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What is the point if you can get threads deleted for 'privacy concerns'?

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DantesInferno · 13/04/2019 18:58

Yet another thread has gone, the OP says "I’ve asked for this thread to be deleted due to privacy concerns."

OP posts:
TheGodmother · 13/04/2019 22:40

@Nofunkingworriesmate I started a thread asking about that and the bloody thread got deleted as have several other since! 🙄

It's top secret apparently, in case the Daily Mail gets the story!

But apparently His dm had a word with him. But who knows. This thread will have to get deleted now!

damnthatoneistakenagain · 14/04/2019 10:02

It annoys me too. But when the OP is getting a real kicking, and people are being nasty, I kind of get it (why they want it deleting.) I think personally, that MN should have a '7 days only' page, (as they have a 30 and a 90 days one,) so they can move the thread there, so people can keep chatting on it. Because tbh, I rarely see threads, where the OP is 'identifiable.'

The only time there is a good reason to zap it, is if the trashy gutter press feature it in their rag. Then again, by then it's often too late, as the (online) newspaper often screendumps the comments and posts them, so they can still be seen, even when the thread has gone. Also, the headline will often give it away.

What REALLY irks ME, is when someone posts a thread about a dilemma they are having, and multiple dozens of posters come on the thread, with advice and help and kindness (amongst maybe a few harsh comments,) and there is lots of helpful, interesting advice and tips (and links to other websites that will help,) and MN discover the OP is a previously banned poster, and ZAP the thread.

I have seen posters spend an hour or two on one thread before, advising and reassuring the OP, and giving out helpful advice; just for all the comments and useful information to disappear into the ether!

Extremely annoying. If it's a previously banned poster, can they not just ban the poster, but leave the thread up?!

damnthatoneistakenagain · 14/04/2019 10:07

I left a bit out... Second from last paragraph was meant to say....

I have seen posters spend an hour or two on one thread before, advising and reassuring the OP, and giving out helpful advice; that could help many other posters, both now AND in the future if they stumble upon the thread, just for all the comments and useful information to disappear into the ether!

VenusStarr · 14/04/2019 10:11

I've wondered this. I posted a thread a couple of years ago and felt it was open to people recognising me. Contacted mnhq and they refused to delete it.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 14/04/2019 11:02

theGodmother thanks 👍
The marriage is doomed poor woman is in for a world of constant agro

DGRossetti · 14/04/2019 11:41

I never understand why people get so wound up about deletions.

Because it's a little off-ish to invest time and effort into advising a poster, just to see it go "poof !".

If it becomes too much of a thing, it just puts people off posting. Why spend 5 minutes trying to help someone (bearing in mind that a post can be picked up by searching, so could help many people over time) if it can disappear in a flash ? As indeed many MN posters have helped me with advice they posted for someone else, originally.

damnthatoneistakenagain · 14/04/2019 11:44

Exactly my sentiment @DGRosetti

Makes me think I can't be arsed to waste time posting, helping, advising, and investing in someone's thread, when they keep being deleted so frequently.

Others are going to feel the same, and many people will just stop bothering. As you said (and I and a few others did,) the advice can be very helpful to others too. So it's annoying when it's deleted!

AIBUtopickanyoldname · 14/04/2019 11:47

I think it’s fair enough. A while ago I had someone who was trying to make my life very difficult and was doxing me. I knew they were trawling this site trying to find my threads I’d posted under a different name, some of which were quite outing if you knew me and my family. So MNHQ very kindly deleted all my posting history under that user name. It was a massive, massive relief and prevented a potential shitstorm in my personal life. I will forever be grateful.

Sparklesocks · 14/04/2019 11:59

I get it, sometimes you might initially think posting about something is a good idea but if you follow up with updates/more info and it gains traction you might worry someone you know sees it. Or you just regret mentioning it. Hopefully sometimes it’s because they’ve realised what they need to do and then no longer the advice!

Knittedfairies · 14/04/2019 12:10

I think some threads could be locked at some point, so nobody else could post, as the advice/information could be useful to someone.

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