To ask if anyone else is awake?

[ImposterSyndrome101]

I’m working on stuff for uni right now because I can’t sleep and my anxiety has skyrocketed. My family situation at the moment is shit and I’ve no idea if I can pass this year let alone continue but I know I can’t go home either.

What would you like to talk about?

Anything, everything. There’s nothing I can do to fix anything in my life right at this moment so right now I’m running on distract, stay calm and breath.

I’m awake. What course are you doing?

Ok then, would you rather have no nose or one giant arm ending in a claw?

I’m studying linguistics and it’s so difficult it’s insane. I feel like the struggle will never end as I’ve an auditory processing disorder and one of the modules is basically half describing a sound and half understanding how the sound is formed.

@Alicewond an arm ending in a claw because it would make a clacky sound which is quite nice and would be helpful for getting things from high shelves.

Why do you think you won't pass? If you are doing OK and keeping up with assignments , it should be all right. And thus no reason that you can't continue.Is there any student support at uni? Remember , they want you to stay so seek any help you can.
As regards home .. as anyone said you are not welcome ? Or do you just want to avoid going back. If so, there are so many options .
Take it from me ,, things always seem worse at 3am. Try to catch up on sleep, deep breath and tommorow is another day.

Why can’t you go home op?

@Ferfeckssake, i just feel like I’m floundering. I’m passing my assignments and I think I’ll be ok in the exams but I don’t feel like I’m coping at all and it’s only first year and I worked so hard to get here.

My family is complicated. They would welcome me back but the response would be ‘we knew you couldn’t do it’. They love me as long as I’m useful to them and don’t show that I’m ‘different’.

I'm awake too

I'm up, waiting up for a selfish teen who I will be so relieved to see when he walks in the door but am very angry with now!

I know studying can seem overwhelming. You do need to ask for help. Speak to your tutor for advice and support. That's what they are there for.

Anxiety is awful as it stops you from focusing and then you worry more about being behind. Been there. Get an appointment with your gp as well and have a chat about any support you can get there.

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I don’t think many first year uni students feel they are coping. So you are doing normal there

Sorry posted too soon. Sometimes it's okay just to pass, I was talking to my own daughter tonight about this in relation to her first year uni exams. Just get through and then you will have time and energy to think about other things and how to resolve them.

I saw my supervisor Monday. She was lovely and sent me lots of links of where to go for for extra support. But I’m just struggling to see the point in it all. I’m at uni killing myself over a degree which may or may not help me get a job that I’ll probably hate to pay for a life I can’t afford while trying to support and raise a family society thinks I should have and it all seems ridiculous and pointless.

Ha - I came on to ask who else was up. Im keeping my OH awake with my tossing and turning so I have come downstairs for a cup of pukka's night time tea - if it works.

Has the teen arrived back home yet?

It's never too late to change direction if you are unhappy with your course. I learned over the years that no matter what I do, there's no pleasing my parents, so now I just focus on the things that make me happy. They are going to moan whatever I do, they even became quite contradictory, Are your family the same?

My aim is just to pass this year but I fucked up I think three relatively small assignments so I’ve no longer got any wiggle room.

Hi op
I felt like that when I was doing the statistics module of my Psychology degree...I just about passed it. I was actually crying before my exam. If I can do it then so can you. I also have a family that say you won't pass, can't do this or that etc, so I understand how you feel

sorry to hear you are having a tough time though OP.

@MissMoan, My family have the view that family comes first. None of them have even passed secondary school exams let alone had a career. They don’t understand the effort or the time that studying takes and expect me to be to just get on a train home at a moments notice to help out because they need to work and I can type while keeping an eye on the kids because mum needs a break but they need to work.

Can I suggest something. Are you in the UK?
If so, tomorrow is going to be fine & warm. Put your books down, go and find a park or some woods and walk for an hour or two, get a coffee & a pastry. Take some lettuce to feed the ducks or something equally daft. Give yourself a break.

And then enjoy proving your family wrong x

It feels like I’m trying to climb a mountain with no training, support or supplies and one wrong step and it’s over while there’s a team behind you constantly putting obstacles in your path so you fail.

@Seniorschoolmum, yeah I’m in the uk. I’ve an assignment due Wednesday I need to finish though so I can’t really take a break till that’s done although my plan is to do that then hide in my room for awhile.

Nope the teen is not home. His phone is out of charge too. Grrrr. He's probably crashed out at a mates, blissfully ignorant to the worry he causes!

Imposter, I think plodding on with the degree sounds miserable. Is there any bits of it you enjoy? Keep talking to your tutor and they will give you help to get through this. It's not long till the holidays now, you can almost count the days. However if you really don't feel it's for you then take some time out to reconsider...

@Tarrarra, yeah there’s lots to my degree that I enjoy (never phonetics) but I’m just not enjoying them right now because of everything else. I really like syntax, semantics is alright. I’m combined with philosophy and most of that’s fairly interesting because I like the essay and argument based work.