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They won’t let her nap!

47 replies

Oohgossip · 13/04/2019 19:21

Daughter is moving up a room in her nursery as she’s almost 3. They’ve said they don’t allow naps in that room as they have 4 and 5 year olds there too...

She’s nowhere near ready to drop her nap yet, she’s a champion baller. What do I do???

OP posts:
ILoveMaxiBondi · 13/04/2019 19:27

It’s your child. You’re paying for them to care for your child, you get to decide if she is ready to move to the next room. If they can’t accommodate your DDs need then you look for alternative care.

Shazafied · 13/04/2019 19:28

That ridiculous , all children are different. I’d complain and if they can’t accommodate your child’s needs I’d be moving her

TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 13/04/2019 19:30

It's up to you. My daughter was still napping prior to her move. They said they dont usually put them down for one but wouldve if we asked/if she wanted.
My daughter was fine. Children will drop a nap at some point. Can you go with it and see how she is?

lyralalala · 13/04/2019 19:30

That sounds like a recipe for a lot of cranky children!

What will they do to prevent her napping? There's a difference between not encouraging naps in that room and actively not allowing it.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 13/04/2019 19:36

I agree with @lyralalala. It's a bit unreasonable to expect the nap mattresses to come out in a room full of 4-5yos who no longer nap. It's totally reasonable to expect her to be able to fall asleep on some cushions in the reading corner if she needs to. So to accommodate but not encourage.

I would chat with them again.

moreismore · 13/04/2019 19:37

Totally not up to them. There must be a quiet space she could nap-even if it’s back in the other room. Ridiculous!

HoneyWheeler · 13/04/2019 19:39

Yep it's not their call - you are the advocate for your child and somehow they should be able to accommodate her needs. This is the reason I moved my son from one nursery to another.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 13/04/2019 19:40

I would insist they let her nap in the 'younger' room then.

pointythings · 13/04/2019 19:41

Our nursery had a nap room - DD1 napped until she was 4.5! No problem at all once she started school though. DD2 dropped all naps before she turned 2 except after swimming. They're all different, nurseries need to respect that.

PatchworkElmer · 13/04/2019 19:43

My son’s going up into the ‘big boy room’ soon- nursery just take the children who need a nap back to the ‘little room’ to nap with the younger toddlers if needed.

DizzyPhillips · 13/04/2019 19:43

I had the opposite problem with our nursery. DD2 is almost two and really does not need her naps any more. If she naps during the day even just for half an hour then she’s an absolute nightmare to get to sleep at night. DD1 was the exact same. Dropped her nap at 18 months.

I have met resistance from the nursery who feel she’s “very young to be dropping her nap”. Maybe they think I’m being mean.

But at the end of the day, I’m paying them a damn extortionate amount to care for her (and to be fair to them they do an absolutely fantastic job of that) so they did what I said.

Coldhandscoldheart · 13/04/2019 19:44

At our nursery they let the, go down a room for nap time if they want/need to. Otherwise be ready for some very early bed times.

Pinkprincess1978 · 13/04/2019 19:47

@DizzyPhillips mine were both the same so I'm shocked to hear 3 year olds need a nap. My youngest would have what I called illegal naps especially on the school run on my days off. When she did have one she would still be up at 9/9.30 at night.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 13/04/2019 19:51

If she needs a nap she needs a nap. They would be failing in their duty of care if they didn't meet one of her basic needs! They can just move her downstairs at nap time surely. It's up to them to find a solution though.

Not really the point of the thread but why are there 5 year olds at nursery at nap time, aren't they meant to be in school?

Lastly are you 100pc sure she does need a nap? Only ask as my first seemed to but we had to miss it for a family birthday we expected it to be awful but she was fine

Yabbers · 13/04/2019 20:06

Nope. If DD needs a nap she should have a nap. Our nursery was happy to facilitate it right up to about aged 3 and a half. I’d be changing nursery.

SherlockSays · 13/04/2019 20:14

Surely if she just takes herself off to a corner and fall asleep they're not going to wake her up?

PlugUgly1980 · 13/04/2019 20:18

At our nursery, the older ones can go through into one of the lower age group rooms for nap time. Seems to work well, until they become wise enough to realise that the alternative to nap time is extra time to play outside!

30not13 · 13/04/2019 20:19

@AmIRightOrAMeringue the op may be inScotland where there will be 3, 4 and 5 yo in a nursery. School starts between 4.5 and 5.5 depending on birthdate.

Bookworm4 · 13/04/2019 20:21
  • bawler not baller 😂😂
daphine2004 · 13/04/2019 20:22

When my son was moved up he still napped occasionally so they would just take him into the toddler room for naps. Could they do this?

Caterina99 · 13/04/2019 20:27

We have the opposite issue. My DSs nursery encourages nap/quiet time for everyone. DS is 3.5 and a nap would mean him up til 9 or 10pm. They don’t force them to sleep, but they have to lie on their bed things for an hour before they get up so many of them do

elliejjtiny · 13/04/2019 20:28

My ds1 dropped his nap at 8 months. My ds2 was still napping at 5. Both school and nursery accommodated this.

TooMinty · 13/04/2019 20:31

In the nursery we use, they move all the napping children to one room at nap time and the non nappers go in a different one. Regardless of age or what room they are in for the rest of the day. I can't see why they'd try to prevent a 3 year old from napping, just causing more work for themselves?!

CottonSock · 13/04/2019 20:33

My dd is almost 3 and can't do without nap. Nursery keep asking but she has it with younger kids. Please put your foot down, they are being stupid

furryleopard · 13/04/2019 20:34

When my daughter was that age her friend needed a nap and he used to go up to the toddlers room to have one then come back to preschool room. Seems a simple solution.