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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 21:38

Name changed so this isn't linked to my other posts.

I'm fucking hacked off.

Long awaited event which takes place once a year. This year it falls over Easter weekend, on the Saturday.

I bought tickets months ago so that me, a friend and her boyfriend could go. She was fully aware of this and vas very appreciative at the time. Didn't cost loads as I got in early but still... also bought one extra for the guy I was seeing at the time but that's not happening anymore so I've got four tickets to this event.

Friend has dropped out, can't make it for a couple of reasons which I understand. No apology though or offer to reimburse me for the tickets I bought for her and her boyfriend.

Approached a family member to see if they'd come with me as I'd really like to go. Offered to front all costs bar alcohol so they wouldn't be too much out of pocket.

Whilst they didn't fully commit, I did think they'd be coming based on their response. However tonight they've turned round and said it's not for them and they won't be coming.

I'm hacked off because a) my friend let me down in the first place and b) family member (I feel) led me down the path a bit before blowing me out too.

I really really want to go to this event! But now quite sadly have no one else to go with Sad

Other friends are married/coupled up/have babies or this event really isn't for them.

What would you do? Can you think of any other options apart from turning up like a sad act on their own Confused

I can't sell the tickets on either as the card they were booked on needs to be present at the time of admission.

TIA

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BestestBrownies · 14/04/2019 22:09

DP did this on Gumtree, but he was the buyer and on his own for the gig U2 would have to pay ME to go to one of their gigs.

Same scenario (had to go into venue with original ticket purchaser). He handed over the cash for his ticket and ended up hanging out with them for the whole gig and had a nice time with like-minded fans.

You have nothing to lose OP.

Ginger1982 · 14/04/2019 22:11

I bought 2 tickets for something last year on a whim thinking a pal would go with me. Turned out she couldn't afford it. I advertised the extra ticket on FB and even offered to sell both. Nobody took me up on the offer so I just went on my own. It was totally fine, I enjoyed it!

CrispbuttyNo1 · 14/04/2019 22:14

Is there a nearby hotel you can stay at. Just do it.

I often went to gigs on my own as ex husband never wanted to go anywhere. I had some great nights. Made new mates. And had the luxury of going back to a lovely clean warm bed all to myself at the end of the night.

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 22:18

Hotel on my own does sound tempting! Plus I can just naff off when I've had enough Grin

Right... I'm feeling brave haha. I've put it on FB, just hope it's not sad enough to not get any replies Blush

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Missingstreetlife · 14/04/2019 22:18

If sold out you will easily sell spare tickets at venue. Try to just get one friend to come with you, but definately go even if you sell three tickets cheap when you get there. Enjoy.

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 14/04/2019 22:25

Could you ask the original friend who let you down for some money towards the tickets and out it towards a hotel? You may feel better if you have a close space to go to if you're worried about going on your own (not that you need to be)

I assume the friend hasn't volunteered to pay but that doesn't mean she won't if directly asked. And if she doesn't you're no worse off

Go and have fun

ssd · 14/04/2019 22:25

Hope you get someone to go with and have a brilliant time.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 14/04/2019 22:27

You will be fine. Check into hotel, get ready at leisure, quick journey to gig, watch it and then back to hotel. Have a bottle of wine chilling in hotel room bathroom basin, some picky bits of food (cheese, olives, crisps)... Lovely sleep then get up for a leisurely breakfast the next morning.

I'm tempted to find an event now just so that I can do this. And I'm not even with the ex anymore. I just love an occasional bit of 'me' time.

Starwednesday · 14/04/2019 22:29

I’ve messaged you

Whatdoyouknowwhenyouknownowt · 14/04/2019 22:29

^^that sounds lovely & I don't even do gigs or things...

queenrollo · 14/04/2019 22:31

I went to a gig last December which was fairly niche and loads of people were solo but arranged to meet fellow fans at the door. Lots of spare tickets were handed over this way too and loads of new friendships forged.
I also went to a gig in September alone (until my friend who was performing arrived at 7.30pm, but the event started at 4.30) and he didn't get to introduce me to anyone because I'd already made friends by the time he arrived.
In my experience music crowds are generally very welcoming and a great place to be able to literally say 'i've come on my own!' and people will talk to you.

Enjoy it!

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 22:37

Thanks you guys!

I've found a page on social media and posted on there too... will let you know if any responses I get!

The hotel idea definitely appeals... I could even drive and make an afternoon/morning of it!

Next site... late rooms and trivago haha

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 22:39

@Starwednesday I can't see a msg from you, but I'm on my phone. How can I read it pls?

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Starwednesday · 14/04/2019 22:46

At the top right hand side of the page there’s a picture like a little person on a circle if you click that then click inbox

Starwednesday · 14/04/2019 22:47

Pic

Fucking Hacked Off
MarthasGinYard · 14/04/2019 22:49

I'd be hacked off too Op

But hopefully you'll have a great time

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pissedoffeaster2019 · 14/04/2019 22:55

I can't see that on my phone @Starwednesday but thanks anyway for sending.

Will have another look tomorrow when I'm on my PC and hopefully be able to see it then Smile

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Ginger1982 · 14/04/2019 23:00

OP hit the icon with the three lines next to the search icon top right of phone, then hit My Mumsnet then down to My Mumsnet Settings and it should bring up the image the PP has posted and you should get her message.

MarthasGinYard · 14/04/2019 23:02

Op may be on the phone app

Italiangreyhound · 14/04/2019 23:07

Your friend and her boyfriend should pay you even if they cannot go.

Yes, tell friends you know. Good luck.

Ginger1982 · 14/04/2019 23:17

I'm on the phone app and I see messages by doing what I suggested.

MrsFezziwig · 14/04/2019 23:38

OP what a rude person you are!. Nice to know that in some people's view quite a large proportion of my life would come under the heading of "sad act" (but fortunately not in the opinion of anyone I value, and as PP said we're the ones out there having fun while you're festering at home).

pictish · 14/04/2019 23:42
Hmm
LovelyJubbly67 · 14/04/2019 23:46

Is that the bondage event in London OP? I know a guy who's really into rope, he could go with you.

Ginger1982 · 14/04/2019 23:47

MrsFezziwig what are you on about? The OP has a bit of anxiety about people thinking she is Betty No Mates. I can understand that. It doesn't make her a rude person 🙄

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