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Fucking Hacked Off

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 21:38

Name changed so this isn't linked to my other posts.

I'm fucking hacked off.

Long awaited event which takes place once a year. This year it falls over Easter weekend, on the Saturday.

I bought tickets months ago so that me, a friend and her boyfriend could go. She was fully aware of this and vas very appreciative at the time. Didn't cost loads as I got in early but still... also bought one extra for the guy I was seeing at the time but that's not happening anymore so I've got four tickets to this event.

Friend has dropped out, can't make it for a couple of reasons which I understand. No apology though or offer to reimburse me for the tickets I bought for her and her boyfriend.

Approached a family member to see if they'd come with me as I'd really like to go. Offered to front all costs bar alcohol so they wouldn't be too much out of pocket.

Whilst they didn't fully commit, I did think they'd be coming based on their response. However tonight they've turned round and said it's not for them and they won't be coming.

I'm hacked off because a) my friend let me down in the first place and b) family member (I feel) led me down the path a bit before blowing me out too.

I really really want to go to this event! But now quite sadly have no one else to go with Sad

Other friends are married/coupled up/have babies or this event really isn't for them.

What would you do? Can you think of any other options apart from turning up like a sad act on their own Confused

I can't sell the tickets on either as the card they were booked on needs to be present at the time of admission.

TIA

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PeachyPrincess · 14/04/2019 21:40

What about posting to a local FB group asking if anyone wants to go with you?

Bunnybigears · 14/04/2019 21:42

If it's a niche event which it sounds like find Facebook groups of people interested in the same thing. I'm sure you will find some people who will hang out with you in exchange for some free tickets.

ShinyMe · 14/04/2019 21:44

Unless it's a tennis tournament or something where you have to have a partner, then I would absolutely go alone, no second thoughts.I go to concerts alone all the time, and have never felt like some odd weirdo. Either everyone is having a good time and doesn't notice, or the people nearby adopt you into their group, or there is another solo person near you.

Life's far to short to not do things just because you haven't got someone to do them with.

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 21:44

Thanks for your reply. Would my friends on FB see that? Not knocking it but it feels like I'd be advertising myself as a Billy no mates if everyone I knew in there saw it Sad

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Hubblebubbletripletrouble · 14/04/2019 21:47

What kind of event is it roughly? Sporting, music, theatre...?

MrsGarethSouthgate · 14/04/2019 21:48

Tell us what and where it is and you might find a willing attendee right here Smile

MrsPatrickDempsey · 14/04/2019 21:49

Keen to know what the event is....

pictish · 14/04/2019 21:50

God no...don’t take to the internet to find an event buddy...fuck knows who you could end up landed with. Terrible advice!

I can appreciate how disappointing this must be. What sort of event is it?

Ontheboardwalk · 14/04/2019 21:51

I got led on then let down by a friend for a concert I really wanted to go to.

Put the spare ticket on Facebook and got a close relative 'giving' it to a random they knew so I had to say the ticket had already gone.

Went on my own and loved it. Found my new bestest friend ever in the crowd. The friendship only lasted 90 mins but it was brilliant.

Go on your own, it’ll be great. Make sure you get the cash off your friend though.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 14/04/2019 21:53

If its a gig then you should totally still go :)

Oldraver · 14/04/2019 21:56

Not knocking it but it feels like I'd be advertising myself as a Billy no mates if everyone I knew in there saw it

Dont be silly, just go on your own then

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 21:59

It's a music event. But definitely niche which most people don't seem to be in to.

I think when I'm there I'd be ok... it's just the travelling there and back on my lonesome which puts me off.

And I live miles away so getting an Uber or cab alone would cost £££ (event finishes after trains stop running)

I don't want to drive as to me, this event is a time to proper let my hair down and have a good time haha.

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Rarotonga · 14/04/2019 21:59

Just go. You might have a brilliant time.

FelixTitling · 14/04/2019 21:59

Post on your social media. Just say you have 3 spare tickets if anyone would like to come. People get let down all the time, just s other people are wishing they had somewhere to go or someone to go with.

If no one bites, def still go by yourself.

CalleighDoodle · 14/04/2019 22:01

id put on your own fb page been let down last minute for XXX and now have spare tickets. does anyone want to come with me so im not a billy no mates? just your alcohol to pay for!

honestly, if someone on my feed posted that id be there in a shot. i have no social life lol. i bet you have fb friends who would love it. I did it with a concert i wanted to go to and one of my 6th form friends jumped on it and we had a great night, having not seen each other in about 15 years at the time.

LordEmsworth · 14/04/2019 22:02

I don't get it. Why can't you go on your own? I regularly go to things on my own and if you think that makes me a sad act, then I'll just point out that I'm the one out doing fun stuff while you're worrying what other people would think if you did the same...

Roussette · 14/04/2019 22:03

This happened to my DD and she went on her own. It was a fairly niche music gig (someone she's followed for ages and loves) and because she got there early and was with true fans she had a really good time and didn't feel awkward at all.

Do put it up on FB but if nothing happens, go on your own. Hope you have a good time.

fruitbrewhaha · 14/04/2019 22:04

Why do you care if our facebook friends see you have a tickets for something available? They are suppose be people your know and like.

Theres no shame in it.

fruitbrewhaha · 14/04/2019 22:04

*your

ssd · 14/04/2019 22:05

Book yourse8into a cheap travelodge and make a night of it

user1497997754 · 14/04/2019 22:05

Put on gum tree or Facebook

Blondeshavemorefun · 14/04/2019 22:05

Why don’t you post on your own fb

Assume friends on there and just say 3 spare tickets who wants to come with me

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 22:06

Thanks everyone for your replies, it seems like I wouldn't be such a sad case after all if I were to advertise the spare tickets.

Think FB is the way forward though as at least they're people I know!

I'm going to sleep on it, reflect on this thread and make my mind up tomorrow. Wish me luck! Grin

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LEDadjacent · 14/04/2019 22:08

Try to find other people to meet up with through www.soloarmada.com

MitziK · 14/04/2019 22:08

If you're thinking of something like Camden Rocks, just look at the particular band fan pages and post there. It's common for there to be posts along the lines of 'been let down, don't fancy being a Billy No Mates' and you get tons of answers saying 'meet us at the Black Heart/World's End/Hawley' etc, etc. Done it myself when DP was ill. Same way there will be posts saying 'got 3 spare tickets thanks to break up, anyone interested, face value/a tenner/a beer, you'll need to meet me at the venue as they're collection by cardholder?'

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