to think he should support me in quitting my job

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I hate my job. I've been employed there for about a year, and hated it from the start. However, DP pushed me to stick it out. He didn't want me being out of work, as we were looking to buy a house, and we wouldn't have got the mortgage without me having a salary. He said once we had the house, he would support me to quit so I could find something else.

We have the house now, but he doesn't want me to leave work without a job to go to. My job is seriously affecting my mental health now, and while I've been looking for another job, I haven't had any luck as employers say my notice period is too long. I am on sleeping tablets, valium, antidepressants, and beta blockers because of all this.

Here are a few more facts, which I think are relevant:

• DP earns £35k, I earn £21k
• I put £5k more into the deposit for the house than he did
• Our mortgage, bills, and food comes to around £1500 a month

The OP hasn’t mentioned a 3-month notice periods anywhere!

What is the motive periods of your job?

Do the jobs in the industry you'd be applying for, not have a similar notice period ?

The maths is such that you are going to tight on DP's salary alone (the £2300 quoted above doesn't allow for pension or student loan or other deductions). Have you sat down and written down all the incomings and outgoings? Do you have any savings you can fall back on? I'm not really sure how your mental health will improve if you add financial stress plus the stress of finding a new job.

If you just give up your job, you will then both have the stress of not having sufficient money coming in and then the worry of finding another job. You are in a much stronger position job hunting if you’re already in role as well.

Can you get signed off with stress whilst you look / work notice period ?

As a registered nurse, the fact you are on sleeping tablets, valium, antidepressants, and beta blockers daily is alarming. Are these prescribed by the same doctor?

You need to take time off sick, and look for another job that is less detrimental to your health.

Honestly I completely agree with him. If my dh wanted to leave his job with out something to go to whilst we have a big mortgage I'd kill him. I