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They won’t let her nap!

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Oohgossip · 13/04/2019 19:21

Daughter is moving up a room in her nursery as she’s almost 3. They’ve said they don’t allow naps in that room as they have 4 and 5 year olds there too...

She’s nowhere near ready to drop her nap yet, she’s a champion baller. What do I do???

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Dimsumlosesum · 13/04/2019 20:37

They ditched alloted nap time at both my daughter's nurseries/pre schools once they moved up a room.

justforareply · 13/04/2019 20:38

Same as furryleopard - nursery put mine in baby room for nap in afternoon

woolduvet · 13/04/2019 20:40

Surely they'd just send her back into her old room for a nap, and let them know when she's dropped them.

dancinfeet · 13/04/2019 20:44

that's ridiculous. my youngest was only just 4 when she started school and would often curl up under the table at school in the afternoon and nap, the teacher said it is was not uncommon amongst the younger starters and that she would eventually out grow it. She soon did!

kaytee87 · 13/04/2019 20:47

Just tell them she can't move room then.

Yubaba · 13/04/2019 20:52

Ds2 was at preschool and he often lay down in the reading area for a 30 minute nap when he was 4.

CMOTDibbler · 13/04/2019 21:19

Mine was a dedicated napper, and though they had 'quiet time' after lunch in the preschool room he was the only one having a 2 hour nap still. So they put his mat over by the reading corner so he was out of the way when everyone else got up. How he slept with them rampaging around I don't know, but he did!

TheInventorofToasterStreudel · 13/04/2019 21:22

Our nursery let DS nap in the sensory corner tent with the fairy lights switched off. He was probably the last napper in preschool. There are ways and means, they need to help you.

Rowgtfc72 · 13/04/2019 21:29

Dd napped till she started reception and then she still napped on the sofa for a couple of hours till she was almost five.
I'd ask if they can put her back in her old room at nap time.
Some kids need more sleep than others.

beargrass · 13/04/2019 21:29

We've got the opposite problem but I agree with others, they need to let her nap. She might come closer to dropping it if she thinks she's missing out but they have to let her transition. Surely she can go back into the previous (current) room for her nap?

angelikacpickles · 13/04/2019 21:32

I have met resistance from the nursery who feel she’s “very young to be dropping her nap”. Maybe they think I’m being mean.

@ DizzyPhillips No, I'd say it just suits them better to have all the children sleep at that time.

OP, I would insist on her being allowed to nap. Do they not have a separate sleep room where she can sleep with the younger children?

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Oohgossip · 13/04/2019 21:52

Thanks for your responses.

To answer a few questions - yes, she absolutely needs the nap, she’s a nightmare without it and we just can’t get her in bed early enough to accommodate - nor would we want to!

I’ll ask if they’ll let her go back down but they haven’t mentioned that as an option. They’re VERY regimented in their ideas and don’t care if parents don’t agree, they say ‘take your child elsewhere if you don’t agree’. ... for instance they insist on potty training all boys from 2 and a half, no matter how the parents feel about the child’s readiness. Problem is they’re the best nursery in the area so not sure where we’d move her to....

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Oohgossip · 13/04/2019 21:54

Oh and annoyingly, she won’t just curl up in a corner and nap if others are playing. She needs the nap routine 🙄😂

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kaytee87 · 13/04/2019 22:09

The other nurseries must be abysmal if that's the best one!!

RunAlexRun · 13/04/2019 22:10

I was going to say what Kaytee said!

GregoryPeckingDuck · 13/04/2019 22:13

What exactly is their policy. Some don’t do naps but if a child passes out in the corner they’ll let the sleep for fifteen minutes or so before waking them.

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Oohgossip · 13/04/2019 22:17

The other nurseries truly are abysmal!!

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DrWhy · 13/04/2019 22:20

Our nursery is very small so has a 2-5 room, they start in it based more on their development than strict age (sufficiently verbal mainly) so clearly has some that need naps and some that don’t. They put the mats out in one of the reading areas and the ones that need a nap are encouraged to come and lie down. The ones who don’t have an hour or so of quiet time, reading, drawing, crafting, quiet play at tables type thing. It’s far from impossible! I assume napping in the toddler room isn’t possible as it would mess up their ratios.

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Oohgossip · 13/04/2019 23:08

Yes I wondered if it was a ratio thing too 😞

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woolduvet · 13/04/2019 23:11

I'd put it in writing then, it might make them consider it more carefully. I'd be very surprised if this follows their policies. You should have a copy, they'd be in bother if you made an official complaint.

DizzyPhillips · 13/04/2019 23:47

angelika they don’t all nap at the same time. They try to emulate home routines as much as possible so the kids will nap at the same times they do at home. I genuinely don’t think it’s that they just want rid of her for an hour!

woolduvet · 14/04/2019 01:17

Tbh at nursery they do all nap at the same time, that's how they manage lunches and ratios.

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