To think dh is a f*%+ing AH for calling me lazy early pregnancy for lying around on holiday?

[Mamabear12]

I am furious. Basically pregnant with 3rd dc. Very early stages (just got positive yesterday) and husband calls me lazy for taking a nap and lying in bed most of the afternoon? I woke 6:30am got kids ready for breakfast, took them to beach and pool. Had them all morning while he stayed in the room working. Then he took over. Took my son to golf and was Carless not watching him so ds got hit in the head with a golf ball. So I got mad at that. Ds has dilated pupils etc. I’ve called reception to send a doctor as his pupils are different size so I’m a little concerned. Other then that he is fine. So anyway, he keeps saying how lazy I am etc. I am furious. He hasn’t asked once how I feel since finding out. In my last pregnancies he treated me as normal. I wish he would at least be more caring or thoughtful when I’m pregnant! So now I’m sitting next to my sleeping son waiting for the doctor to come and I’m furious. Please, help calm me down. This anxiety over my son/ anger at my husband for calling me lazy and acting like I’m crazy for wanting the doctor to look at him.

He is also from a culture that treat women like men. Very equal.

Is this a culture where men are treated without any care or consideration either then? Cause that's how he's treating you and your children. Honestly, those health scenarios where only your good judgement meant the kids got the treatment they needed - it makes me feel anxious just reading about it. And yes he should be more caring and thoughtful when you are pregnant and I'm sorry that isn't. I'm afraid this is a "your DH" thing, not a men in general thing though. I hope you get some time to rest up today as you must be shattered after checking on your son all night. Take care.

Op your husband is negligent with his children and quite frankly dangerous for their health. Why are you having another baby with him? Leave him and look after your kids. He put your dd to bed with a head injury and an open wound ffs. Give your head a wobble.

I’m really not sure why you’re still with him, let alone having a 3rd child when he’s so cavalier with the other two’s health?

Your husband doesn’t seem to count childcare or rest as necessary activities. Golf, in his hierarchy, is a meaningful and valuable activity; ensuring his children are safe or his pregnant wife has the opportunity to rest is not.

Op is ignoring the questions about continuing having more children with him, even though she is fully aware of what hes like. He sounds horrid with each of your updates yet this doesnt make a difference as you are still making children.

Not all men are so hands on w kids and I get that.

Good job most mothers aren't like that then.

And throwing money at the issue (when it suits) isn't the answer either.

These threads baffle me. You activity ttc more children with him when you clearly aren't happy with him as a husband or parent.

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