To be annoyed at DH not playing along with ‘the guessing game’

[Bethan369]

DS 10 spent 2 hours this afternoon making a little stop action animation. He had to take over 200 photos to make it and was proud of himself when it was finished. He was excited to show DH when he got in from work and said ‘I’m going to get him to guess how long it took me and how many photos I had to take!’

He had asked me to guess too and, as you do, I guessed low ‘20 pictures? 30?50?’ then feigned surprise when he said 200 followed by ‘wow that must have taken you ages we’ll done!’

Now DH’s not stupid, he watched the video and then guessed that it’d taken him 3 hours and 200 photos.

I know this is very petty and obviously I’m not raging or anything but I just thought why can’t you just play along, let the lad surprise you instead of being a know it all!

Ergh I can’t stand it when people do this. Like you say, let him have his little boast!

I think, at 10, he should be able to cope with that response.

Was he dismissive/rude, or just accurate?

If the latter then it's probably better for him to just be himself, rather than faking a persona for his son.

I'm sure DS could cope with the response but like OP I think DH could have played along a bit!

To be honest, at 10 I think he can take an honest answer.

Ds can still be proud, DJ can still be impressed AND guess correctly.

Dh not DJ

DS coped with the repsonse just fine but I know he just wanted to surprise him.

Seen another way, your husband’s answer immediately acknowledged the time and effort taken to make the video.

Yeh I suppose, isn’t still think he was being a knob though.

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That's mean! He should have let him had his moment then made a fuss of him.

Why was he being a knob? Is there more to this?

I dunno. It shows your husband recognised it wasn't an easy task your son did. Like if you spent all day cleaning and someone guessed you had only spent 10 minutes....that would annoy me. Did your son seem upset at his response?

I don’t think it sounds knobby at all!

From DS’ perspective his dad recognised how much work was in it straight away whereas you thought it was only 20 photos worth of work and were surprised that it was more.

I have an almost 10yo who does the “guess” game and if I guessed low he would give me the face and say “do you really think that only took half an hour? Look how much I did!”

I hate guessing stuff, and straight from work and the commute it’d be a massive effort to humour the DC, I may well not manage it.

Meh as long as husband made a fuss and congratulated him then dont see why needed tonpkay guessing game. Hes 10 not 3

Off topic, a bit, well done your DS! That's really impressive.

Can we see it??

You vastly underestimated how much time and effort DS put in.

DH accurately estimated and you're annoyed at him?

I'd be annoyed too men 'ey

Particularly if put on the spot, I wouldn't know whether the correct way to play, in this instance, is to guess high or low.

As others have said, guessing low could reasonably be taken as undervaluing DS's hard work.

Well done to your son. TBH if he asked me as a ten year old I would assume he is asking a genuine questions and I would feel I would be patronising underplaying the amount of photos/time it took. Guessing games are for younger kids imo
I think your husband acknowledged the actual work he did.

Yes my DH would do that! He wouldn't do it to score points or anything. It would just be that answering accurately would be the first thing that would occur to him to do. And it annoys me too!

I have an almost 10yo who does the “guess” game and if I guessed low he would give me the hmm face and say “do you really think that only took half an hour? Look how much I did!”

Me too. If I guess low, she thinks I’m saying she didn’t do much. If I guess high, she thinks I’m saying she hasn’t done enough.

I now tell her I’m a rubbish guesser, is the answer chicken?