Dwp 3rd compliance meeting

[Ladyluk]

Hi everyone I'm looking for advice plz . I went to my 3rd compliance meeting over being reported that my partner lives with me when he doesnt. We have a son together and he stays 2-3 nights a week and goes. We have thought about moving on together but I'm not ready for that. They are ringing me tomorrow to see if I want to change my circumstances and close the case. If not they say there is a financial connection to him at my house which they wont tell me about and will file for me to have a meeting under caution and be prosecuted. I've told them I've done nothing wrong but they believe that due to my son's age and the time I have alleged had him moved In they believe there is a case. I've not eaten or slept and I've booked to see a solicitor . Any advice would be appreciated many thanks

Op it's worth telling you as well that dwp can see your bank account. So if he puts money into your account or you send him money then they can see that.

@custardcreams1
Having your mum stay over is a completely different scenario from having a partner stay. One of the basic conditions for finding someone 'living together as married couple' is that they are legally able to marry.
You are not able to marry your mum

What was the outcome?

I think that if you are in a long term relationship they can still press for a fraud case even if you didn't live together … someone I know was prosecuted for benefit fraud and ended up in court for exactly this. Two DC who lived with her: he was her long term partner and would occasionally stay over, but he had his own house - he actually owned the house, had all the bills registered there, as she did for her house, but that didn't matter. They WERE/ARE a couple, and that's what counted. You clearly are a couple, and the fact that you have decided to live separately isn't the issue for DWP: their issue is that you have a stable partner who, I presume, is working, and yet you are asking the state to provide what you need when I guess they are saying the partner should be contributing.

I've been in a similar situation and they advised me to keep over night stays to no more than once a week, but that there was no official amount of nights that they are allowed to stay. It was difficult though as I was in a new relationship and had to move my partner in as I obviously wanted to see him more than once a week, but someone made malicious allegations about me, which meant they were watching me.
I think if you have completely separate finances and there's nothing linking him to your address, you'll be ok. I don't think you're doing fraud but I would cut down the over night stays.

I didn't live with exh until our ds was 15 months. Never had an issue. He stayed over 1 night.
No cash exchanged and the tight git never paid anything for ds.

I got the impression that OP had to go on benefits etc and is in the current situation she to DV from a past relationship. She's entered into a new one, likely the child was an accident if they are not living together and she is not ready for that, and they are together romantically. But OP is not ready to let him move in full-time/find their own place together/join bills/put him on a tenancy etc. Which is understandable. I can see what it looks like from their point of view though, but if he's not contributing money to you or his child then you are essentially operating financially as a single parent. From their view, he should be contributing though as he is staying 3 nights a week and has a child with you.

“Committing benefit fraud” I suppose not quite as bad as what the super rich get up to is it. What about those 150 or so mps who recently sold their London houses (subsidised by the taxpayer.) for huge profit. But never mind, let’s castigate the little man who has fuck all.