To think that parents get in an absolute stew about sex education?

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Take some parents i know who cried when their 8 year old learned the word penis. I mean its a perfectly jormal word albiet a bit private.
Also the campaigning against lgbt sex education...i mean, why not? I know many mn dont like the trans movement but there is no excuse for not teachingbkids about homosexuality.
I think many parents feel that if their children learn about sex then tjeir innocence is destroyed. No wonder so many Brits have issues about it. Age appropriate sex education is vital to protect children and to normalise the changes that occur during puberty.
Why do some parents find it so hard to explain where babies come from?

Years ago I worked with a guy who became a father at either 11/12. It was either became a father at 11, or she became pregnant when he was 11 and the baby was born when he was 12. The girl was older. I had just had my baby boy at the time, and also started a teaching degree. I will admit the week after the weekend I found out, I was on teaching practice, and I kept looking at the year 6 boys and thinking they were babies.
Thankfully this is a rare (I hope) case, but it shows it can and does happen.

@ZoeWashburne hits the nail on the head with this:

It is always why the kids of the most conservative parents go a bit wild when they get to their teen years, because everything was taboo. If kissing a boy is as 'bad' as doing heroin, you have no relativism to set your own boundaries with what you feel is healthy and right for you.

I was this kid. Ultra conservative parents who genuinely regarded sex before marriage along the same lines as class A drug taking. I never ever want my DD to grow up with the view that consenting sex for her pleasure is wrong.

Unfortunately in a lot of schools the sex education is not being delivered by teachers. Therein lies the problem

Which is a big reason why parents should be telling their DC about it too so they're getting a variety of views. It shouldn't have to be the traditional Big Talk, it should be part of an ongoing conversation about relationships, bodies, and sex that spans years.

My DC are aged 10, 7, 5, and 2. Aside from the 2yo, they all know the correct names for their anatomy as well as having their own colloquial names for their bits and they use whichever is appropriate to the situation. They know that no one is allowed to look at or touch their private areas unless they have to (e.g., at the doctor) and that mum/dad will be there to explain why, they also know if anyone tries to look or touch but says not to tell anyone else then this is wrong and the number one rule is all situations is that if someone says "don't tell your mum/dad" then the first thing they must do is to tell us. 7yo and 5yo know that mummies have eggs in their tummy and daddy's have sperm, when the two meet they can go grow into a baby in the mummy's tummy. 10yo knows that this happens through sex, he also knows that adults have sex for fun or to feel close to each other and there are ways to stop a baby being made and diseases being spread but that people should only have sex once they're old enough and if they both agree to do it. He was disgusted that DH and I have had The Sex "four times"

They also know that some people have two mums and some have two dads in the same way that they know some people have parents who don't live together and some don't have any parents at all, to me that isn't part of sex education it's part of teaching them that all families are different.

It’s the Great British don’t-mention-the-word-sex obsession. I think some parents assume that 5 year olds are going to be given all the details, and miss the age appropriate bit.

My worry is that there is no evidence that some of the organisations delivering this topic in schools have even a basic understanding of biology.

Completely agree with this. Some of them don’t even have basic grasp of the English language, never mind science.

In the Stonewall toolkit, the definition of trans suggested for 5-year-olds starts:

“Babies are given a gender when they are born.”

With that level of ignorance, what hope is there for our children to receive the right information?

Well the facts of biology are certainly being taught by, biology teachers at our high school. PHSE is taught separately as it involves more relationship issues with aditional training that the science teachers don't get. Unless you want to teach it, non of ours do. I'm not sure who else would be best suited to teach human biology in a high school!

Yes we had parents who objected to the word clitoris being mentioned.

Most men never find it anyway so what's the point?

Seriously though, what age were the children?