About not wanting to go in fully paid holiday to v expensive destination with ILS during PGCSE

[Chillyegg]

So boyfriends have offered to take all the family to v v expensive holiday destination fully paid holiday. Very generous of them. THIS however falls during whennim on my PGCSE course so I’ve mentioned I don’t think me and dd can go. Dd isn’t boyfriends child. Boyfriend thinks I’m ungrateful . And that if I want to go “I’ll make it happen”. I’m royally pissed off . I’m a single mum that works full time with children with mental health problems and juggling court battles with my ex . While also prepping for my PGCSE that’s been long dreamed of. He said if I have lots of essays I can just stay in the room and do them in the holiday place while he takes dd to the parks. I don’t know whether I’m being a rat or he’s being an arse but I’m on my period and have a sprained knee so I’m cross anyway.

So he thinks you should go on holiday to be holed up in a hotel room writing essays? Sod that! He doesn't sound very considerate.

The PGCE is a red herring (no offence - I know it's important to you).

I wouldn't go on hol with ILs EVERRR. You've only got to read MN for evidence that these 'generous' holidays are a way to get everyone in one place so that they can call the shots. You've already said his Mum 'is putting pressure on him'. You have to ask yourself why?

The holiday doesn't take precedent over your studies. But perhaps you will need one by then?
You don't sound as if you even like him much. There isn't any regret that you would have had a lovely time with him. No gratitude for the gesture - even if poorly timed.
Is it the right relationship for you? If not, let him go free to meet someone else. He can take her on a luxury holiday instead.

PGCE is hard, especially when you have kids, and it should take precedence over a trip away. You may just want to stay home and sleep.