What is the point if you can get threads deleted for 'privacy concerns'?

[DantesInferno]

Yet another thread has gone, the OP says "I’ve asked for this thread to be deleted due to privacy concerns."

Which one?

Don't want to say, as then this is a taat

But we have lost quite a few over the last couple of days for the same reason

Yeah, when I wanted a thread deleted because I was getting a kicking I should have just told MNHQ that I'd said to much and was worried that I'd be IDed.

Especially when there is nothing remotely sensitive in the thread. Lots of people spend their time doing research and giving advice, then the OP sticks two fingers up and walks away. That information would have helped someone else in future.

Considering how the tabloids like to lift stories from here and publish them, I understand why it happens.

If posters are discussing something that involves their family for example, there is a far greater chance of the family seeing it if it reaches the press.

I think if someone has received a 'kicking' and can't bear for their thread to be left up, then it's a good thing that MNHQ will delete it. The reasons why aren't important and are between the OP and MN.

the privacy thing is a joke, any identifying info should be edited out if it exists which mostly it doesn't

it's a petulant threat made when things haven't gone the OP's way and it's nonsensical that MN pander to it.

Is this the one about ‘doing something usual/chores?’ I was looking for it

What’s the point?

To protect and address privacy concerns

We do understand how frustrating it can be when a few threads disappear for "privacy reasons" but we're really not in the business of making people's lives harder and we try hard to protect our users from anxiety, stress or panic about being outed.

We think we'd be a pretty heartless bunch if we didn't take this view.

There's always another thread just round the corner afterall...

Yup it's pissing me off greatly! Another fucking thread gone! What's the fucking point of posting?

And then I got a thread deleted where I asked where the thread had gone. I thought when a thread was deleted there was a message saying "Thread deleted because blah blah blah"

But obviously not! Just puff and it's gone!

Why not just delete the OP comments?

Honesty it's shit.

I can guarantee the thread about the OP with the "intense" friendship will go soon too!

Waste of bloody time.

Yeah but I can understand why. I've posted threads asking for advice before and then a few people will twist your words and ask for more details, then say you've contradicted yourself so you have to say yet more detail, and before you know it the post is completely outing.

If someone's been bullied online or a thread has caused them to not sleep at night with the brutal responses, why the hell shouldn't they get it deleted.

On most other forum communities you can delete all your own threads/posts anyway.

Haha, you should all demand refunds.

Oooo Malmi refunds?? Wait .... wonder what sort of refund it would be?

If it's gonna be some sort of lemon drizzle cake, I'm in!!

Shall we start a petition?

haha refunds!! lemon drizzle sounds perfect, who do i pm to get my cake!!?!!

Back to the original point, you know the tabloids pick up stuff from here, they've always done it - most of us probably found this place via a tabloid in the first place.

If you're bullied or not getting the responses you like, remove from your watch list, and hide the thread! (and sometimes, (not always) you need to think about why you think you are being bullied)

(thanks for the reponse MN apreciate it)

I'm not victim blaming, sometimes it is valid that a load of posters have piled on unfairly, but quite often the OP needed to have their arse handed to them on a plate

I can understand it.

Often a poster will try to keep their OP vague, but as other posters push for more detail, they end up revealing more than they intended to.

I think it would be cruel not to allow a post to be deleted in those circumstances.

Half the time it just seems to be because they aren't being validated for their bloody awful behaviour

And there goes another one!! Do I get a prize for guessing it earlier?

I find it really frustrating that threads just disappear with no notice or information! Couldn't Mumset hide all the posts, and just leave an admin post saying that the thread has gone because of xyz reason? Then people wouldn't spend ages look for threads or wondering where they've gone.

you need to think about why you think you are being bullied

Some people here can be vile towards OPs though - saying "you sound unhinged", "you sound like an arsehole", "you sound like a bitch and get a life" rather than giving actual advice. That is straight-up bullying even if the original OP was goady or whatever.

Hiding the thread does nothing when you know it's still there. Nothing wrong with the OP deciding they want it deleted. Surely you must know that's a possibility when you comment. Just because you commented means diddly squat and gives you no "rights" to anything - that's like people saying they deserve to see a photo of Meghan's baby because they pay tax!

quite often the OP needed to have their arse handed to them on a plate

Yeah that's bullying.

No-one, especially what often turns out to be vulnerable people with deep issues, deserve to be ripped to shreds by anonymous people and it's fucking nasty that people want to spend their spare time doing this to STRANGERS.

I really really want to know if that woman got married on Friday when her husband had thrown a tantrum because his ex wouldn’t allow his daughter to attend!!!! Please tell me she told. Him where to shove it ?

I never understand why people get so wound up about deletions.