 8pm. During the partner only period (and throughout the night) the door was locked and visitors had to be buzzed in but during the afternoon normal visiting hours the doors were kept unlocked and the midwives' station was in the middle of the very large ward and not near the door. There was also a security man outside and down the corridor to man a few wards but I think he was there to ask questions if he spotted anyone removing a baby from the ward (we had to hand to him a discharge note when we left with DD) and not to ask questions of anyone entering wards.

Good god is that Bupa?

I am really annoyed for you. I think rellies shouldn't visit until invited. I definately wouldn't visit until I'd made sure the parents and baby were ready. When my niece was born I was the first to visit and that was 12 days later. It is a really special time for you and your partner to bond with the baby. As for the going to see the baby not you thing, that's plain rude - treating you like a baby carrying vessel. Grr.

My colleague is having similar probs. His wife is now 9 days overdue and his parents have announced they're coming to stay for the weekend. What's that all about?

My Mum was also taking care of DD1 when I had an emergency LSCS, we asked her to bring DD1 along to meet her new little sister, but if she wouldn't mind going for a cup of tea for half an hour or so, so that we could just have time with both our DD's saying hello to each other. This worked really well and also meant that DD1 as the big sister could introduce her to Grandma.

No - the Homerton in Hackney!

Or you could tell her that you;ve seen the midwife and they've out you back for a week - something to do with getting the dates wrong - god aren't these bloody midwives useless etc etc!!!! That way you'll get a whole week to yourselves!!!

Bloody stupid woman!