Daddy's new friend

[Rocket2019]

Please help. My ex has started going out with his more recent ex again. She has 2 girls a little older than my girl of 9.
The problem is that he is taking our child out with him. They go out together in the day and have sleepovers at her house which is 5 minutes away from his.
He only started seeing her 3 weeks ago and they've slept over twice and have plans for next weekend too.
He doesn't want a relationship with the woman yet or maybe ever he says but he seems to be using our child to see her.
I think it's too early to involve the children and using them to see each other just seems wrong.
Am I being unreasonable? I worry that when this finishes not only will he be unhappy but my daughter will miss seeing her new friends after being pushed at them.

I agree he is being irresponsible. It is far too soon to introduce this situation, and given is is temporary it may be another ‘loss’ to your dd in the shape of her new friends.

Can I be straight with you op, it is a complete win win for him. He doesn’t need to entertain dd as his friends children will do that for him, he has ready made meals and arrangements for him and dd possibly, and intimacy at night. You might like to ask why he wouldn’t want to do this?? However the downsides for your dc are considerable. No quality time with her father, emotional investment into new friends only for it to fall through and too much change too soon.

Talk to him. Out line your concern. Ask him to make the time for dd to include one to one. Outline the risks to your dd.

Hang on is your Dd sleeping over, or dd + her dad?

If it's Dd+ dad, then obviously they're not just friends.

Basically if sounds like he's chucked his daughter in the middle of a fwb situation. It's not fair, but unfortunately there isn't anything you can do about it.

They both stay over. I would hate it if our daughter stayed on her own. She just doesn't know them well enough.
I agree it does look like they're sleeping together but as long as that doesn't affect our child then that doesn't matter.
It's just the introduction to another new family (the rest were his relationships all with children) that I am concerned with.

I think you’re absolutely right to be concerned especially given that this is the 4th time he’s done it.
Yes, it’s his time with DD and he gets to decide what to do with it but he should be putting DD first and it doesn’t sound like he is.
Does she ever get time just her and him?

It seems as if they just spend time with this family. Not together any more or with her other friends.