To think you can't have 2 sets of noise in one space?

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I'm a bit funny about noise anyway so this could be a thing that doesn't bother normal people but AIBU to be really bothered by DH coming into a room I'm already listening to or watching something in and turning on a podcast/playing games/watching something on YouTube without headphones? I don't mean that he has to be silent or any shit like that, he has as much right to make noise as me, but I would go into another room or use earphones if I wanted to listen to something while he was knocking 7 bells out of everyone on Red Dead Redemption. In a previous relationship my ex would just pick up a guitar and start practicing in a room I was already in and that too made me reallllly stabby (but didn't seem to bother his parents if he did it in their place). So maybe I am just weird that way and people can filter out 'extra' noise?

Would make me ragey too, I’m not very noise tolerant either.

My DH does this all the time!! He will have TV up loud and then listen to something on his phone loudly!!! Aaarrggghh!! Lol!!

YANBU - I hate this. I bought DH earphones for this very reason e.g. if I'm cooking and listening to the radio I need to move around and he doesn't so he's the one who needs to go into another room or wear earphones. Which he accepts.

Also, I don't have brilliant hearing. I'm not even very good at having a conversation if the radio's on. I cope with one source of noise at a time!

I agree! I often play things on headphones, and that seems to make DP think I've got the hump with him because I'm wearing headphones. The fact that we're watching different things and he's got his sound UP and I might, just might, maybe want to hear the dialogue of whatever I'm watching, appears to pass him by.

He'll also come in the room where I'm working and begin chuntering before he's even in the room but loudly enough to drown out the audio book I'm listening to while working. And then take offence when I switch off the book, saying "oh, leave it on, I don't mind"

No, but I can't listen to 2 things at once!

Drives me mad. My DS tries to watch YouTube while I’m watching TV or driving with the radio on. Argh!

Completely agree!!

Yadnbu stbexh used to do this and it drove me batty, ds also does it but less so. I am very sensitive to noise though and have trouble with competing sounds anyway so it can give me quite a sicky feeling

I've been really bad with this since working in an office which was open plan but each department liked to listen to different things. And it drove me mad. Just constant clashing noises.

My DH is a bugger for watching a random Facebook video on his phone while I'm watching TV so I'll just mute the TV until he finishes.

I have ASD. This type of thing is one of my nightmares. Argh!

I find it so rude! DH will walk into our small kitchen while I’m on the phone and start playing his music (usually followed by me swearing at him and then him leaving). I don’t get it either.

I get stabby about this too. DC will already be watching TV downstairs, DH will go upstairs and put music on really loud (stairs are in front room so noise travels) so I'm listening to two sets of conflicting noise. Drives me effing nuts I'm generally noise intolerant too - DSs toddler tantrums being a particular source of pain atm

I agree 100% with adults. Turns me stabby, quickly. It’s inconsiderate and rude.

I tolerate it with the kids because I prefer to have them in the main part of the house/with me, than in their bedrooms or on headphones (I don’t stop them doing either) I like knowing what they’re doing and I like that they want to be with me. Hence I tend to be on MN or reading...(or end up watching with them sometimes) more than watching TV etc when they’re up.

But adults...NO. They’d get told, firmly!

Absolutely. We're anti-open plan living here. Big fans of doors.

So glad other people feel the same way, I absolutely hate but my DH doesn't seem to care. I can be listening to music and then he puts something on in his phone. I don't mind turning my music off, just ask, but 2 songs at once drives me crazy.

YANBU. It’s like people who just turn on the tv and leavd it running all day.

yanbu I hate this. like if me and DD are listening to music (usually Disney!) and dh comes in and puts football on. you can't have football noise and music on at the same time I hate it. one noise at a time.

Yup! Often DH and I are meant to be watching a specific programme ( albeit looking at phones at same time) and I'll suddenly hear some stupid video start up on his phone. I just give him a death glare or pause the tv until he turns it off/down!

YANBU. DH will have the TV on, the radio on in the kitchen (not switched off from being on for the dogs in the day), and then start watching something on his phone. It melts my brain.

YANBU. I hate this.

We have three kids and they are all well aware that only one set of noise is allowed in a room at one time. If it's me using the electric mixer with kitchen door open whilst the tv is on in the living room I need to close the door.
If the telly is on then the iPads/kindles/iPhones are on quiet or used with earphones.
The Xbox on the main tv is hushed and earphones used for the benefit of someone streaming a show on the laptop in the same room. If the landline rings then everyone shuts up for the call or until the person leaves the room with the phone. It's all just basic manners.

Two people struggling to hear what they're watching is pointless.

We're a tech mad family and still manage to enjoy our devices without stopping someone else enjoying theirs.

I hate competing sounds. Dp’s family tend to play loud music a lot, even while having conversations. I can’t focus on a word they’re saying!

Yeah, that’s not ok. In fact it’s incredibly rude.

I don’t like two lots of noise at the same time. My ASD 9yo finds it annoying. The rest of the household are fine with it.

I have however just had to start telling them all to stop when the grandparents are around. All three of the remaining grands have a degree of hearing loss, so if DH starts strumming away on his guitar, he may be able to keep up conversation (well, he thinks he can, actually he can't, but that's another story.....) but they now can’t follow the conversation.

Omg this drives me absolutely potty DP will have the tv on, so like football or something, then start watching something full volume on his phone, but this is over DS who has the iPad playing wheels on the bus or something all at the same time.

He sees no issue and gets arsey if I ask him to mute/pause the TV if he's going to watch a video full volume. And he thinks I have sensory issues to do with noise 🙄

Oh so he totally is being unreasonable! Most excellent! I shall use this to my advantage :) Fair play to people who can focus on more than one noise at a time, my brain feels like it is tearing itself in half if I try to listen to a podcast while the extractor fan in our kitchen is on.